Am I undesirable if I’m too tight/not experienced sexually to guys?

[Anonymous]

Hello,

I am in my early to mid 20s, and I have never had sex. I’ve been fingered, I’ve been kissed, I’ve dated around but I just haven’t really felt comfortable with a guy to have wanted to do that yet. I want to become more brave however, I worry I’m too tight right now, and I worry that will ruin an experience for the guy. I also worry that my lack of experience is a turn off. How do I stop worrying so much? Am I overthinking it? I recently got a vibrator toy that goes inside me, and it’s a lot bigger than I thought it’d be (I ordered it online,) and it won’t go inside me. It’s made me worry that I won’t be able to get a penis inside me as well. Pls, I want to stop worrying, pls someone reassure me!

[Insaniacthemaniac]

To be completely honest with you on paper your literally my exact type of girl and im sure many men would agree, the fact you value yourself enough to not go around sleeping with loads of guy is something myself and many good men respect and value a lot in a women. So yes you high value, think about it... men want a women that no one else has had, no man wants a women that everyone has had. Also when it comes to being tight thats actually a really good thing because when its too loose there is no sensation. Maybe you should buy a smaller vibrator and stretch it slowly. I hope this helps!

-insaniac

[summiter]

You are overthinking it a little. Take your time with the vibe and put some lube on it... go slow. Guys will not worry that you are too tight. For the first few times make sure the guy goes very slowly and I would highly suggest using lube like KY or Astroglide. Oh yeah don't ever forget to use condoms every time! Hang in there!

[Guy13]

Overthinking

[Honest-Matt]

You've got nothing to worry about. Most times when a guy finds out you're a virgin, they'll be understanding and helpful. If your vibrator is too big (for now), start out with fingers and lube. And that's the big pro tip, lube is very helpful. Get a water based lube, Durex sells some and just ease yourself into things.

[andreasderjuengere]

My view: ''tight'' is one of the best things to feel for a man.

Or: nicely trained muscles respectively.

The only thing I'd be worried about would be to 'hurt' my girl or to give her pain. But that's just a question of being ''slow'' and understanding enough.

[tfan1]

Relax, enjoy the feeling, rub your clitoris and use lots of lube whether you get wet or not 🙂

[Iron_Man]

No don’t give it up

[jeremy_09]

Too tight is very desirable.

[Kai95]

You’re just stuck in your head, you need to clear your head and just enjoy the feeling, no thing such as too tight exists your vagina is hella impressive once it slides in, it’ll adjust itself if you’re relaxed not worrying about every little detail, experience comes from experience. So experience it :)

[Stevefiveo]

I don't think you can be too tight. Yes, you are overthinking it. But don't be afraid to tell the guy your feelings. When you find the right guy , you should feel comfortable enough around him. Good luck.

[maximumpower]

Not necessarily undesirable, but many tend to avoid those without experience - they don't know what they want and can be frustrating.

[Asker]

Well at least I have my hand

[Twalli]

The penis will generally fit. It will probably hurt, because it will break your hymen. It will fit though. Also my girlfriend was an inexpierenced virgin at 33.

[In_Trance]

Stop