Amount of sex with your significant other?

[Stevefiveo]

How often to you have sex with your significant other verses how much you want to have sex with your significant other? What is preventing you from reaching that goal? Could it be a new year's resolution?

[Reece12345]

I have no sex at all with my SO. Things just fizzled out a long time ago and I don't know why. No passion on either side.

I've been using my right hand to pleasure myself for several years now. Lol I have to admit that I get aroused when the wind blows.

[Truth0225]

Are you guys still planning to continue the marriage?

[Apple1996]

Why are you still with your so then? Seems pointless to be in sexless marriage

[Reece12345]

@Apple1996 We have a kid. My parents separated and it kind of fucked me up. No way will I do that to my son.

[Stevefiveo]

Have you tried couples counseling?

[Reece12345]

Absolutely no she will ever do that. She doesn't believe in therapy.

[Stevefiveo]

Well, ask to talk to her and explain to her that the current situation is not working. You two need therapy. Nothing is going to happen unless you two make a change.

[Reece12345]

You're right. Least I can do is try to make it work on my end (I mean, more than I have already). Not easy cause I don't have much passion anymore but yeah I really should make an effort.

[Apple1996]

I don't blame you. Divorce is tough on a kid but I do think y'all need help or a way to figure out how to repair things

[Stevefiveo]

Thanks. Good luck. If you are going to insist on staying together. You two should at least try. One question that might get the ball rolling is "what can I do to make your day better?". Or "what can I do to make this year better for you?"

[Charliefretz329]

Sucks , similar situation here. No good solution

[Apple1996]

@Charliefretz329 awh that is sad 😔

[Reece12345]

@Apple1996 Thanks, I appreciate the advice. And yeah, you're right.

[Reece12345]

Yeah, definitely a good start. Thanks for the advice.

[Reece12345]

thanks for the MHO

[Twalli]

We aim for once every other day, but ideally, we'd do it every day, we just sometimes have other things we are doing and don't "have time". That is only when we're actually together since we don't live together.

[Stevefiveo]

That would be hard if you don't live together.

[Twalli]

That's why we do it almost daily when we are together

[Stevefiveo]

Great, hopefully you two can live together in the new year.

[Twalli]

COVID-19 is still an issue. Until it is truly gone, we can't.

[Anonymous]

Boyfriends want sex one or two times a day. I would be ok with a few times a week, but I do it whenever they want to because they need it.

[Stevefiveo]

That's good that you realize he needs it.

[Charliefretz329]

You’re amazing

[Apple1996]

Usually every other day but I'd like everyday

[Stevefiveo]

Why doesn't your significant other want to every day?

[Apple1996]

He just doesn't have the same drive as me

[Stevefiveo]

That is too bad. Would he give you oral or finger you on his days off?

[Apple1996]

Nah I just take care of myself on those off days

[Stevefiveo]

Does he know that you have to take care of it yourself?

[Apple1996]

Yess he 100% knows that I masturbate all the time

[Stevefiveo]

If I was in the situation I would feel that I wasn't doing my job and that I would need to step up. I wonder why he doesn't have that same sense of guilt.

[SnowedIn]

We have sex pretty much daily. We're in a good place on how often we have sex.

[Charliefretz329]

Rarely. When we’re on good terms it’s maybe 1 time a week. She just isn’t into it much anymore. And when she’s upset, which is often now, it’s zero for maybe months.

[DadSavagery]

If we're on good terms/she isn't fixated on some new drama maybe once every week or two, at worst we've gone five months without anything more than a quick obligatory peck in passing. Personally I would be content with a couple times a week which is what we discussed when we first started dating, but she got that ring and shut down shop like most women and that's all she wrote.