Anal sex? Pros and cons?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend is wanting to try anal sex, me? I'm still thinking if I should or not. He is understanding and respecting my wishes to think about this because it's a very big decision to make for me. I was wondering for those who HAVE tried it could tell me the pros and cons to it. Also, if we do do it we will be using a condom. But I was wondering... Does it hurt? Does feces come out? If so, does it leak everywhere or remain on the condom? Is there anything I should know before trying it?

[BlueCoyote]

I've tried both giving and receiving anal. I'm not gay or bisexual but the reason I've also experienced anal is because I wanted to know what it feels like. It might seem a little odd but I'm an extremely curious and inquisitive person and I wanted to at least know what it's like. I also felt like I should be willing to try it myself if I want my girlfriend to take my dick up her butt. Only then can I really say to her that I understand her. Seems only fair. So I tried it with a dildo on my own two or three times.

Giving: Giving anal can be very hot and intense. It doesn't feel much different from having your penis inside a pussy but because the anus is more tight, the feeling is even stronger. It can give the guy a lot of pleasure. On the other hand, the guy also has to watch out that he goes slowly and gently. Also, condoms are generally a good idea. I've done it with my girlfriend without condoms because we've been together for many years and haven't had sex with anyone else. Now, while we weren't at danger of catching any STDs, I still noticed that the tube inside my penis burned a little after having anal sex. It was perhaps because a tiny bit of poop went inside of it. It wasn't a health risk or anything like that and it went away after a day or so but it was still a little uncomfortable. So wearing a condom might be a good idea.
Also, a little bit of poop does stick to the penis but if you do it the right way, it's really just a tiny bit. The trick is that you should use the toilet and get everything out of your intestines several hours before you have anal sex. That way, you can be pretty sure that it won't be a mess. It was never a problem for my girlfriend and me. Also, if you've been together as a couple for a while, these kind of things don't bother you anymore. I don't get bothered about my girlfriend's poop. We're too intimate to worry about these things ;-).

Receiving anal on the other hand is not a very pleasant thing. Of course this is only my personal experience here but I didn't really like it. It doesn't hurt as long as you prepare yourself well and take a lot of lube but it doesn't feel nice either. I've read a few weeks ago that even among homosexual couples, only about 30% of guys actually have anal sex. I can see why that is. I believe that there are people out there who find it very hot and that is nice for them but personally, it didn't exactly turn me on... neither physically nor mentally.

[JoeCensored]

Pro's:
* Super hot!
* Tighter and can feel significantly better than a vagina

Con's:
* Can be uncomfortable or even painful, especially if he doesn't ease you into it or lube properly
* Condoms will compound uncomfortable and lube issues
* Without a condom can give him a urinary tract or prostate infection

Feces would only "leak everywhere" if you were doing anal while also fighting diarrhea.

The way I ease a girl into it is start with having normal sex, then after she orgasms a couple times I work a finger into her ass while still having sex. Try to be gentle, and keep it wet. Make it a pleasant addition to vaginal sex, not something on its own. Do this for between one and three months. After that continue with the same strategy, but expand to 2 fingers. Eventually get more aggressive and insert fingers earlier on during sex. After several months of getting used to regular anal play during sex do I attempt inserting my penis. Be gentle, and only do this after starting with vaginal sex. Stimulate her clit while inserting. Ease it in slowly, no need to rush. To start with, use only slow short strokes, while still stimulating the clit. Only after she is used to it do I move on to longer, harder, and faster strokes. Give your boyfriend this advice. It is very easy for a guy to screw this up and make his girl never want to try it again. Good luck.

[fauchelevent]

It can hurt. It hurts a little at first when you start preparing, but as long as you go slowly and you use a lot of lube and you try and stay relaxed, then it's nowhere near as bad as you think. Mostly it's just slightly uncomfortable. I recommend taking like half an hour of preparation, working up to three fingers and also using a butt plug to help.

Unless you have an enema or time it absolutely perfectly, then there's always going to be a little tiny bit of feces. That's totally normal, it happens with everyone. It's not a lot (in my experience, there's less than a fingertip of it), so just have a towel handy and wipe it away. It's no big deal. Whenever I've done it, there's been a little on his finger but then absolutely none on the butt plug, so it's not like it's gonna come pouring out or cover the condom :P

I'm not sure how to do a pros and cons... Um, pros for me is that it feels pretty good. Cons is that it's harder to cum from than vaginal sex, but most women don't cum from penetration alone anyway, so either just touch your clit (or have him touch it), have oral after he's done, or bring a vibrator in.

[Asker]

Thank you! This really helped me. But I also heard that the first time you do it the girl should take control and push back first so she gets comfortable instead of the male pushing in, is that true?

[JuicyBrain]

@Asker It is a very good idea that you take control especially on your first time. Don't forget that he doesn't get feedback in the form of pain, you do.

[fauchelevent]

No problem :) Yeah, that can help. If you're worried about him going too quickly and it hurting, then I recommend it. I didn't and I let him push in, but it would work either way, it's all about who you want to take control. A word of advice, I personally don't recommend trying doggy style for the first time, but it's what most people go for because easy access. Doggy style offers really deep penetration, and if you're worried about it hurting, then that's not really what your'e going to want. I recommend trying spooning. If you lie on your side with one leg raised, that's generally the best position (that's the position your doctor would put you in for a rectal exam, because it opens the anus up more and makes things easier), because it puts him in a good position to thrust into you, but it keeps it pretty shallow so that it won't hurt as much as other positions.

[HookingSwan]

Im actually curious about one thing... Does practicing anal sex eventually stretch ur butt hole? Meaning... Does it get looser? Or only temporarely after the act?

[fauchelevent]

@HookingSwan No, it doesn't :) Obviously, it stretches whilst you're having sex and it'll probably feel a little weird for a little while afterwards (like maybe a day?) but it's a muscle, so it stretches back to the same position, kinda like when you flex your arm muscles or how the vagina regains its tightness after childbirth :)

[HookingSwan]

Haha. Thanks for clearing that up for me :D

[TripleAce]

Ok so if it's slightly uncomfortable why do you even do anything that's uncomfortable, just in life... you know what I mean?

[fauchelevent]

@TripleAce Because it feels good too. Vaginal sex is a little uncomfortable, that doesn't mean that I shouldn't do it because eventually, it stops being uncomfortable pretty quickly :) I get what you mean though.

[Anonymous]

Of course feces comes out its your butt hole! Did you think it was going to disappear? Lol poop will get on his dick and the heat his dick creates while thrusting will activate the poop smell even more

[SomeGuy37]

Ladies, think about it. Only do this if he lets you have his bottom first!! 'Turnabout is Fair Play,' and if your guy won't let you 'love' his bottom with a toy, why should you let him have his way with yours? Anal sex can be incredibly enjoyable for both sexes.
I am not at all against anal play among consenting adults, but if you want to play that way, you should be willing to receive, as well as 'give'!
A little 'role-reversal' never hurt anyone, really. . .

[JuicyBrain]

Use lots of lube. If you are well prepared, it's pleasant (or so I've been told). You need time and stretching before you can do it without hurting. You start with a little finger and go bigger and bigger as long as you are comfortable. You could get different plugs with different sizes. and go from one to the other. Yes, there can be feces. If your boyfriend is not ready to deal with it, then he should not play anywhere near your butt. It will normally mix with the lube and has been called Santorum (lol). It should remain on the condom but I guess it depends. Of course, you should go to the bathroom and get rid of as much as you can before you play... Good luck :-)

[Dragan]

Pros. No
Cons Disgusting, unnatural

[Jackblue]

cons
1. It is unhealthy and has a greater chance of spreading STD's
2. There is a good chance you will have a bowel movement. Having something shoved up there feels like a piece of poop is halfway up and your body will really want rid of it.
3. It is embarrassing to talk about.
Pros
none that I can think of

[SIGguy]

He'd better go slow, to avoid damaging internal organs and to give your butt time to adjust to being stretched out. Shoulda done that with my ex (though I wouldn't call her an ex because we weren't really together at the time).

[jakeofalltrades]

lube always helps, and there might be a little feces but he should know to expect that if he wants to do it. i know my girlfriend likes it so i don't think it hurts to much, but you might want to tell him to be gentle if you do decide to do it

[kiler1000]

as for the feces, just take a good shower... eesh...

[Anonymous]

Pros: feel's just as good if not less than vaginal sex.

Cons: it hurts and eternal damnation!

[Anonymous]

It feel good, just use lot of lube an be slowly, it could be clean also vice versa