Anal Sex: Why I Pretend To Be An Anal Virgin With Every Guy I Date

Anal Sex: Why I Pretend To Be An Anal Virgin With Every Guy I Date

When it comes to sex, I’m an open book. BDSM, threesomes, exhibitionism, sex tapes, the list goes on and on. I’m down to try any fantasy, and I’m not afraid to share that with my partner. I think the only way to have a sound relationship is to be open, whether that means sharing past experiences or future fantasies. That being said, the only lie I’ll ever tell is that I lost my anal virginity.

You may wonder why I’ll happily share details with my boyfriend about my girl-on-girl fling in the past, but lock up my backdoor experiences during long-term relationships, but what I’ve learned is that “anal” is the holy grail of sexual experiences. Whether it’s because so many girls refuse to try it, or perhaps simply because it’s a new hole they get to penetrate, but guys want an anal virgin, and that’s what I give them.

You see, most guys don’t expect to find a virgin girl in her thirties. Though most don’t care that you’ve slept with other guys before, they don’t always want to know the details. From what I’ve learned in my relationships, if a guy learns you HAVEN’T tried something, they will make it their goal to try that with you. It doesn’t mean they want to cross your boundaries, but they find it exciting and special to share a first with you.


I have always loved sex in every form, so satisfying my partner’s fantasies always turns me on. To me, exploring many fetishes is simply spicing up “regular sex” - it’s simply dressing up, trying new positions, or getting it on in new locations. I love it as much as he loves it, so getting kinky always hits the spot! However, anal sex involves something new. It’s crossing into foreign territories that many see as taboo. Though I would never lie and claim to be a virgin, I see no harm in keeping my anal experiences my little secret.


I’m sure many of you will think this is wrong, but keeping this one specific sexual act off limits holds a certain power. This doesn’t mean I’m manipulating him, but simply adding a little mystery to our sexcapades. Besides, if I give into all of my boyfriend’s fantasies early on in a relationship, it takes away from the buildup and anticipation. Everyone has secrets, and this is mine. What’s yours?

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  • I see your point and it has merit. When I was single, I had a rep in the scene of "kinkyfying" vanilla women. I found that if I got things going in the relationship and then talked to them about what I wanted, they were fascinated by their submissive nature, often not realizing it was there before. When i comes to anal sex, it's one of my very favorite sexual things. Men want anal sex for different reasons. I want it first to dominate and second to satisfy the sadist in me. They have all agreed to try it with me, even if they had an awful experience with it before. I'm a courtly, polite gentleman until the clothes come off and then I'm a very dominant sadist. They learn that I can sodomize them without it being too painful until they are ready to submit to a painful rectal reaming which they love.

    Lying about it seems pretty harmless as long as you are willing to go there. I'm esp fond of forceful, overpowering fantasies where I pin her down, spread her legs with mine, and use my weight to drop it all in one stroke, burying it balls deep while she struggles.

    • You are my kinda girl! " I'm esp fond of forceful, overpowering fantasies where I pin her down, spread her legs with mine, and use my weight to drop it all in one stroke, burying it balls deep while she struggles."

    • @Smmyskittles Glad to hear it unless my literal mind misses some sarcasm.

    • Aww, sad they changed us back to our genders. Was funny while it lasted. For actual sex, hell yes I mean it. Anal, nah, not my cup of tea.

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  • Of he gets excited over a poo hole... then he watches to much porn.. anal is not special at all.

    • its pretty gross to be honest

    • @Sad_Onion indeed it is

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I'm totally honest about loving anal.
    In fact I've turned a few guys, into becoming anal whores because of all of the things I've done with them.
    Lol! They find it such a disappointment when the girl they are with doesn't do it.
    Ahh, they call me talking about the good times.
    But its too bad... I've moved on with my life!

    • I've found out that there's 3 basic opinions of women on anal sex. 1st. NO way. 2nd. Tolerate it but not enjoy it 3rd. Love it I haven't been with a lot of women but the majority are in the first to groups.

    • Your my type of gal lol...

  • Wouldn't it be funny if your next boyfriend is also not a butt virgin and lies about it?

    • I have said it more than twice.

  • Anal is now out of the question for me. Never again.

    • Why? Did you have a boyfriend that didn't know what he was doing? During Anal Sex?

    • @wethepeople87 It's unnatural and painful.

    • Oh ok... thanks for responding back to me. Well here my opinion anal sex is as natural as your boyfriend or future husband wanting to please you cause he loves you. With flowers or making Dinner for the two of you. It a Form of Affection. If he's the one he will be gentle.

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  • Mine secret is exhibitionism. I maintain a set of photos on an amateur nudes website.

    You seem like my type of woman.

  • Hmm I would have liked a poll to see if this (the thrill) is true, alas it's a MyTake. I dunno, my boyfriend doesn't care about this and none of my other boyfriend's did. But I guess because it's uncharted territory, the lie is worth the thrill.

    • Virgins will always have the throne in every sex category.

  • My "secret" or no so secret, is that I don't mind prostate massage. Many straight guys have hangups about it, so it would probably take some women by surprise. I didn't even mention it to my ex-girlfriend because I figured she wouldn't be interested (she was a virgin and had pretty vanilla ideas about sex).

    I have never had anal sex with a woman, and I don't know if I would ever suggest it, but I'd be down to try it! The one thing I do know that I'd like is anal play outside of penetration, maybe with tongue or with toys like a butt plug (for her).

    The kind of woman who doesn't have hang-ups to try various kinky things on occasion is my type. Part of that is not just communicating what she likes, but also just having the attitude that they are open to that conversation even if I were to suggest it. Some women are very closed off and treat certain things like taboo, like swallowing for example or even wearing thongs, which doesn't inspire much excitement in the bedroom.

  • Personally, I never found the need to pretend anything to enjoy sex.

    PS: I liked your 'about me'

  • Most women pretend to have done less previously than what they actually have done, whether that means lying about never having had a one night stand or casual when they have, lying about the number of partners they've been with etc.

  • This is reasonable. Really good idea. Maybe in the future I will adopt it)

  • Are you saying that you tell the guy that you are an anal virgin or do you simply omit any references to anal sex and let them erroneously conclude that you are an anal virgin?

  • I can't believe the guys fall for that lol. I think they are just so psyched they don't care whether it is true or not, and then they have short term amnesia after the act.

  • Lmao this is disgusting.

    • no, you're just young and inexperienced...

    • @Sammy_J No, I'm just repulsed.

    • well, there are a lot of men who will never date you for it... maybe Mr. right is one of them.

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  • Excellent read. Dont think I would have ever concidered that about a woman.

  • I don't even care what your reasons are for pretending you're an anal virgin, I love you.

  • Makes sense to me! But I'm not a fan of discussing his or my numbers in general.
    Good read❤️

  • Lol that is a good idea. I like it. And in reply to the guy "most helpful " about the submissive part. You're right I think most women have it from nature. Feminists want to eradicate it. But we (btw I'm all for equality and I don't take shit from noone) we who dare explore it have great experiences

  • Interesting spin on a frequent topic on GaG. Thanks!

  • Why anyone talks about past sexual experiences I will never understand. but if you do, and your talking about all this outlandish shit, most guys are not going to believe you never did anal. But whatever. to pretend something like that isn't hurting him. but if he finds out your lying about something so silly, he is always going to wonder what else your lying about.

    • Neither do I. I've had one girl tell me about how she had sex with a guy in an alley, before I met her in person and thought why? None of the girls I've had sex with asked about sexual history/experiences before doing it. Just do you have a condom and are you clean?

    • @bloodmountain1990 exactly. STD's otherwise, I don't want to know.

    • There's no benefit to knowing past sex experiences.

  • I am ok with that little brown lie ! ;-)

  • For many its the holy grail but there are many girls doing that to preserve their virginity for marriage, so i think that has gone down a tad bit. Also supposedly in many europeon countries is like part of normal sex and not a "special treat" like the usa.

    Unless you are a hell of an actress, really tiny or have something you are using to make your asshole go back in shape. I am pretty sure i could tell if a girl was lying to me, but some guys are fooled.

    I think you should be honest. Strating out a relationship on lies is bad even if it seems minor.

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