Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
When it comes to sex, I’m an open book. BDSM, threesomes, exhibitionism, sex tapes, the list goes on and on. I’m down to try any fantasy, and I’m not afraid to share that with my partner. I think the only way to have a sound relationship is to be open, whether that means sharing past experiences or future fantasies. That being said, the only lie I’ll ever tell is that I lost my anal virginity.
You may wonder why I’ll happily share details with my boyfriend about my girl-on-girl fling in the past, but lock up my backdoor experiences during long-term relationships, but what I’ve learned is that “anal” is the holy grail of sexual experiences. Whether it’s because so many girls refuse to try it, or perhaps simply because it’s a new hole they get to penetrate, but guys want an anal virgin, and that’s what I give them.
You see, most guys don’t expect to find a virgin girl in her thirties. Though most don’t care that you’ve slept with other guys before, they don’t always want to know the details. From what I’ve learned in my relationships, if a guy learns you HAVEN’T tried something, they will make it their goal to try that with you. It doesn’t mean they want to cross your boundaries, but they find it exciting and special to share a first with you.
I have always loved sex in every form, so satisfying my partner’s fantasies always turns me on. To me, exploring many fetishes is simply spicing up “regular sex” - it’s simply dressing up, trying new positions, or getting it on in new locations. I love it as much as he loves it, so getting kinky always hits the spot! However, anal sex involves something new. It’s crossing into foreign territories that many see as taboo. Though I would never lie and claim to be a virgin, I see no harm in keeping my anal experiences my little secret.
I’m sure many of you will think this is wrong, but keeping this one specific sexual act off limits holds a certain power. This doesn’t mean I’m manipulating him, but simply adding a little mystery to our sexcapades. Besides, if I give into all of my boyfriend’s fantasies early on in a relationship, it takes away from the buildup and anticipation. Everyone has secrets, and this is mine. What’s yours?
What Girls & Guys Said
26 65Are you sure? I see the appeal but I don't want to try anal at all.
I have never shared or understood the appeal of anal sex.
If I wanted to get shit on my cock, I would have turned queer.
You are the epitome of why I think women are untrustworthy and manipulative. I fucking hate women who lie. Many other men feel the same way.
Stop lying to men. Seriously.
You lie and thats a big turn off.
I dont expect a saint or a the virgin marie, but cmon really
by the way anal sex is not a big deal, is fun yea but not as much as u think it is for guys
so you're manipulating him. sounds like a good way to get dumped when he finds out.
I'd rather have a girl who is experienced and knows what's going on and what she likes. I don't have to be the first. In fact, I'd rather not.
I just want to hear I'm the best. Or good enough :-)
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Smh Na fam, no disrespect but that's disgusting.
I don't have any secrets but there are things I don't openly share.
What happens if he asks?
I think a lot of women do this... and some even pretend to not like it when you meet them, only to be "easily" convinced to do it. Clearly it's a cultural issue we still wrestle with in some countries.
That said, I've been with genuine anal virgins and I've been with "fake" virgins, as well as "pro's"... The first category is always easy to tell... there is way more pain than pleasure and they usually have to abort the mission very early on, and try later.. The later two are absolutely amazing and many of them orgasm in the process... Only last week I went out with a "virgin" and she ended up asking for it in her ass more than up front...
How easily it went in and how quickly I was able to spool up (using nothing more than her natural vaginal juices as lube) was quite telling... but I let her think I believed her.
A) the holy grail isn't anal. That's almost expected in today's modern age. I would say threesomes are men's holy grail.
B) I expect white lies in a relationship, including lies about partner count and sex acts. So when a girl tells me anything about that sort of stuff, I take it with a pinch of salt.
Great text
I love anal
Please don't lie about that. Ego coddling and supporting those unreal fantasies can damage current and future relationships. I'd be fine with the truth. You wouldn't have to be a conquest for me.
Hehe. I see your point. No harm , no foul. Thats pretty nice of you to do. Lucky boyfriends you have/had ;-)
This is exactly why men don't believe women when they say they're virgins.
Her underwear looks like it has holes in it.
I just tell all the girls I date I'm a virgin, works like a charm :)
I have had anal sex with a girl, she loved it, I didn't think it was that great tbh.
I completely understand your point. Nothing wrong with trying to make a guy feel special.
lol i'd be happy if she did anal that means less work for me to convince her
You are awesome.