Any sex tips to improve sex when you like a thick penis and he is average?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is the one. I love him a lot and he has many things that are just a perfect match. But I have identified that I don't feel satisfied in bed.

He does a lot of things: teases me, is worried about my pleasure, and has a good physical condition so he offers me great sex. And still, I don't cum not feel satisfied. I have been thinking about that and I realize that the times I enjoyed sex was when my partner had a thick penis.

I remember my ex and a hook-up. They were nothing special in bed, they gave poor oral sex, But still, I remember myself as more satisfied than now.

I want to get married to my boyfriend because sex is not everything, but I want to improve my sex life. Any advice?

[Bricealan]

Not an easy answer, and I am checking "No replies" as I don't want any "Trolling' comments from other members. A girlfriend I had several years ago, and we were not intimate, were discussing just that, penis size. Walking out of work in the parking lot, she got close to me and made a 'circle' with her thumb and middle finger and said: "Most women, prefer Thick". I found out the hard way that having sex with someone at work, was a no-no, and had been for me prior. Anyway it made my day since I have a very thick penis, and chose to 'let sleeping dogs lay" and never said anything. ( honest to god, no "trolling' intended with that comment)

My sex experience has told me that most/many women do notice a thick penis quicker than they do a long one, and I suppose for the reasons you referred to.

Not sure what the substitute is for a 'not so thick penis" but seems like you have a good relationship in every other way? There must be some way to make it more satisfying, but can't suggest what that might be.

[ManOnFire]

Sorry you're dealing with such inner conflict, that's a pretty hard thing to deal with, when someone is not sexually satisfied. And the penis thing can be a really hard one for a woman - pardon the pun. But I don't think the improvement would necessarily have to be done on your end, it would have to be your boyfriend to try to come up with the right knack to please you, since he's the one with the not so thick dick.

[Asker]

Thank you. I feel he Is really wants to, but I don't know how to guide him.

[ManOnFire]

Is he aware that he has a not so thick dick?

[Asker]

I think so. One time he told me "mine is average". And I will say something very personal, but I can see the anatomical differences when I do blow jobs: with the guys I like it the most, I was barely able to breathe while doing it, with him I can have it in my mouth and breathe at the same time.

[ManOnFire]

Then he must be somewhat small, yeah. But then the good thing about being able to breathe giving head means you could probably deepthroat him with no trouble at all lol. He could always go the penile implant route, although I imagine it's extremely expensive, assuming he's not making 6 figures or anything.

[FrankCastle36]

Don't!!! Leave him, and don't put him through the torture of knowing he will NEVER be able to make you feel like your ex upon penetration. It is cruel.

[PeanutbutterAnd]

My boyfriend was a bit of a slim Jim, and we accidentally found a solution. He was doing me doggy with a dildo. I liked it, but then I told him I wanted his dick. I think he misunderstood, so he put his dick in, but kept the dildo in place. It was the first time I came from penetration. He sensed that this time was different, and he asked me about it. I told him I had an orgasm. I was afraid he would be upset, but he's a real trooper. He liked that, and it's never come up in conversation again. When guys online say that size doesn't matter, I know they've never been to a sex toy shop. lol

[Asker]

Thank you so much! I have a question, so now you guys use a harness for the dildo, or how do you guys match the dildo movements with his dick? I will definitely try!

[PeanutbutterAnd]

No harness, because he hasn't suggested it. I'm reluctant to suggest things, so it will be up to him to suggest it. But a harness and or a sleeve, makes perfect sense. They have tons of them in the toy shops, so I'm guessing they sell. lol

[vj0090]

@peanutbutter - was it that enjoyable?

[PeanutbutterAnd]

@vj0090 Orgasms are enjoyable.

[vj0090]

Ooh yeah... with a sexy girl like u.. m sure it's way too enjoyable haha

[Asker]

Thanks girl!

[PeanutbutterAnd]

It's a difficult subject to bring up, and I can't think of a way to bring it up.

[vj0090]

Can I dm you please.. allow me..

[Wendysbitterapple]

You definitely need to guide him in the right direction try different moves it's not all about the size

[Asker]

do you will say is a matter of rhythm and positions?

[Wendysbitterapple]

Yes it is. Sometimes you have to teach them the right way to do things that you enjoy. At the end of the day just want to be satisfied

[Asker]

Thanks a lot for your answer. I will.

[Mrgoodstuff62]

Do you have tips for a woman who is used to taking a thick 9 inches?

[ushagomez]

I guess you could try wrapping a load of gaffer tape around it…..

[summiter]

Is he giving you good oral? Talk to him about it... it is ok to talk about sex after all. Do different positions help? Maybe get a vibrator and teach him how to use it on you and give yourself a great orgasm before sex? How often are you two having sex? Maybe increase the frequency or get him to go for round 2 or 3?

[Wisdom-Strength-Love]

Squeeze your in thighs when possible
Or buy him a penis ring. Stimulates for both of you

[Dargil]

Once he is "in place" close your legs firmly. Adjust it to allow adequate movement.

[andreasderjuengere]

If that's your preference: change for as 'bigger' guy. Because HE won't be able to change.

Or wrap duct tape to his shaft until it pleases your physical desires.

[FilmGuy93]

You might get some more tightness by keeping your legs squeezed together.

[tfan1]

See if he will wear a penis sleeve

[DextroShade]

Yes, don't use vibrators or things like that on yourself because it will desensitize you much like porn desensitizes men, because just as real women can't compete with porn stars a man can't compete with the Jackhammer 9000.

[BarryLiverstone]

Was a thicker penis the only difference? Because it sounds like you currently have a very attentive and loving guy but I’m wondering if you want him to desire you more or act more like your ex in the bedroom. And if you are hesitant to talk to him and ask him for different things?

[Asker]

Thank you for your answer. That is the thing, I think. I love the way he is in bed. I feel more physically attracted to him, I feel a very strong sexual connection and similarities: he is my dream "man" and that is why I have been thinking that the thickness is the problem, because I love the rest. I prefer the way he is to my ex used to be, and that is why I would like to find a solution on my side.

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome. What I was hinting at tbh is it sounds like with your ex there was some sexual tension in how he treated you and that edge was a turn on for you. Certainly sounds like your boyfriend is your dream man and you want him more than anyone else. But remember that sexual desire isn’t always rainbows and hearts. Only you can know how your mind and body reacts in the bedroom but I would challenge you to think was there more of an edge or even some negatives your ex had that brought out your desire and sexual drive. If you can find that aspect then you can communicate with your boyfriend and he can learn how to better satisfy you. Does that make sense?

[BarryLiverstone]

Also consider that you may have felt more attractive than your ex and that could have been exciting for you as well. If you are believing your boyfriend is better looking than you are then that self doubt may not be letting you open your body and mind during sex. Obv this is a guess on my part and only you could know.

[Asker]

Yes it really does. But I was referring also to the sexual desire and tension. He is my "dream man" because, sexually speaking, he is into the same type of tension as me: soft BDMS, similar sexual fantasies, same flirting style and inclinations. That is why I feel so frustrated. He has done some of the things I always wanted in bed (from fantasies to moves and positions) and I don't get why I can't feel as satisfied as before. I ended up thinking of anatomical reasons.

[Asker]

This also makes sense. I agree there is some kind of openness and comfort to enjoy sex. I will think about it. Thanks for such thoughtful answers.

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome. Oh ya if he is meeting your fantasies and you are not feeling satisfied that frustration can certainly lead you to block sexual desire. Happy to help you out but no I don’t think based on your feedback that dick size is all that is the solution.

[BarryLiverstone]

Also tbh I wonder if he needs to go beyond soft.

[Asker]

Yes, you're right. About the soft thing, I don't think so. He wants to, but I have passed some of my limits to see if that was related, but no. I don't like it that hard.

[BarryLiverstone]

I can tell you are worried about this and you want to get orgasms and release because you love this man. I’ll just add that expecting an orgasm every time you have a sexual session may not help right now as he is still learning you. It’s freeing if you bluntly tell him that you love him and if you tell him you really enjoy sex even if you don’t always release. There could be things going on in your life and your mind could be distracted. Overall I hope you relax more and put less pressure on yourself; enjoy the intimacy and keep wanting him Lott and more over time

[Asker]

You're very wise. It does not have to be an orgasm over and over again. I will focus also in my stress. Thank you very much for your answers!

[hbg84]

1. That's a you issue not boyfriend issue.
You've had your vjj torn apart. Now you think you can only get off by having large penis or toys.
2. You keep comparing your current boyfriend top past bfs. Until you stop comparing them you'll never be fulfilled no matter what he does.
3. Once you stop comparing start doing kegels and other vaginal strengthening exercises. Abstain from sex for awhile at least vaginal sex. Try anal sex. Google vaginal strengthening.
4. You're blaming your boyfriend for something that is beyond his control. Sad thing is he's going above and beyond to make you happy and yet here you complaining about him to the internet.

So you can take my advice or not choice is yours.

[Wise4myage]

Google karma Sutra.

[BryanMoore]

Find the positions and things that work for you! Have an honest and open conversation, hell, you can even introduce toys or an "extender" for him if you want!

[In_Trance]

right now, he's posting "how to improve sex when you like tight pussy and she's loose"

[Guardian45]

Monster dildo or negotiate guest stars.

[Tellme]

I'd say keep your legs more together. That should already help.

Is he circumcised already? That also helps so you can feel the head and the rim of the head better.

[Asker]

Yes, he Is. But I think I enjoyed not circumcised more, why you metioned it as better?

[Tellme]

I think not circumcised guys move quite a bit inside their foreskin, which the woman can't feel. Whereas a circumcised penis is more like a dildo which provides more friction. But yes, it would be very interesting to hear more about your experience. You can DM me if you like to further discuss it.

[JayR161]

I understand that feeling of being just average, years ago I was dating a woman and she finally told me that she couldn't do it anymore that my average size penis wasn't finishing the job she suggested that I try a extension sleeve. If you look it up on say Adam and Eve you will find that extension please come in various roughness and have a thickness and length to your own penis they also have places where you can insert a vibrator so your actual penis is vibrating. All I can say is it's reusable it's it's comfortably over the penis like a condom and she loved how I was thick I was vibrating and I was longer at the same time

[Asker]

great answer, thank you. Using an extension sleeve you still enjoyed the sex? I don't want him to loss pleasure because of it.

[JayR161]

Well they give you four different styles of sleeves and the vibrator comes with it so it's just another added feature for his pleasure too

[Anonymous]

So ur boyfriend doesn’t have a good size dick? 🤔

[Anonymous]

so the problem is only with the thickness? what about his length, is it enough?

[Asker]

Yes, only the thickness.

[Opinion Owner]

no position help?

[Asker]

Yes, there are some specifics that feel better, but still I can't get "to that point"

[Opinion Owner]

you never orgasmed with him from penetration?

[Asker]

I think only a couple of times.

[Opinion Owner]

do you think he would be okay with you using toys? because let's face it he won't be able to increase his thickness.