Any tips for me and my boyfriend who are sexually inexperienced?

Both me and my boyfriend were virgins last week. We had our first sex a few days ago. I admit I didn't enjoy it but I already saw it coming since I was 'virgin'. Any tips for us?
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  • If you can't talk about it you aren't ready to do it.

    Sex is like food, everyone has different tastes so if you like pineapple on pizza you shouldn't be sharing pizza with someone who thinks putting pineapple on pizza is a crime against humanity.

    Anything and everything is ok between consenting adults.

    CONSENT is the most important word in the world of sex.

    The mind is at least as important as the body with regard to sexual satisfaction. probably far more so. So if you are caught up with thoughts of insecurity or privacy etc and are unable to relax and live in the moment you are unlikely to be able to have a good experience or the experience will not be what it could or would have been under different circumstances.

    Pulling out should not be considered a method of birth control.

    Condoms should not be considered to be a reliable long term method of birth control.

    Condoms are the only way to protect against stds but they do not protect against everything and with a 98% effectiveness rate they will fail statistically speaking every 3 months or so assuming you have sex once per day (so if you are having sex 10 times a day that becomes about 10 days hence why i say that condoms should not be considered a long term method of birth control.)

    Some women dont get on with various types of birth control so you have to find something that works for you.

    • I didn't enjoy it clearly because it was a but painful when he entered. But thank you for your information. Yes, we talked about it but i still need tips from experienced ones.

    • Regarding the mechanics and technique etc I would suggest you focus on communicating with your partner, sharing your ideas and giving each other feedback about how things feel etc. You could also look for instructions on the internets for that sort of thing.

    • Okayy, thank youuu guff

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  • Nothing is more impprtant than communication.

    Nobody knows how you feel, but you. Talking to each other will help you learn what each other like. Don't be afraid to be honest with each other. Too many people make the mistake of being embarrassed, and don't let their partner know what feels good, or are afraid to ask for something.

    Don't be afraid to experiment, and try new things, but don't push each other to do things you're not ready for, either. Sex should be fun, for both partners, and no pressure. Laugh at yourselves when things go wrong, because they will.

    Just enjoy the moment together.

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  • Your hymen was torn, it should be less painful next time.

  • Let it progress naturally as you both have the desire.

    • Sorry, re read the question after answering as though you still had not had sex.

  • Go slowly. Learn what he likes and he needs to learn what you like. Foreplay can be the best part. So can the afterglow.
    Both of you need to remember that it's less about your genitals than you realize. For starters each of you a whole body with all sorts of happy spots to enjoy while your genitals do their things. The connection you are making together is the point much lees than the orgasms are
    For him. Get down there. Start out slowly with your tongue, but after that there is no part of your face that shouldn't be involved.

    This is how it's supposed to be done!
    This is how it's supposed to be done!

    Also for him. You came? Great. Try and get her to cum also. For a lot of women it's scary though. A huge build up of things happening and some women will fight it.
    For her. Don't fight it. Let the wave build and wash over you

    • Thank youu so much for this

  • Communication. Take things slowly. Masturbate so that you know what feels good to you. Mutual masturbation so that you can show each other what feels good. Don't feel that you have to do or try anything that you don't want to. Have fun!

    • Thank youu so much

    • Also, lube is your friend.

  • That's not at all uncommon, but just keep having sex and hopefully things will get better.

  • Yeah keep doing it. Usually the first time is not especially if your both virgins and inexperienced. If you keep doing it get better and you both will who what likes. It just take time and practice to really start enjoying sex.

  • just go slow and relax, stop putting so much pressure that it has to be good, y'all learning

  • It should start feeling foid after a while. I don't know hiw long. My sister said it hurt the first 5 times, but less each time. My girlfriend said it never hurt, but that could be because I accidentally broke her hymen earlier

  • Dear god, use protection. Pulling out doesn’t count.

    • Yeah, thanks

    • Also don’t be afraid to talk about it. My wife wasn’t feeling it, and she just dismounted me, forced my head between her legs and used my hair like joysticks. Best. Sex. Ever.

    • Hahahahaha okaay

  • Take it slow, explore yourselves, get comfortable and then try things. You'll get to know what works and what doesn't and your sex will improve

  • Never do bass to mouth!

  • Experiment.

    You won't know what you like until you've tried it.

    My ex and I were virgins. The first time was beautiful emotionally, but it didn't feel good.

    • Sameee, good emotionally Hahaha

  • get a kinky movie and do everything they do

  • Just have fun take your time

  • Yes. You should do it more often with lots of foreplay. You have to communicate with each other regarding the sex, make it fun and worth it, I bet you didn't have any foreplay when you had sex the first time, I'm sure he just put it in and that is what not to do..

    Try and find out what he wants you to do in the bedroom, whilst trying to tell him what you want him to do to you.. Communication is key

    • We had a foreplay tho. What i meant I didn't enjoy was about the pain i felt when he entered.

  • Enjoy each other. Take your time exploring what you like and don't get pressured to act out porn. Just experiment and enjoy each other's bodies.

    • Yes, we're definitely doing that. Thank youu!