Anyone have hookups or friends with benefits where you only give handjobs/fingering?

[Anonymous]

How did it go? Or do you think this idea is silly. Want to have fun but avoid stds...

[katkittie55]

Yup I've done it plenty of times, pretty normal with just handjobs. I'm doing it right now, but with blowjobs instead.

[Asker]

very cool! but how do you talk with guys about what you want, instead of just having sex? And guys don't think it's childish you don't want sex?

[katkittie55]

Well guys will almost always initiate the conversation and if that's all I want to do then I just tell them what im willing to do. And a lot of times they're ok with that. If they aren't then you stick to your guns and tell them then it won't work.

[Asker]

Wow. So easy and awesome. TY!

[katkittie55]

Lol yeah you'd be surprised how easy it really is.

[AliceVel5]

had that offered to me once, but i am still a virgin so its not for me

[Asker]

He just offered to give handjobs? It wasn't awkward?

[PhilX]

You mean you are interested in friends with benefits for just oral pleasure?

[Asker]

Handjobs

[PhilX]

ok, ok. But does that mean you are a virgin and you just want to experiment a little?

[Asker]

Nope don't have my v card. But I haven't had hookups ever.

[Anonymous]

No, but 69 and regular mutual oral. No sex.

[Asker]

Handjobs?

[Opinion Owner]

Sure. The best oral is hand-and-oral.

[Asker]

oral spreads stds...

[Opinion Owner]

I don't do hookups. A friends with benefits can be a responsible, careful relationship between those not looking for a ring and kids for the time being.

[Asker]

Yeah... well do your fwbs like handjobs?

[Opinion Owner]

There is only one. She likes to switch up. I put her comfortably on her tummy and thumb-fuck her to her G-spot while massaging her clit with my fingers. She cums strongly almost every time and often falls asleep. I just cover her up and let her snooze.

[Asker]

That actually sounds really cute. She's lucky as hell to have you.

[Opinion Owner]

On other occasions, she uses her gifts.

[Asker]

Like what?

[Opinion Owner]

She gives me handjobs that includes anal-prostate fingering like she is a professional therapist. The outcomes can be absolutely magnificent.

[Asker]

I've heard of those!! I'd like to try. How are the orgasms compared to sex or oral? Or I guess you can do prostate massage with oral? But are the orgasms better than sex?

[Opinion Owner]

Anal/prostate massage can be done with both hand and oral. Its not as simple as pressing on the prostate, which can give an uncomfortable squeezed feeling. Its done by sliding straight in as far as you can go, which will reach the seminal vesicles. They are above the prostate in this diagram.
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When you are there, bend your finger slightly and gently sweep down the pipeline as your withdraw it past the prostate. This will help engorge the ejaculatory ducts. But the fireworks come when he ejaculates. If you can align your sweep with his contractions (you will feel them) this will enhance the force of ejaculation to literally hot, mind blowing and body bending. Done right, ejaculation augmented this way will give an orgasm nowhere else available in sex. If I had to settle on one path to orgasm for the rest of my life, this would be it. I stumbled across a Take here that I think does this for girls... not oral and not sex.

[Asker]

I srsly really want to try this with a guy now! But you read a post about a girl version too?

[Asker]

Does the prostate stimulation feel better with a handjob or oral though? Like when you're cumming.

[Opinion Owner]

Prostate stimulation, actually straight anal finger fucking, can be a little distracting during a BJ but very stimulating in sync with a hand job. Upstroke/finger out. Downstroke, finger in. The prostate massage I described is best just before and when ejaculation starts as a final push. The first time I got this, it was mind numbing. Like nothing ever before. Almost frantic. I view this as a girl's secret weapon. The Take I was talking about is posted below. I have also seen this technique on a for girls by girls site directed toward both straight and lesbian. I have done it and have gotten powerful, OMG orgasms. It hits all w hot spots in sync at the same time.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a10507-four-fingering-turning-foreplay-into-the-main-event

[Asker]

Thay my take you linked to and all of the information you gave me are badass. I'm so glad you shared all of it with me. Hand play is so underrated. I was worried about mot having sex because I'd be missing out but obviously that's not true. Do you feel like you miss sex with your fwbs?

[Opinion Owner]

Not in the slightest. These things we do are intensely intimate and creative. Since oral and hand are our main events, we are both very good at them. And we are not afraid to test new things as long as they are harmless and not degrading. I feel far more physically connected and excited about sexual sessions this way than I did in "official' relationships. I wouldn't trade what I have for intercourse... ever. and I hope there is more uncharted ground.

[Asker]

xD xD you are getting best answer. Your sex life sounds amazing. What made you not do intercourse anymore? Was it after you first tried all of this?

[Opinion Owner]

Both of us enjoyed expansive foreplay. At first we used it as an appetizer for intercourse which both of us were actually reluctant to do because she is unable to reach, or even get near orgasm during intercourse and I am... a..."hair trigger". We would work up and then mount up and I would struggle to last long enough for her to come despite knowing the odds were slim and none that she would. Sometimes I would just stop, not wanting to come if she didn't. Other times I couldn't help selfishly giving in and coming when she didn't. Then I went to bringing her off by hand/oral and then mounting up for a quick sprint to orgasm but she wasn't getting all I could give and I wasn't getting all she could, so intercourse went away and we focused on skillful hand and oral. And occasionally we can come together from 69 oral. All pretty exciting and the orgasms still have "lightning bolts".

[Asker]

I feel jealous! I have never net a guy willing to acknowledge that it can be hard for women to orgasm from intercourse. Neither online or irl. But both you and the guy who wrote the take admit it. That's so awesome. I will be honest with my future fwbs about what I want to try so I can find guys like all of you!!

[Asker]

I have one last question for you: Everyone says you need to have intercourse to make love, but have you felt those same feelings with the oral and handjobs you do?

[Opinion Owner]

Giving a girl you care for (make no mistake, you care for your FWB) oral is the most intimate, loving, sexual act you can do for her. It is submissive, dominant and nurturing all at the same time. Far more than intercourse. I love what it does and I love doing it. She can get totally absorbed in orgasm and the act itself, being point blank with her V is exciting for me to do. Once I even came humping the floor while giving oral. The 4-fingering is less intimate but more therapeutic. I am in a Dom role and she a Sub, but she gets the floor shaking orgasm and I get to watch her go "somewhere else" for a minute or so. She was a little self conscious about losing herself in this at first, but I assured her I was with her in it. And what I get is just as satisfying. You feel like you are getting away with something. This good without worry of pregnancy AND, in a way, respecting a future marital partner that may end up being you.

[Asker]

And what is the best orgasm a girl can give to you?

[Asker]

I know you said the fingering and prostate, but what I meant to ask is, what's the best way she can make you feel connected to her with an orgasm? I loved your response. Dominant guys don't usually seem to be crazy about giving oral.

[Opinion Owner]

When I have the lead, her pleasure is central. When she does, it's all about me. My best starts as a non-sexual deep massage: Neck, shoulders, shoulder blades, back, abs, underarms, lats, lower back, hips, buttocks, thigh tops, knees, knee backs, calves, ankles, feet. It evolves into an erotic massage: Thigh/ballsack crease, ballsack, pubic mound, non-penetration anus and slow, easy penis massage. Then to the BJ, "nursing" at the head, stroking the shaft, still slow and easy. Then it's time for the finish. In go the fingers, working their magic while she speeds up her hand stroking and keeps nursing. Orgasm rises up like turning up the volume of my favorite movie trailer music... urgent, sensory flooding. Then I cum in several huge contractions. She times her anal play to push them out stronger than they would alone. Each one feels hot, spasmodic and consuming. I am briefly somewhere else and she is in total control. That is how she must feel when I "4-finger" her. Transcendent.

[Asker]

Thanks for so much detailing too. I think this is one of the most useful answers I've ever gotten on any forum.

[Opinion Owner]

My pleasure, literally. **tips hat, shallow bow**.

[Asker]

Mind answering one more question? You mentioned you love to be dominant. All the guys I know who are like that always say how awesome their skillz are in sex. So I was wondering, what makes you associate being dom with foreplay? Like why aren't you like most guys bragging about your fucking skills and being in denial about women not orgasming from sex? I'm just curious about why you decided to be different instead of acting like most guys and saying intercourse is this awesome thing.

[Opinion Owner]

What good are "fucking skills" if you leave them sore, dry, tired, unsatisfied and dreading the next hour (s) long reaming ordeal? Thats not dominance, it's force and can be seen as degrading. My form of "dominance" causes them to call and say "Do you have time for sex?" because they know whats coming. It's something like the male lead in a tango dance. Your partner has to be an eager follower and steps up front if she wants to. My "dominance" is consuming her with pleasure and making her feel loved and gives her the choice to take the lead when it suits her... which is often enough.

[Asker]

Really sexy. Thanks again.

[Opinion Owner]

You are welcome.

[Asker]

I just reread and I think you said you're in multiple friends with benefits. Do the girls you sleep with tell whether they are with other guys or not? This is my last question I promise. It's just that if she's with other guys neither of you mind oral? I thought oral was hands off for multi people situations. I feel jealous you have options, you are so lucky. Unless I read things wrong lol

[Opinion Owner]

First, I have enjoyed our dialog. You seem to like the visceral sides of sex and I like your energy about them. Feel free to bring anything up. I am in only one friends with benefits now, a RN. Swing shift. Somewhat of a kinkster. There was another, also a RN, but she moved to another city. They knew each other (!) and I suspect i was lunch conversation. I treated them the same. My work times are variable and I couldn't sustain an "official" relationship. Ours consists of a phone call, takeout Chinese and the dessert treats that come after. I am not presently dating. The rules prohibit me from asking if she is, but I think she may seeing someone else and it's not going that well. Sometimes she has an attitude, and if she "doesn't want to talk about it", it's probably "him". So I have to be extra nice. I would give a second thought to someone else being in her bed if she wasn't a nurse and presumably looks after hygiene more carefully than others might. I've never detected that someone else is around.

[Asker]

You two sound like you have a lot of fun together xD sorry for the late reply; I have had really bad insomnia for the past few nights for some reason. I do have another question: Do you still do roleplay with the foreplay that you do? How do you go about doing different dom and sub roles since you mentioned that before?

[Opinion Owner]

There's two sort of built in roles we can play. One is a "medical fetish" (she's a RN). I allow myself to be "examined" and "tested" as a part of her masseuse-therapist approach to foreplay. Some of this could be viewed as moving toward the fringe, but it is never, ever BDSM. She knows what she is doing and it can add what I called "uncharted ground" to what we do together. I trust her or I would not go to some places. The other is: I am in the private security business. Think Kevin Costner in 'The Bodyguard'. A private Cop. My role can be to compel her to do things I believe will protect her. Some of them, of course, are to keep the Cop happy and interested... And sometimes she needs to be, well, a little "humiliated" to bring her back into line.

[Asker]

Describe the cop more please.

[Opinion Owner]

What I actually do. Private security. Bigwigs. Celebs, politicians. They are exposed. Scammers. Stalkers. Possible kidnappers and blackmailers. 95%, it's standing around, looking bored and seemingly useless. Barney Fife. Then there's the 5%. Army Special Forces training. Sleep in the same room, (not bed) armed, with someone like Beyonce under a bona-fide threat? I don't get the girl, ever, but geez! I can smell her perfume. My friends with benefits compensates. A wife couldn't do that. She'd worry about my safety but also my temptation and opportunity. With good reason. What if Zoe Saldana just needed body heat?

[Asker]

Oh! I meant if you would describe the punishment/humiliation in the cop roleplay more. But damn your job sounds awesome. Do you like it or are hours awful?

[Opinion Owner]

My hours cause me to disappear for days at a time without warning or explanation. She knows this will happen. I have told her that if our arrangement has to end, I will show her the respect telling her before I go. I may disappoint you on the punishment/humiliation role play. Mostly my time with her is refuge from her work and mine. Its true that she brings some of her training home in the form of kinks and I will be occationally surprised with the unexpected. but that is not what you are asking here. The first time I four-fingered her came as an abrupt surprise for her. She was resting comfortably on her tummy after finishing Sweet and Sour Chicken washed down with hot Sake (Japanese rice wine). I pressed my flat hand in the middle if her back to restrain her from lifting up or "getting away" and did my business. Bear in mind she could always say "stop" and I would. But the whimpering and suffering sounds she made were/are not "stop". (see following reply out of characters).

[Asker]

Dream guy. Your job sounds really cool and you're awesome at foreplay. Not disappointed at all! I'm surprised you can do the four figured technique while she's flipped over. I thought you only did the thumb and spot technique when she was laying down. How did you have the stopping intercourse talk exactly?

[Opinion Owner]

Now she knows that this can happen any time she snoozes on her tummy. There was this one occasion that she was quite late. Remember that we don't ask for explanations. But she seemed very apologetic and said that her error needed to be "straightened out". Warning: Kinkiness follows.

[Opinion Owner]

Out of her purse (Michael Kors, I might add) comes one of these.
englishonline-reverso.typepad.com/.../...bag_2.jpg She shucks her clothes, heads for the bathroom, fulls it with warm water and tells me that an enema should "straighten me out". So into the tub on her hands and knees she goes and waits on me. Well, why not? All in good fun. So in it goes followed by a good squeeze. Yep, a little messy and amidst the suffering sounds, she says she should be "punished" for making such a mess. So I begin thrusting the nozzle and giving her a few harmless smacks on her bottom as "consequences". That seemed to resolve her guilt and a whopper BJ followed our shower together. Annie Lennox was right. "Everybody's looking for something."

[Opinion Owner]

Right. The first time it was thumb in, two up top and usually starts that way because that's the hint she gives for wanting that. But when I roll her over, I am able to hit the extra spot. Three fingering her slowly on her tummy can actually put her to sleep. Four fingering always results in fireworks.

[Opinion Owner]

Setting aside intercourse was never really discussed, we just stopped trying to make it the main event. Every now and again, I will ask (!) if i can finish inside her. I will have done her first (oral, fingers, etc) and she will bring me close with a BJ. I'll mount up missionary style and finish in just a minute or two. Although infrequent for me, the feeling of a warm, wet, snug vagina is still one of life's greatest pleasures.

[Asker]

Do you like girl on to positions at all? I always wondered how that felt fkr guys vs missionary. But guys won't give me details! Have you heard of the A spot or deep spot? You should be able to reach it with fingers.

[Opinion Owner]

Actually my favorite position for a session oof intercourse is Cowgirl. Here's why. *Low distracting effort for both partners. Her weight ensures deep penetration and all she need to is "dirty dance" to get and give good sensation. No need to "bob". *Interactive. We can hold hands and have eye contact. We can stop and talk, too. *Visually stimulating. We can watch our partner fucking us, bodies move, boobs sway, etc. *Control and assisting. I can grip her hips and control stroke and speed and I can help her thrust so she doesn't tire. *I may be able to give her an orgasm. When grip at her pelvis, I can massage her clit with both thumbs to give her more pleasure and maybe an orgasm. More in the reply that follows this one.

[Opinion Owner]

The only pleasure spot I am aware of is the G-spot, which is on the front wall of your V about 3 inches in and up and is sensitive to pressure and stroking. by the way, your urethra passes beneath it which may make peeing more pleasurable or give you a gotta pee feeling when it is touched.

[Asker]

Since you're Dom I'm surprised missionary isn't your fave. I like being on top becuz I feel in control of myself and my guy. But I love him on top too. Do you always stay dom or do you enjoy being submissive sometimes also?

[Asker]

Yep it can give that feeling. But the A spot is supposed to be in the back. It only pops up when she's really aroused. Have you heard of cervical orgasms?

[Opinion Owner]

As i have said, intercourse for us is rare. On those occasions that I want to come fast and hard into her vagina, I prefer legs up missionary. She is quite slim and flexible and her knees can comfortably end up near her ears. The angle of legs up missionary directs me above her cervix past her G-spot up beneath her bladder. That whole pocket is short and snug and sort-of restricts ejaculation, making it feel stronger and (?) hotter. Although I am... compact... I have to be careful not drive to deeply, as it can hurt her. by the way, stimulating her G-spot like this and topping out against her bladder has caused her to involuntarily release a spritz of pee which, as you might suspect, is OK by me. Cowgirl is sort of dual control. I can lay back (sub) and let her control thrust and speed and make me cum (or delay it until i "beg") or I can grip her hips and dominate thrust, bounce and speed, making her a passenger like a bronc rider at the Rodeo. (Go to the next reply)

[Opinion Owner]

Yep it can give that feeling. But the A spot is supposed to be in the back. It only pops up when she's really aroused. Have you heard of cervical orgasms? In the context of the oral and hand play that is mostly what we do, there are elements of dom and sub for both of us. When I get s BJ with anal fingering, I grip my shins just below my knees, rock back and let her have her way. This is visually awkward, vulnerable and about as submissive as a man can get. When I three-finger her on her tummy or four finger her on her back, I am in total control of her body and her orgasm. I checked into what the A spot is. I just didn't know it was a separate process. It is above her cervix across the tube from her G-spot. Makes me understand why something I do is effective. When I three-finger her on her tummy, my thumb is in her vagina and two fingers on her clitoris. Then I do this, I make circles with the tip of my thumb such as to brush her G-spot in the front and her A-spot accoss the way.

[Asker]

Wonderful tips!!! Do you ever wish you had a girlfriend instead of fwbs? Like a different work schedule?

[Opinion Owner]

I am hopeful of either being promoted to group leader or finding other work that stabilizes my work schedule and personal life. My work is "action packed" but my quality of life off work is crappy except for (you guessed it) my friends with benefits. I am hopeful of wife and family by age 30. Wondering how a plain vanilla girl will react to some of my... uhhh... routines.

[Asker]

I think your job sounds really exciting!! So, when you have sex do you love the physical sensations more or the intimacy? I

[Asker]

As much as I like orgasming by stimulation, I feel like the intimacy could make me orgasm all by itself.

[Opinion Owner]

It absolutely is intimate connection. The part I enjoy the most is giving her nurturing oral sex. You would think that is submissive but really the giver is in total control. But that control is benevolent. I want to show her love and I want her to feel loved (did I just use the "L" word twice?). Which raises the loaded question. Do I love my FWB? It sure as hell feels like it. She is holding my life together, but I can't tell her because it would somehow indebt her. Does she suspect but can't ask? Probably. Delicate dance. A real friends with benefits, as opposed to a casual "fuck buddy" always is.

[Asker]

Can you tell me more about your pending romance with her? I have had hookups, but never went as far as friends with benefits since everyone told me it can get way too complicated. How do you deal with the complicated feelings? Like if one of you decides to leave, won't you regret not expressing the romantic feelings? I realize this sounds really nosy, but you don't seem to mind expressing how you feel and think at all.

[Opinion Owner]

I met her online. Yep. Craigslist. I know there are a lot of predators and deceivers there but you have to be patient and say what you are looking for and ask the right questions. Over a dialog, I described what I wanted in a friends with benefits relationship, my situation and what the "rules" might be. Sex was discussed only in general terms of preferences. I used expressions like "eager" and "uninhibited". R-rated pictures were exchanged. After a buffet dinner we were intimate right away because we knew what to expect. I felt I already knew her. A friends with benefits relationship should not be complicated if you understand the rules going in. You can't enter a friends with benefits as cover to get into an "official" dating relationship. The rules can't change. If we ever want to pursue "romance", we won't discuss it in an intimate setting. In a sense, we will start dating from scratch. You have to be prepared for an exit without clutching or explanation because you understood the rules from the beginning. (more later)

[Asker]

Yes yes. Please share more later. A Craiglist friends with benefits almost romance is an awesome story. I love all the details so much.

[Opinion Owner]

I have been graphic with you about sexual things. More so than with anyone I have not been naked with, especially on GAG. I enjoy doing this. I don't do it with guys because egos get in the way. We want to think we are God's gift to women and can make their ground shake at will. Somehow the details take the mystery and excitement out of sex. As you may have guessed, the opposite is true for me. I've heard that girls discuss sexuality explicitly, away from guys, suggesting I am showing a verbal "feminine side" in my appetite to discuss sex. I've been told this in the past and it's gotten me invited into a bed unexpectedly. She felt she trusted me and liked to hear me talk. Having said that, I'd like to "look inside you" a little, if you will pardon the play on words. Perhaps you can discuss your sexual appetites and kinks or about your experiences with "first times" in sexual things or how your hookups went and why Friends With Benefits can get "complicated".

[Asker]

Sorry for the late reply!!! I knew I'd need a lot of time to reply to you so I kept putting it off. But I have a spare 1/2 hr now so: It's a long story. I love oral above everything. Oral plus fingering is amazing for orgasms for me. I asked on this question about handjobs just to help avoid spreading stds. But if I could have it my way, oral would be at the forefront. It's the most intimate act to me also. .. I don't think someone could expose themselves more to you when they let you give them oral. Sex is always idealized in pron and irl but, I don't feel like it's the most intimate but I can't explore his body or most intimate parts while we're doing it. And I do feel dominant when I give it since I like to tease and make him beg and all that. When we have sex the dom and sub roles switch in the moment, but when I give a BJ I can just solely focus on him and I love it. I can feel every nuance his dick has with my mouth and feel him cum, or take it out and watch... sexy as hell!!

[Asker]

For my orgasms from oral, I feel like how your friends with benefits does. It's the most intimate way for me to be exposed to him too. When we have sex it's like our bodies are melding together. Which is nice, but during oral he has complete control over me. I also like it when he teases me... but in my experience men aren't dominant enough when it comes to giving women oral, so I have to tell them what I want. I want him to hold my hands and legs down, so I can't move away. I want him to be rougher... I want him to make me feel like I'm losing all control. You can do that with rough sex I guess, but to me it's not as sexy because he has way more control over my orgasm with oral, than when he's fucking me. Once he gets to know me and my own intimate nuances and reactions, he can do anything. Even with fingering, I feel like the really specific movements from his hands are more dominating than him using his dick. I think people miss out on a lot when they say foreplay isn't as good as sex.

[Asker]

My first times with sex and oral weren't great enough to remember. Two inexperienced people make a lot of mistakes together LOL I like to think of my first time as with a guy who really cared about my pleasure, as a first time for everything we did. Like every time we had sex or foreplay, it was the first time I realized how far intimacy can take you with sexual pleasure, instead of just fucking. I actually think the build up can be better than the orgasm a lot of the time, but with this guy, he showed me what it was like to finally let a partner take control, on both ends. From his end, he loved oral like you and he gave me awesome orgasms from the oral and fingering... he made me fall in <3 with it honestly. Before, I came from oral but it was never awesome, and the build up wasn't either. But this guy changed all of that, and the oral was way better than the sex, so I told him that oral was way better than sex, so he agreed and we did it only oral 90% of the time.

[Asker]

But he was also really good with fingering and I came from that a lot too, so I guess I fell in <3 with both. But intercourse... has never given me much pleasure. Guy's dicks can't really hit certain spots, so I still crave it sometimes like you do, but it's not a need at all. I think intercourse is way overrated. And I think it's overrated for men too! Even if guys come they have to hold off on orgasming for her sake... with bjs he can just lay back and enjoy. And I do love giving them like I said. I can feel all of him and taste him... I think even giving a bj is 10x better than intercourse. I haven't had hookups just yet... but everyone says that if you just stick to one guy you will fall for him and he'll fall for you. So I didn't want to worry about stds because I decided that if I'm really going to try this, then It's best to be messing with multiple people, IMHO. No attachment no strings... I don't know if I'd really do that but I have been seriously thinking about it.

[Asker]

So a question for you: How does the losing control aspect feel to you? Like making her lose control and how it feels for you to lose control, compared to intercourse?

[Asker]

xD did I explain well? Sorry for the little errors I made. Mostly in the 1st comment.. 'Sex is always idealized in porn and irl but, I don't feel like it's the most intimate and I can't explore his body or his most intimate parts while we're doing it.' LO, L I hate the little errors but I hope you enjoyed reading.

[Opinion Owner]

Replying to: Its a long story. Limited to 1000 characters so I'll follow on. I also love oral the best (both giving and receiving) more than anything else because of the depth of intimacy. Somewhere back in the text, I brought up anal fingering/prostate massage and, combined with a sit-up masseuse style 2-hand hand job, I had the fiercest (odd usage but accurate) orgasm I have ever had. It was like a panic attack, but a happy one. Its different with oral. She is slow, patient and nurturing with it. There have been times when we were watching TV and she just "nursed" on my penis for a half hour or more like she was savoring a Sugar Daddy. upload.wikimedia.org/.../...addy-Wrapper-Small.jpg
I remained hard as a rock but was not near orgasm, that is... until I had to beg her to finish me. And one of her kinks is watching me ejaculate, sometimes sitting back and sometimes macro close, and she likes playing with the flow, partly blocking and diverting it.

[Opinion Owner]

When I give my friends with benefits nurturing oral, I give it to her from below, between her spread legs. My hands are free to do various things such as rubbing both boobs/nipples while I lick. Other times, I spread her wide and lick at all the hiding places in and around her vagina and, stop to look. She also likes her "peehole" teased with my tongue and finger tip. And I can fully retract her hood to suck and lick her clit directly. Sometimes she gives me the hint she wants more aggressive oral. She raises her legs on her own so they are almost flat against her (she is thin and flexible) and I can "restrain" both her calves and wrists with my hands while I lick her and i will be more aggressive including some play biting. She will come either way but she tends to be more "frantic" this way and the odds are high she will have a "pee accident", which won't cause me to skip a beat. The other day I told her this happens an she smiled wistfully and said she was wondered if I noticed. (More follows)

[Opinion Owner]

When I started out, I had no clue what to do with the terrain down below. Guys rarely discuss it technically and girls may like what they feel but not know what a guy is doing. There's a lot of trial and error both in "fingering" and oral. A girl can end up not liking one or the other because her guy has no skill. The Internet has helped me hone my skills. There are lots of closeup pictures and video of lady parts that helped me to know what and where things were and suggested what to do with them. One thing I learned is why women rarely have orgasms from intercourse alone. Its because her clitoris is situated right at the top of the crease and is not stimulated during sex. Oral and fingering overcome that. So does Cowgirl with clit stimulation. It's the only way my friends with benefits can come during intercourse. I stumbled across the thumb and two fingers technique by accident. She was laying on her tummy and i slid them in as a tease including the rotating thumb. She liked it a lot. More 2 cum.

[Asker]

What is this post a year old? I was rereading old questions, and found this and your descriptions and wanted to ask one last thing. You mention the 3 and four fingers, fingering techniques. Do you have any others, and do you finger in other positions?

[BertMacklinFBI]

yeah you can do that.

[Asker]

Any stories?

[BertMacklinFBI]

nope