I myself being a Daddy Dom, I always tell others to research all the dynamics and see what you identify as within yourself first. Do not use 50 shades as a depiction as to what the dynamic/lifestyle is about, for it's not like that... anyone who's been in the lifestyle has been so for years, and if you want to be in the lifestyle and truly enjoy it, I really do recommend you research each and every dynamic...
Little, sub, baby girl, princess, look up the different dynamics of bdsm lifestyle etc... look up each and every one of the things I just typed and look for the qualities that you actually exhibit,... then after that, look to explore the different actions such as restraints, flogging, shibari etc 🙂
Iam a Dom. Did you meet him through a fetish site? Or was this a random guy saying he was a Dom and asked you to be his Sub? Because it doesn;t really work like that. if you are a Sub you would have known it, you don't get "asked" to be a Sub.
It was not a fetish site, but he seems ligit just in the way he talks and the things he says.
He didn't ask me to be his sub but said I want you be my sub and says things like I need to belong to hiim and things like that
Wel one thing. I see other comments like "I was a dom for this person. Or I subbed for that person" It doesn't work that way. You are a Dom or a Sub or you are not. It isn't an act, or something you do for someone. It is just who you are. Otherwise its just roleplay.
Sub by far, but if I really needed to I could be a dom (my current boyfriend is even more sub that I am so I guess I'll have to get the hang of dom)
I can switch and be both dom and sub but I am not a fan of pain and humiliation (espcially if I am on the receiving end). But bondage is ok.
I'm a bottom, not a submissive because I don't let it take control over every aspect of my daily life.
That is a Slave. Not a Sub. Sub is bedroom, Slave is life.
Not necessarily, I wouldn't say it if I wasn't sure. @Jayded1 "submissive: submits entirely and gives up control of themselves, or of certain aspects of their lives on an ongoing everyday basis." "Bottom: submits only occasionally and primarily only in sexual aspects of their life."
Your definition of Submissive is negotiated. You can add or subtract those things. A Slave has no negotiation, no choices.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Like, experience with it in bed? Outside the bedroom? Negotiating consent in the bedroom within a D/s relationship? (please don't use 50 shades as a guideline - it's beyond terrible in terms of consent/not being abusive).
YES! FSOG is not the typical D/s relationship, I had trouble not laughing getting through it, plus it implies anyone with that preference in the bedroom got abused as a child or they're messed up in some way. Do some research before jumping into a relationship, and definitely make sure to discuss everything you're okay with in the bedroom w your partner :) Also make sure to be safe if you ever do meet up with this guy- and maybe experiment with someone you know before having this be your first scene, esp. because you're into more of a full time or TPE kind of relationship rather than just in the bedroom.
I'm sure 50 shades has some sexy parts (it's certainly sold well enough) My favorite part of it was when I went to a burlesque show, and the emcee did various readings from the book... in famous voices. I literally could not breathe from laughing so hard when he read a scene in Professor Snape's voice. But yes, research. Good idea! :) There ARE good resources out there...
dominant?
I am a sub male and enjoy the pain and humiliation. I am a cuckold. I let real men have sex with my significant other because my penis is small. She tells people and I become embarrassed and climax.
How small? I'm a sub but i'm 5"
Ouch, I hear even BDSM fans hated that movie.
I've been a dom guy only because my girl at the time wanted to try it.
You should sign up to a website called fetlife... you'd be surrounded by the fuckers
Yeah, I love tying them up in razor wire and making them lick my feet while I smoke a cuban cigar and work on my shit acting.
I've been sub to an ex, wasn't that enjoyable and struggled to get out of it.
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