Anyone with experience on dealing with porn addiction?

So my husband has been dealing with a porn addiction problem and it really takes a toll on me but I try to be strong and support him. He wants me to be ok with watching films with nudity. I'm really not comfortable with that because of the situation. But he says it doesn't work that way. I don't know of whether to trust him or resist and help him by saying that it can still affect him and cause urges.
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  • My girlfriend dealt with it in her previous relationship, her ex-husband had a very serious case of porn addiction.

    I started chatting with her on FB 7 years ago, that was when the addiction was setting in.

    The irony was, it wasn't porn that got him started, what happened was he attended a bachelorette party where a bunch of them went for drinks at a strip club.

    Then it got to it that he began watching it at home as she had evening classes. It began to cause problems as she found out he was watching porn and she wasn't happy.

    Then he lost his job, ironically because they discovered he was watching porn while at office on an office owned computer.

    She cancelled the internet, put him on cold turkey which helped and then he got a job again.

    They didn't reconnect the internet but he got onto something else, sexting and then masturbating to the photos of those girls he had sexted.

    He then began going to an erotic/sex shop in town, ironically it was located just beside the strip club where it all started... pay per view porn became his thing and it went on for 7 months where she didn't have any sex with him as he was never in the mood.

    It then got more serious as there was a webcam model at the sexshop that could sext him on a pay per view basis. 6 months and his credit cards was maxed out.

    Somehow the internet was reconnected. However the stress from work, as well as his debts meant first thing he came home, it was one of the various porn sites.

    By then she hadn't had sex with him for 2 years. She said it got to the point that he couldn't erect unless he watched porn. He would go soft if she tried to get him to penetrate and it also when they were supposed to try for a baby.

    They tried to go for marriage counselling and also tried to seek medical help on his erection issues as by then he couldn't erect except through rough sex porn. By then it had been 3 years since her last time.

    She was feeling horny, she had asked him for it as it was her birthday, well he didn't do it for her, she left their house to get a coffee at Starbucks... except she met me there. 3 weeks later she found herself pregnant.

    • That's a very interesting story thank you for sharing

    • Not to be a mean ass... but on this matter your best course of action is put your foot down and stand your ground. Don't take any compromises on this as the moment you do it'd be a case of giving an inch and he'd want a yard. Also it's always those little compromises that'd lead to more and you'll be back asking for more advice on this matter in no time.

  • I was addicted to porn i just watch one music video and it work on me soo deeply that i did masturbate for a month+ i belive their has to be something Which can help him too

    • Is watching nudity in movies ok? He says it doesn't affect his porn addiction or cause urges but I don't know I mean it is naked women just like in porn

    • Its i ok but person has to go 1 week without watching any nudity porn or masturbation to brake through that cycle

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  • The question is, does seeing nudity in general trigger his addiction? I’m not sure any of us are qualified to answer that. Maybe it does, maybe it doesn’t. You may want to seek out an educated opinion from a professional who deals with addiction disorders for a clearer picture.

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  • Regarding the movies with nudity:
    What's wrong with them causing urges? Because then he can just have sex with you, right? Isn't that a good thing?
    Honest question.

  • How is it affecting your husband?

    • He relies on it a lot to the point in where if he doesn't watch it he gets moody and unproductive. ALMOST led to a divorce because he was annoyed with me and later that day he apologizes and says "sorry I just needed to watch it"

    • Can I assume he's lost interest in actual sex?

  • You can search online for support groups. There's online meets like AA to beat this addiction. Since he is a guy, there's plenty of support online