Are all men aroused at strip clubs?

[JaxAttax]

My husband went to strip clubs all weekend in Portland for his Bachelor party. There were 10 guys and they visited 4-5 clubs over the entire weekend and bought my husband one stage dance with 4 women and that was in in terms of dances for him that weekend. The clubs in Portland are fully nude. I told him I was okay with him going to a strip club and getting a public dance but when I found out that he went all weekend it made me so insecure. We have an amazing sex life and I would be considered extremely attractive and fit by conventional standards. My husband has never given me a reason not to trust him. she is very complimentary and loving toward me. I saw photos of the girls at the clubs he visited and some are just as hot as me…which makes me so insecure! I hate it! I’m usually confident and happy and for 4 months i’ve been insecure and sad. My husband says that aside from tipping at the stage and a few “congrats” from the strippers, there was no interaction beyond that nor any lap dances offered. I guess most of the clubs you had to approach the dancers which seems odd but sounds like it’s true for a lot of Portland. He claims he wasn’t at all turned on or aroused and he was just having fun with his friends. My question is, are most guys in bachelor parties just having fun with their friends or are they mostly aroused some or most of the time? I just want to get past this and be my normal self again and have faith in my man being madly in love and attracted to me!!

[DarkWinterNights]

Strip clubs are really just trashy. Sounds like he gave into peer pressure from all his friends. I don’t doubt he wasn’t very interested in the girls there, most guys aren’t anyway. But I can understand why you’re upset and insecure. It sounds like you guys have a pretty healthy relationship, so if you’re really hung up on this, I would tactfully bring it up at a good quiet time where you can explain why you’re upset about it. It is extremely important that you do not accuse him of anything or use pointed words directed at him though. Just state that you didn’t realize how many strip clubs he was going to and it’s made you uncomfortable. He probably should have bailed out, and his friends should have known better, but as long as the two of you understand each-other going forward- what’s in the past is in the past.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I get aroused in a light breeze after a spring rain. Arousal doesn't have anything to do with any of the hangups you're exhibiting. Really good hot wings? May get a hardon. Do anything high adrenaline? Probably going to have a hard on. That has absolutely zero to do with who/if I'm in love with.

Hell for that matter a good percentage of rape victims experience vaginal lubrication, aka, arousal, during the crime and they sure aren't in love with the scumbag. Are we in 1800 again? So victim blamey.

[summiter]

The girls at strip clubs are in it just for the money... not to hookup with guys from a bachelor party. If you trust ur husband it should not be an issue.

[slatyb]

Not all, most. Any question "are all men..." is going to be a no.

[JaxAttax]

Based on these answers it’s like 50/50. Do your friends tell you that they are turned on in strip clubs? Or are YOU turned on in them and speaking for most other men?

[slatyb]

I have enjoyed watching some women in strip clubs. I haven't been often, probably less than ten times total, and usually because some people I knew were going and invited me. I find most of them pretty trashy.

[JaxAttax]

I think i’m over complicating the way he felt about going to strip clubs all weekend. We have amazing sex, I am extremely fit and attractive and we are in love. Him going all weekend made me feel like i’m not enough and he has sone sexual desire to pursue others. Though I know rationally it’s not the case…it’s essentially broken my brain. And i can hear because I have no trusted male friends in real life.

[MikeTheBartender]

I definitely do NOT get aroused just from being there. I've slept w many strippers, once we are in bed I'll get aroused but just being in the club? No. You definitely appreciate the sexiness, but we don't sit there w hard ons.

[Fireguy17]

Not my favorite places to go.
They seem sad, what the women do for money and the guys that think they like them.

[exitseven]

I don't think you need to worry. I have only been to strip clubs twice in my life. I guess the women were attractive but I think that the thought of where they have been pretty much dampened any excitement that I may have had

[FunkyMonkee]

I wasn't, and I've been to a few. I even chauffeured a stripper to two of her gigs!

[Mansearching]

Some do. Some just go just to go.

I use to live with 2 strippers. They both were either topless or naked most of the time. No need to go to strip clubs at that time. I got to see it for free. Didn't have to pay.

[MikeTheBartender]

Any good threesomes come out of that?

[Mansearching]

@MikeTheBartender no unfortunately. Did sleep with one of them tho. That was just one of those nights.

[JaxAttax]

okay but do you? lol

[Mansearching]

I have. It depended on dancer. How the dance was and what they did during the dance. Had one actually undo my jeans just so she could feel how hard I was. Never took down underwear tho. Did get her number and dated her for awhile.

[JaxAttax]

He only got one stage dance. The rest of the weekend was just watching and tipping at the rail. Is that arousing or just fun?

[Mansearching]

Thats almost a waste of money. I do both. But get more than 1 dance.

[Chayce]

I’ve had no desire to go to one. The thought of someone eating chicken wings on perverts row with booty sweat flying through the air always comes to mind.

[Nifrayu]

I've never been to one. But I imagine people who are interested in going to places like that enjoy it because it arouses them.

[LiamJHayden]

No. I was taken to one as a surprise when I turned 22. I was embarrassed.

[jahaims]

Never been. I don't get the appeal.

[boobliker]

most but not all

[KrakenAttackin]

When I was in the Navy I went to a few strip clubs (I was single) and it can be fun, but it's all a cock tease. Now I have zero interest.

[Luckycharms12]

Went once see what it was like wasn't turned on at all dark seady place

[CubaPirate]

It doesn't do anything for me

[Jmmmfi4]

NOT REALLY

[MasterKS]

mostly!

[JaxAttax]

half the guys on here said no. So far it seems to be 50/50

[MasterKS]

@jaxattax if they dont arouse why would they go there? do you believe if someone says i do watch porn for get emotional, laugh or thrilled! LOL

[JaxAttax]

He said because his beat man and another guy are SUPER into them. Which is true. He said he was along for the ride, had fun but was not aroused. I’m wondering if tbat could actually be true. It seems like maybe it could based on the answers here

[MasterKS]

@jaxattax its so tough to answer the truth.

[MaxUsefull]

I never ever go to a stripper club