Are boys aware when they touch a girl inappropriately?

[Liliyana]

I can't discus this with anyone close to me due to how inappropriate and awkward it is.

I have a friend who sometimes touch me inappropriately but i don't notice any reaction from him even though it's kinda obvious and he seems to do it on purpose but at the same time he is not intending to do it. Is he unaware of where he is touching? Do boys not focus on these things when it happens?

Sorry for not saying details but it's inappropriate to write it and i might feel embarrassed from people who answer it, also I'm not sure about this site or how to use it.

[markscott]

Without details, it's difficult to say. Yes, a guy knows when he touches a girl in a sexual area. And yes, a guy can touch you in a sexual area, and not realize it. It all depends on the situation. If he is simply in a room with you, then a guy might accidentally tough you somewhere sexual, but not very often, and maybe once a day, if there is a lot of room. Though he might not touch you at all. He will very likely know when this happens, and it can not happen repeatedly, without him knowing. If a guy and girl are in a crowded room with people all about and jostling each other, he will accidentally touch you, and other women, much more often. This could include a sexual area. Being as the room is crowded, and people are being jostled about, he is much less likely to realize when he touches you, or he may realize, know there isn't much he can do about it, and try to steady himself to reduce the touching. Even though he won't be as much aware of the touching, if i gets to be enough, he most certainly will know most of the time when it happens.

[markscott]

It honestly sounds to me, like you are in a situation, where you are being deliberately touched in private areas, repeatedly. Being touched in private areas is not accidental, if it keeps happening, and there is no jostling about, etc. Assuming the room if big enough for the number of people in it. If this is happening to you, you need tell the person to stop, if you can do so safely. If they don't stop. try to contact a police officer to make a complaint. If your situation, this is not just touching inappropriately, but it is pedophilia, because you are a minor. Again, contact a police officer if this continues.

[Liliyana]

Ah that's a fair point, totally understandable. I can't say details it's just awkward.

[markscott]

Liliyana: Do you want to private message me? No one else can read the message.

[Liliyana]

Umm no i guess i understood it from reading all these comments, also i don't know how to send private message. No need for that though.

[markscott]

/liliyana: OK. Good luck.

[Liliyana]

Thanks for your time

[Liliyana]

Can you help me with something? I don't know how to message you tho

[summiter]

He knows exactly what he is doing. If you do not like it you need to tell him. Don't crush him, but say politely (at least the first time) "i'm not sure if you know but at times you bump or touch me where I do not want to be touched. Please try to be more aware of it" You should not be touched where you don't want unless it is OK with you.. not him.

[Liliyana]

I will make sure 1st

[FurryKisses]

For me yes they know and they do it and enjoy it latter. Even without a reaction they love it. I had a freind who would do it all the time. Only after I talked with him as he was moving did he admit it and how much he jerked off to it. I'm glad he left now.

[jeemm]

People don't touch others without thought. He probably wants to touch you and tries to cover himself by acting innocent or unaware.

[Liliyana]

Even though he is a good friend?

[jeemm]

I don't know how he feels about you but it's possible he feels more than just friendship. Even if he doesn't feel more he's still a guy and guys have higher sex drive than us. Especially around your age.

[Liliyana]

I guess you're right about that

[simonqq]

I've accidentally swiped my hand on girls butts/chests but it was purely because of me being clumsy or them moving into me without me noticing and it's not something that happens often or repeatedly with the same girl.

He is 100% aware and if it's repeated then it's not by mistake.

[Liliyana]

Now i get it, lots of comments are saying the same.

[Duckysback]

Yes, they know. You can’t accidentally put your hands on another person like that.

[simonqq]

Agree with this. Sure it can be accidental but not if it's repeated as it seems here.

[Duckysback]

@simonqq That’s fair. But yeah, if it is the same person doing it repeatedly there is no way in hell that shit is an accident.

[simonqq]

Yeah, I've done it accidentally many times through my life and I was aware and embarrassed every time because I didn't want to seem like a creep. You try and avoid that as much as possible. So yeah repeatedly is like you said not an accident.

[Duckysback]

@simonqq You know, I accidentally poked someone in the butt hole with my toe once so there is that.

[simonqq]

Dafuq, how did that happen and how was it by accident? Hahaha

[Duckysback]

@simonqq It was a pool party BBQ kinda thing last summer. We were floating in the pool in these inflatable chair things. I was trying to use my foot to give her a tickle, she moved out of the way and I uh… hit the bull’s eye.

[simonqq]

Lmao, destiny one might say 😂

[Liliyana]

You have a point

[simonqq]

By the way, love your profile picture. Brings back childhood memories.

[Duckysback]

Sorry for getting side tracked with bullshit OP if your “friend” touches you in any way that you aren’t comfortable with you should say something. If that doesn’t stop, let me know and I kick his fucking ass.

[Liliyana]

Will do 😂😂

[simonqq]

Don't mess with Ducky 💪🏻

[nachosaresexy]

If it happens once it might be an accident. If it's a regular thing, I'm 99% sure he would know what he's doing (even though he's acting like it's an accident or that he doesn't realize he touched you).

[Liliyana]

I see what you mean

[InfobotsMom]

Yes, we're aware of who we're touching and where and why. There is no excuse for inappropriate touching except for the very rare accidental touch that may happen. Everyone of sound mind understands what is appropriate.

[Liliyana]

Sounds accurate, i get it now.

[brigfrey25]

If he isn't touching ON or NEAR your privates than every touch is UNINTENDED and to not MAkE YOU UNCOMFORTABLE.

He might be very casual with you. You can tell by body language if a touch is appropriate or not.

So in conclusion if my assumption is correct. You are rather very sensitive to touch.

[Liliyana]

Kind of

[brigfrey25]

Still tho this is just my assumption. Only you know where he touches you and in which.. I can't read body language just based on imagination. Just right down few tips from here and test it out yourself if you are still not sure. But at the end you HAVE to let him knoW that he is making you feel uncomfortable. ✌️

[Liliyana]

Thanks, will do.

[brigfrey25]

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[winterfox10]

It really depends on where he's touching you and how he's doing it. I've truly accidentally touched women's butts and boobs as I've walked by them, but I always pull my hand away really fast, and it's kind of a brushing sort of touch.

[Liliyana]

Can't say anything about that but i get what you mean.

[winterfox10]

Out of curiosity, why can't you?

[Liliyana]

Because It's awkward and inappropriate, and it would be embarrassing for me to write it for everyone.

[outside_Toronto]

yes they're

[FriendlyEnigma]

Nope, but are girls always aware when they touch guys innappropriately?

[Liliyana]

Not at all

[FriendlyEnigma]

Hmm two way street i guess lol

[GreenGold1992]

nope, boys are pigs

[TheRish]

Yes that touch is intensional, I confess even i have also done it. But I was too horny and want sex.
But I can assure you you will start like the touch in some time.

Still anything makes you uncomfortable speak for that and the boy must stop if you don't like.

[jakeofalltrades]

sometimes, but not always. if you don't like him touching you say something

[Liliyana]

He is a good friend not a stranger

[jakeofalltrades]

so, he can't read your mind and know you are uncomfortable, you have to tell him

[Liliyana]

I'm only wondering if he is aware or not and from the comments i understood i guess

[sunil09]

Yeah

[Liliyana]

Alright

[Anonymous]

Some guys think nothing of it and don’t respect women

[Anonymous]

It depends on the specific act, and, if it's frequent or not. There can be accidents for sure where we don't realize it at all, but it could also be intentional on his part and he's fully aware of it and doing it on purpose. But if this is happening a lot (sounds like it), and it's making you uncomfortable, absolutely say something!! To him or somebody.

[Liliyana]

Yeah it happens from time to time, now i totally understand after reading all these comments and mostly said the same as you.