I met an ex-marine and we got very close very quickly. Like within 2 weeks, we'd had sex and we'd talked about him moving into my house. I knew it was gonna end quickly because he actually told me that he hated my dog, said he would kill her and get me a new puppy. I would never leave him alone with her. Our last day was when he started bagging up some of my belongings, said I didn't need them, put them in his truck and drove away. I'm talking about prescriptions, makeup, chargers, clothes, everything. He did that because he didn't like that I kept my things in a disorderly way, not up to his standards. He could be affectionate and attentive, but he could be weird, rude, mean and controlling, too, at the drop of a hat. I ended up texting him to bring back my stuff that he stole and that I would not try to persuade him to stay in my life. He understood what I was saying, got mad, texted me that he didn't steal and told me not to call him anymore. Oops, too late, I'd already decided I'd had enough of his crazy! He did bring my stuff back, threw it in my driveway. I feel sad for him because when we met he told me that he didn't want to end up alone. Alas, I think he will. I think his experiences left him unable to function in a relationship. He did tell me that he'd committed the biggest sin, he'd killed people. Overall, I, personally, am not open to trying to relate to a marine again, but I honestly hope that he can find someone to relate to so that he doesn't end up alone.
I'm dating a marine, he served 6 years. He's not crazy, well not any crazier than other guys. He's got a raunchy sense of humor, not unlike my own lol and he's easy to get along with. He's opininated, set in his ways, and very regimented. He fears nothing. He's built like a brick house lol and lots of fun to snuggle with. You know, he's the best person I've ever been with because of these qualities. If you think he's unstable, then dont mess with him, simple as that. My dad's a Vietnam veteran and he IS crazy, so I'm a little more thick skinned I suppose. Use your common sense, if you're not comfortable with him, as with any non marine, don't stay with him.
My cousin is a Marine and he isn't 'crazy'. Of course, Marines will be a bit different since they are in the military, but I believe there are some perfectly respectable great guys who are Marines. :)
very respectable young fellas indeed ;)
Basically Marines are front line fighters many of whom have seen their friends blown into pieces, and potentially had to do things like kill (armed or threatening) women and children.
Depending on the strength of the psyche of the person involved there can be all kinds of effects from this. I know one who is a complete psychopath, extremely manipulative, who threatens women that get close to him that they better stay with him or else he will murder their families and dispose of the bodies in ways he was taught to do by the marines. This guy was dishonorably discharged from the marines for obvious reasons. He seems to think that killing people is a valid option in the civilian US world.
Other marines are just horribly distraught over the things they experienced. Many will not talk about it to any civilian, although some will with teary eyes. They may just feel that civilian life is not real, and need to spend large amounts of time with guy friends who have served before.
Then again they may just be able to adapt and leave that stuff in the past. Marines aren't really selected by extreme intelligence and emotional resilience however. And if they are able to completely leave it in the past and not talk about it, it can be even scarier and make you wonder if they lack empathy for others.
If the guy is able to relax, joke around, have fun, doesn't seem controlling, etc then you might be ok.
I'm a former Marine, I was in Fallujah Iraq in 2006 and 2007... I've seen quite a bit of shit as you guys call it. I have to say though that we aren't really brainwashed if anything a lot of us are more aware.. we get upset easy because the government doesn't take care of the problems that are a direct result of combat. I only had a week of re-orientation when I came back.. A lot of marine vets don't want to talk about it because the majority of you people ask ridiculous questions like, "did you ever kill anyone?" I've been asked this more frequently than anything else. Now I just say that I don't want to talk about it. I have to say that your comment "Marines aren't really selected by extreme intelligence and emotional resilience," seems to be just an opinion. I'm not crazy, but I definitely don't like or respect the majority of U. S. citizens.
@iraqvet if you're upset about what your government does, why join the military then? Military in your country is optional, you signed for it. You helped cause the mess in the middle east. You have no right to feel upset.
Besides any stress that he may have encountered while deployed somewhere, Marines are renown for their unique attitude on things. Most people are "Why am I doing that? What's going to happen?" and things like that. Marines generally are "Ooorahh! Let's do it!" They're trained to be aggressive, and are usually like that before even going to boot camp. I'm not saying anything bad about it, I like all the people I know who went to Parris Island. They are a crazy bunch of people, but that's what makes them Marines.
I don't recall saying "oohrah lets do it." Most of us were just generally like "Fuck it, lets go," or "dammit the Lt has a map again." But the rest of this is fairly accurate.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Marines are brainwashed to a large extent their trained to kill on command. I think you have to be a little crazy to join the marines knowing you're probably going to fight. I'm not saying marines are bad people but a lot of marines have a warped sense of the world. Check out the movie Full Metal Jacket and pay attention to how they train the troops getting ready to fight in Vietnam. Generally speaking those same methods are still used today.
Hahahaha. We aren't brainwashed. We do believe we are the best because we utterly destroy our enemies. Is it hard readjusting to civilian life? Yes, but a lot of that is due simply to people (like you) who have no comprehension how hard combat can be. We do have a difficult time trusting people who aren't our brothers (Marine brothers not biological). The boot camp scene in FMJ is fairly accurate but we don't run around Iraq/Afghanistan banging Vietnamese hookers and shooting kids in rice paddies. I was bummed. I never saw a Vietnamese hooker during any deployment.
You're a fucking idiot. We aren't brainwashed, we're enlightened as to the ways of the real world. While you were in college getting your panties in a bunch over someone making you remember something you don't like and running to the nearest "safe space," we were staring death in the face, building schools for children and kicking the shit out of bad guys. You can only wish to be like us. Only in your wildest dreams, but you'd probably wake up crying. Bitch.
You Sir, are an idiot. Talking smack about something that you know nothing about. Until you have spent your time at PI or SD. And then spent your enlistment in the fleet, don't say anything about how Marines think, act or do. Marines are well trained but not brainwashed. That is not to say that there aren't a few psychos in my Beloved Corps. But no more than are running around on the streets. We do not have a warped sense of the world. We see everything in black and white. Right and wrong. If more people had this simple outlook, this country would be in far better shape. Semper Fi Brothers and Sisters.
The marines are brainwashed I think. I dated this guy for five years who is in the marines and he was a complete jerk, but maybe you have someone who is the exception lol idk.
Can you elaborate on how he was a jerk? Like what did he do? I'm really curious. If you want to private message me instead of laying it all out here that'd be totally fine.
Cuz one guy means the whole corps is just full of jerks... all of them.
and pretty sure most girls call their ex boyfriends jerks so...
Well, they all get serious mental problems, because of the sh*t they're put through. So its actually to fair to say that all Marines undergo Psychosis. So she's not even exadurating. But, that makes them more desireable, to me, hahaha. You don't have to worry about it like.
My marines and I don't have mental problems... we are just trained to be marines.
HAHAHA... ah, good question, Enchanted. Some of my buddies of mine are military, two of which are marine, and they will clearly admit that they are crazy. The core teaches them to kill, so imagine what that does to your sense of liberties. Though that does keep them sane in a sense, coming back to "civilized America", as they called it, was not easy. So I can understand why you might have trouble adjusting to a marine, as the marine is having some trouble re-adjusting to civilian life...
yeah, they see a lot of sh*t... it's hard psychologically to see people getting killed.
I don't remember what he said he did in the Marines. But he was a sergeant so does that mean he's killed?
so what if he's killed or not doesn't make him a bad person. He did his duty which you should recognize and be thankful for
They`ve been through a lot and seen a lot, they will be suffering psychological harm so some people tend to think they are "crazy" I find marine guys hot but I wouldn`t want a proper relationship with them
Just crazy enough to keep America safe and free... More than likely a good guy... Counds like your sister has some interesting view about other things too? LOL Also they are pretty good at keeping a clean house... The real fact is they are a bit anal about cleaning... Just ask them... :)
I would love to be with a man from the service. They are so dreamy to me. I guess because there is something about them that makes me feel like they can protect me from anything...idk. Anyhow you should date him!
They can't protect you from anything, but they can probably do a better job than untrained guys on average. There are untrained or guys with martial arts backgrounds that beat up military trained men... and being trained doesn't make you bulletproof, immune to car accidents, or protect you from the cops if you are a hot head.
you sisters a f***in bitch... if I had my way people who say that stuff would be lynched
You don`t even know her sister so you shouldn`t call her a bitch, is that what you call every person who has a different opinion other than the one you`ve got? Grow up
Thanks for your advice mom... don't need it thanks
its all good son
I have a few friends and family members in the Marines and they are no more crazy than any other guy. I guess some of them might have PTSD or something, but I'm sure that most people that are on the front lines in a war zone would bring a little of that home with them.
Well marines is direct combat sooo, might have some PTSD
We're crazy. We'll eat your children. Stay away from us.
Absolutely insane! we don't just eat your children, we use their bones to dig the dog crap out of our boots.
If they're freaking out about the babies, don't tell them what we do to the puppies
I guess they may have post traumatic stress disorder and they may have issues adjusting to civilian life but I would not say the are psychos or anything.
I was in the army for 4 years as an infantryman and I'm actually quite timid and quiet. I think servicemen in general are stereotyped. I have 2 couisins in the marines. One is still a big mama's boy the other is a goofball. The marines didn't make them killers or change their personality much. I was taught how to kill in the army but I'm far from crazy. Marine corps training is training is tough but the marines are mostly all image.
you can take your sisters advice, even though it does not apply to everyone in the military, marines are people who would protect or just want to risk their life to deal with firearms, my cuson was pretty crazy back then, and guess what, he ended up in the military free of will
Are Marines crazy? No more than anyone else. The difference between Marines and the rest of you is that a Marine (or very select units in the Army and Navy docs) are willing and capable to act on the dark thoughts that flow through the human mind that is required for victory on the battlefield. Marines do not shun their duty, they remain composed under fire, we will sacrifice everything for our brothers (or good whiskey) and backing down is stamped out of us. Civilians need to understand that the attitude and actions of Marines are taught to recruits and young Marines to elicit the proper reaction while under fire. Are Marines crazy? No. We are trained. To the asshat that says we kill on command: we aren't robots. Marines are taught to think, we are taught to follow orders but not unlawful ones. Honestly, asking if Marines are crazy simply because of who we are is akin to saying are all women whores? I mean you were born with the equipment and most of you have the training.
YUT!!!
I am a Marine that just graduated boot camp. None of this is true. In my experience with the corps nobody has PTSD unless just a slight abnormality from the terror of boot camp. I've woken up a few times screaming "aye aye sir" but that's it. We're trained to kill, yes, but only the enemy. I like to wear my combat boots and dog tags along with my MCMAP belt so everybody knows I could potentially kill them but it never comes across my mind to do it. I saw some pretty horrific things "over there". We had one guy try to kill himself just like in full metal jacket. Overall Marines are just like everybody else but trained to kill on command. I want to go out of this world like I came in, screaming covered in someone else's blood but with a KA BAR in my hand this time! Ooh rah!
Sounds like you had the same bootcamp experience like anyone else. The cadence in your head never goes away. Just saying..
I know a lot about the military. I've dated some guys in the military, a lot of my family is in the military. I respect the military. But to be honest, I've never met a marine that wasn't an a**hole. I know nice ones must exist, but I've never found one.
maybe not so much a**hole, but more like type a personality. But until I go overseas and willingly get shot at for a living I have no place to judge.
We are just guys that have a job, the only thing that makes us different is we usually have a slightly warped sense of humor, we are also willing to do anything for our friends and families. If someone has a negative experience with a Marine, blame the individual as a person, not because they are chose a certain path in life whether for 4 or 20+ years. We are just people who have had experiences in life that most people that haven't served can't understand. Anyone who hasn't served with us has no right to talk on our behalf. It's that simple, I'm sorry you had a bad experience with your boyfriend, that stuff happens regardless of occupation though.
well military training does put you through severe psychological stress. you're trained to be desensitized to death, pain and suffering, essentially numbing yourself to any real emotion or attachment. some people can handle this, others cannot. have you never seen the movie jarhead? brothers? or have you ever heard of leonard lake and charles ng? or watch ID on television? its not uncommon to hear ex military members gone psycho...
BUT...not everyone in the military goes crazy, just as not every civilian is sane.
How many of the latest mass casualty shooters were veterans? 1 and that idiot was a terrorist anyways.
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