Are guys likely to grow attached to a FWB?

Well I have experience with this from girlfriends, and they all seem to fall for guys they have sex with more than once. I am exactly the same, and kind of starting to like a guy that I've slept with a few times (not an official friend with benefit though), and I'm well aware that he's not after anything more than sex even though we talk a lot, but I am just wondering if you guys are likely to grow attached to someone you are sleeping with, or just do it for the benefit and separate the two things from each other. Some of you guys might not agree with what I am doing, but after all it's my choice.
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I appreciate the honest answers you guys! Sometimes it's good to hear the cold hard truth :)
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  • yes. they often do. but if someone does not want a relationship, they will not admit to getting attached. he will deny it.

    man or women. feelings do not matter much. its what you do volitionally.

    for ex. if you were attached, but were not interested in a relationship, you would not be asking this question. you are only asking the question, because you stupidly got involved sexually with a guy, that you knew did not want a relationship, & you knew you were not against one.

    forget about worrying if guys get attached it does not matter. if he says he does not want a relationship, he does not want a relationship.

    if he gets attached in the context of not wanting a relationship, hell feel humiliated, & hell resent -you-.

    so you won't get anything -good-from someone who says they do not want a relationship-if you want a relationship.

    If you are felling in love, you can't help that. if you are angling for a relationship, you are going against the agreement. unless you have no agreement.

    you can talk to him, see if he changed his mind. if he didnt, you can then continue having- just- sex. or you can stop having sex with him.

    anyways...he told you he didn't want a relationship, so attached or not attached, I wouldn't expect anything from him.

    • Yea, well he hasn't actually said that he doesn't want a relationship, it is just what I assume. He has been sleeping with a lot of girls, but has also had serious relationships. But I guess the best thing is just to forget about him. I'm not gaining anything from it in the long term. Appreciate the honest answer!

    • no problem. and yea, if he's sleeping with lots of girls, hell be less likely to cling to any of them in particular. but in general, you can always ask. no harm there. good luck ;)

  • Well yes and no, but I what I can tell you is that my current boyfriend and I started out as strictly fwb, before we got into the whole friends with benefits we agreed that it'll be only physical because we didn't want to get into a relationship, but as time went by..after a month later..I started developing feelings for him and so did he after a couple of months later. It can happen :).

Most Helpful Guys

  • The answer is no.

    If he wanted a relationship with you, he'd be persuing a relationship. He isn't, and letting him have sex with you is almost certainly going to make it LESS likely that he would, because he'd already be getting everything he wanted.

    There might be a very small percentage of exceptions, but the odds are stacked against you in a big, big way.

    You recognize that you are like the majority of women; you are not able to have sex with someone without falling for them. That makes you NORMAL. So, now that you know this about yourself, you need to act on it. That means, you shouldn't be having sex outside of a relationship. Not because it's morally wrong (IMO, it isn't), but because you KNOW that you will get hurt by it when you fall for the guy and he doesn't feel the same way.

  • I mean it depends on the guy. I myself think I could get attached to someone I have sex with on a regular basis that I can also converse with & hangout. All these things basically make a relationship except it isn't made as official. I'm sort on both sides of the fence with it but that's just me.

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  • Only if he doesn't have sex with many girls.

    Otherwise, sex will deepen love but not create it out if thin air.

  • You can't help it. Falling in love is a chemical reaction (often triggered off with one whom you have good sex with!)

  • No. Very unlikely in fact.