Are men only after sex?

Having worked as a relationship expert, advice columnist, therapist and psychic I have been consulted by hundreds of men over the years. Many of them have got the hots for some woman who they are desperate to see. Sometimes those men are already with a wife or with a girlfriend, maybe that relationship has become too predictable and boring, maybe there is no sex, so they have this urge to find someone, some other woman, who they think will be the answer to their problems. Any man who is in the position of being in a boring relationship sees a new woman coming along, and becoming his bit on the side, as some sort of solution for HIM. No way can it be one for her.

In rare cases I have known of women who do not want to get married or live with a guy, these women might settle for a guy who is already in a relationship and has no intention of ending it. She might believe his excuses and lies about why he is not leaving, she might be very busy and not have more time to give him anyway, she might be in it for the financial benefits, wanting to see him so long as he takes her to expensive places and splashes the cash. Most men realise that if they do not splash the cash it will not get off the ground, or it will not last long. Because as we all know women can find a mate or a sex partner far easier than a man can and she can charge a lot for it too.

Some men have this fantasy that a married woman, or a woman who is spoken for, is somehow fair game.She must be gagging for it, her husband must have lost interest in her ( he assumes this because his wife has lost interest in him). He then assumes that she is chomping at the bit to be his bit on the side. In some cases this is so way out and ridiculous it is laughable. I have had men trying this on with me where they expect me to take a day off of work (unpaid) just so that they can pop in for an hour of sex now and then! Other men have such an exciting life, good looks, personality and cash that some women will be eager to oblige. But most sensible married women would either get a divorce if it is not working at home - or find a SINGLE man who is at their beck and call and can see them when it suits them, more often.

There are a lot of men who only want a woman as a sexual convenience and many of them lie about it. They know that if they were honest they would never get anywhere. So they might lie and say they love her or lie and say they want to get married.

Some women let men treat them so badly they will never be happy - go to why women who are too needy .

But there are some very nice men out there, decent, kind, honest, caring men who are not just wanting fun , who genuinely do want to get together with a woman as a person, not just an object, and who would never dream of hurting them or letting them down intentionally.

If only some women could see that the sort who only want to use a woman are not worth bothering with, it would mean I get a lot less clients come to me. A quarter of the clients who come to me for psychic readings and therapy are simply with a man they are not compatible with or who hurts them and would not need to run around to a therapist or psychic if they got rid of him. Being single is not that bad, and it is a darn sight better than being hurt by someone who does not care about you.

Are men only after sex?

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