Are men really that into giving?

Question

Are men really that into giving oral sex as this site makes it seem?

The biggest surprise for me since having been on this app is how much guys are really into giving oral sex to their female counterparts. It’s refreshing, especially since I love sucking dick, but it’s also shocking.

Are most men really into it? I’ve even seen a lot of men on here say they enjoy it more then receiving? Is that really true?

NamerOfStars · Accepted Answer

Some are, definitely. As I suspect it is with women who also enjoy giving, it's not so much about the act of stimulating specific body parts as it is the reaction you get; it's not about your experience but hers, if you see what I'm saying. There's a real feeling of power that comes with driving someone into an orgasm so potent that they lose physical control of their bodies in a wave of pleasure, so it's good for those seeking dominance, and of course the whole "giving to give pleasure to another person" works great for those looking for submission means it works either way for that.

Then there's the penis anxiety angle. Penis size matters to most women; to what degree varies. But it matters more to men- usually a LOT more. Social ideas ("she MUST reach orgasm every time, without exception, and it's entirely your responsibility and YOUR FAULT if she doesn't!") and porn often leave guys worried about their ability to perform, which can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. In a weird way, giving oral becomes a kind of security blanket for a lot of guys, who know that having that as a fallback takes some of the pressure off. In any case, to look down (or up, depending on positioning) at a person convulsing in wild abandon and know that you caused it can be very reassuring, and serve as a reminder that no matter how incompetent you may FEEL at any given moment, at least you can still do that. It can be quite the confidence booster.

I think the biggest element, though, is the way that sex so often becomes transactional to people- if you let it, you lose a lot of the joy of simply expressing your love, and it becomes about scoring points, and doing "favors", sexually speaking, for one another, which you naturally expect to be repaid at some point. If you can keep that from setting in, you'll have a LOT more fun. Perhaps it's because of their having sex with people on a more casual basis, but a lot of guys see it as something of a failure if they "need" to resort to using their mouths; they think their penises should be enough. Which they CAN, if you're creative and persistent, but why limit yourself? I obviously don't know how often that attitude of "I don't need to" translates into "I don't", but I doubt you'd hear so many complaints about the lack if it didn't exist. I'm hardly a great sexual expert, but it's always seemed to me that if you really care for the person you're having sex with, you'd want to satisfy them, and be willing to go some length to do so; maybe that doesn't mean breaking out the whips and chains right away, but oral is hardly that extreme.

And yes, some guys really DO like giving better than receiving, but that usually doesn't mean they don't like receiving, too.

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

We do exist. Not sure if it's in overall large numbers but there are a lot of us on this site who do love eating out, yes.

HighlyVolatile · Answer

I definitely like giving more than receiving but mainly because receiving puts me in a sort of submissive position in my mind (I'm 0% sub according to some test).

That said, I don't like giving so much as though I enjoy the act so much on its own. I do it mainly because it gets women very aroused for intercourse, and I also like to bring them to a climax first before intercourse aiming for a second one through intercourse.

I just see it as a prerequisite before intercourse to give and bring the woman to climax. Then I get my turn to really have fun.

KrisPW · Answer

I haven't dated a man yet that refused to give. Some were more attentive than others, but no outright refusals. Not sure I could stay with a man that wasn't interested in it at all honestly.

RobT312 · Answer

Yeah I really love it. getting vs. giving is a tossup however… I suppose if I had to pick, receiving has the edge for me

DonkeyDan · Answer

I don't prefer it over receiving but I do love giving it.

Dargil · Answer

I prefer giving oral sex to any other sexual act. I can't explain it but it is true.

RealMarek · Answer

There are definitely men interested in giving, especially those who like seeing their woman have pleasure.

MrtoddsWildRide · Answer

YES!  The moans and squirms are wonderful

Mr1derful · Answer

I am yes. She needs to be fresh clean and pref shaven though. Thanks!

MysticDevice · Answer

Yes. I love making her squirm with pleasure.  I've only done it a handful of times but its something I want to get good at.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes; we are.

Staximus · Answer

Why would it be shocking that a man is as into eating pussy as you are into sucking dick?

Shamalien · Answer

There’s a lot of sissy cuck men on here who are desperate and will basically be a slave to any woman who pays them the slightest bit of attention. We can make fun of em all day, but the low self esteem instilled in them by their single mother’s projecting their hatred of baby daddy onto the offspring is no laughing matter; it really is a problem.

Fuentes · Answer

Yeah i like it but i like busting nuts more

Guardian45 · Answer

Yup. It's my go to fave!

GMANN56 · Answer

There has been only one time that I had fucked with a woman who I did not go down on first. Because of her non existent hygiene. In retrospect I should have skipped the sex altogether.