Are men with fetishes best avoided for serious relationships?

[Anonymous]

[connemara_crocodile]

I have a very weird fetish and I'm in a serious and healthy relationship. I just keep it for myself.

The only downside is that I do need to feed that fetish, so I watch quite some related porn and sometimes I even chat with the content creators about those fetishes.

[AngryCarl2]

All men have fetishes. It might be a mainstream fetish like lingerie or it might be something disgusting. Maybe women have fetishes too?

[Ms_Facesitter]

No, but men who put their fetishes first above anything else when dating should best be avoided.

[Vázquez613]

Wow, exactly. I agree 100%. Someone who only talks about nothing but their fetish should be avoided. But someone who shows they are a good person first should be given a chance. More than likely, if you like the person enough, you will want to engage in their fetish with them. I was scared I would only see mean girls commenting on here. But if I am being honest, I have seen too many people act very disturbingly and have 0 social skills and just start talking about their fetish and give you no time to process things. They usually just try to force you to accept it now and don't respect boundaries. I am happy you said this.

[Ms_Facesitter]

@Vázquez613 I mean, you can trust me to be open, just check my username :p But a person focused on sex is a red flag, not really the fetish but sex as a whole. They're only people for hookups or some short term relationship.

[Vázquez613]

@ms_facesitter I don't anyone really enjoys short term dating hook ups. I mean everyone that does a situationship just for a little bit feels it's dumb after a while. I mean that is find if you tell me. But you obviously have more to you than just that. And I think people over simplify sex too. It's something that is very complex. It's what you do when you make another human. Just simplifying it to something that is casually done is kind of silly. The fetishes I understand, but sex after a while I just feel kind of stupid just doing it casually. And it is very hard to find people that love for both men and women. So doing something that we do to create another person just feels really awkward after a while.

[Guy13]

No one knows but relational counselor could be helpful in this capacity.

[Gent207-2]

Everyone has a kink or fetish that ranges between healthy and unhealthy.

There is also more to sex than kinks and fetishes. What are the values or limits? Do they respect yours? Etc.

[Dargil]

Not necessarily. If he stays clear of them with you, it's not a problem. He may look at AV to sublimate them, but let him do that. I also have some fixations but I don't try to make my wife play into them.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Everyone who isn't asexual has fetishes. A fetish is just something that turns them on.

[PointTaken]

Depending on the fetish

[Juxtapose]

Gee you sound like you're fun at parties.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No one is fun at parties though, parties aren't fun. Fetishes can be though. 🤔

[Juxtapose]

@TheSpaceGnome you're going to bad parties.

[TheSpaceGnome]

All parties are bad, but then I don't like parties 😂

[Still-alive]

Women got em too lol

[peterrezeeek]

no.. cuz everyone of us has one at least

[Guardian45]

No, that's discriminatory

[SoJust]

I dont fetishes realitonships

[Anonymous]

No, that doesn’t make any sense because most men have fetishes

[Anonymous]

It depends on whether you are ok with his fetish.

[Anonymous]

Why, you don't want a guy loving you and your feet?