Are most men like irrational, stupid animals?

Question

I told my boyfriend to sleep with his ex girlfriend or other girls during an argument and he does that after only a week or so.
I've noticed in some stories where another women opened the topic too. Someone else in anger told her man "go sleep with models for all I care" and the next day he was searching for porn stars. He gave the same excuse "but you told me to do so and it's not cheating".

I agree it's not cheating but really, you took us seriously? Your primal instinct came first than your feeling for me? Really? No common sense.

razelove · Accepted Answer

That goes both ways. We are two halves of a species, if one gender is "irrational, stupid animals", then the mirror reflection is as well.

It isn't an excuse, you gave explicit permission to get away from a shrill, whining voice, and see what else is out there. Yes, it ends many many relationships... when the guy finds someone else to sleep with and leaves. It's not a stupid play to get away from someone who makes you miserable.

Your expectation that mind reading be "common sense" is far more irrational. Also when that feeling is anger, no, the feeling is still there. Where your guy is stupid is looking up porn stars instead of calling an ex, or that girl who's always wanting to talk for no reason at all and asking to just hang out.

Sometimes you get exactly what you wish for.

fjh80 · Accepted Answer

Well normally, I'd say that men are the more rational ones, but in this case... maybe not so much. I will ask however, why would you tell your man to go fuck someone else? You know that's not what you want.

Anyway... I and most men know that women aren't rational, because they say things like, "go fuck someone else." But that's the point. We (meaning MOST men) know that "go fuck someone else" doesn't mean go fuck someone else.

I guess I think that these guys are just using your words against you as an excuse to go fuck someone else. Maybe they think that, that means you're going to fuck someone else. Maybe they don't like you saying that, so it's like 'you got what you wanted! how do you feel now?'
However, to me, that's just them using an excuse. It's childish.

aarnasen · Accepted Answer

Some men are, some men aren't. Regardless, your boyfriend is disloyal. No matter how many times you say it, he isn't supposed to sleep with someone that would anger you.

DaisyM23 · Accepted Answer

I mean it’s kinda cheating if you go through with it but whatever And yeah men are stupid, your boyfriend sounds stupid

MrOracle · Answer

So, YOU can say stupid, irresponsible things and you shouldn't be held accountable, but he should be? I see how that works.

in my opinion, both of you are immature and are not handling your relationship like mature adults. You're no better than he is right now, and you need to own up to that.

Either you need to start over, with a clean sheet, and agree to be honest with each other and to stand behind what you say and what you do, or you need to break up now and move on.

jaybee281 · Answer

I mean it's like you dared him to do it - So he went and did it - a girl who I was just in the talking phase with did the same thing after I was calling her out on some of her bs - She named a specific girl that I should start dating - And guess what that's exactly what I did and she was furious - So I can't imagine how you'd feel - How has it been going for you?

joshuadp1199 · Answer

for one, woman can be confusing, us men do not know what you want. Yes, we do ask ourselves "Does she really mean that?" but when we think about retaliating that argument, we know that it would lead to more arguing.
for two, it sounds like you need to watch what you say hun, not only are you aggravated and upset but so is he but probably because that he is confused on what you want. Spare him the arguments and just communicate with him letting him know what you want

OlderAndWiser · Answer

You say something incredibly stupid and then blame the guy for actually believing what you said! How stupid of him to believe you!

Actually, what happened is that when you made that statement, you told him that being exclusive and honoring your commitment was not more important than you just venting your anger, and your statement made him angry. You told him that your relationship was not THAT important. So he decided to punish you by doing exactly as you suggested.

Yes, that is childish on his part but it was YOUR childish comment that set this chain of events in motion. This NEVER would have happened but for the crazy invitation you extended to him. He has just as much reason to be angry at you so I would suggest you step back and look at this from a different perspective. . . if you actually care about this relationship.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

No it’s cheating, end of, trust and respect. it’s broken, the relationship is over.

MrBadd · Answer

The problem here is that you're all a bunch of children.

mistixs · Answer

No they're not

NathanDavis · Answer

There has to be a lot more to all this, than just this one argument... I really doubt that this happened just because of your suggestion for him to mess around, this was perhaps just the latest incident on a longer chain of incidents... but you would know way better about that.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Why would you tell someone to do the opposite of what you want? You can't complain about how you feel because you communicated irrationally. Men use logic to make choices, your choice of words came from an emotional place. Hold yourself accountable for what you said

slatyb · Answer

A fair number of people. Trump got 72 million votes.

kkirk4442 · Answer

If the men you are around are irrational, stupid animals, then you need to find some other men to be around. However, when a man gets hard, and gets horny, he can start acting pretty stupid, when he starts following his other head.

boggboss · Answer

If your in a argument to the point where u tell your partner to sleep with someone else and he does you are both retarded who does that who says for there partner to sleep with someone thats irrational

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It's has nothing to do with sense, he's just doing something that he knows will hurt you.

FakeName123 · Answer

With that attitude I can do nothing but laugh at the guy banging his ex after you said something this dumb. You really deserve each other.

Redstang88 · Answer

So it’s irrational to do exactly what you told us to do?

Browneye57 · Answer

You fail to understand the male psyche. This will be your undoing, I can nearly guarantee it.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

First that you even suggest such an idea is bizarre to me. Next, that the men in your world all follow suit is a testimony to the quality of men you favor towards in a relationship.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Primal animals respond negatively to cruel speech said in anger. Dogs do it. Cats do it: in 2007 a tiger broke out from a zoo and attacked three people, killing one, for taunting it.