Ideally, I'd want my girlfriend to be between 6 inches and a foot shorter than me; and for her to weigh somewhere between 65 and 80% as much as I do. However, I'm 5'8" tall (172cm), and weigh 10st 3lbs (65kg). I prefer smaller breasts, and as little body hair as possible (including pubic hair), and I don't care if she has a small ass. I'd like her to be at least 2 years younger than me; and I'd like her to be innocent, joyful, bubbly and carefree, full of energy and possessing a vibrant personality, all of which are supposedly 'childish' traits and qualities. And I also find Asian girls most attractive. In appearance, my ideal girlfriend would look something like this: So then, are my sexual preferences pedophilic in nature? Given that most girls who'd be small, slender and petite enough to tick all of my sexual preferential boxes would be underage (in the Western World, at any rate), are they enough to categorize me as a pedo? I'm a black man, and any time I've given away any hints that I consider smaller, petite women to be sexually attractive, I've been accused of being a pedo by my "full-figured" female relatives. Am I one?
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FreiburgerXper 7
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"I'd like her to be at least 2 years younger than me"
That's the only important thing here. The website says that you're aged 18-24, and so at worst you're guilty of ephebophilia - not paedophilia. But it sounds to me like you want a somewhat submissive, innocent and fun-loving female partner that allows you to take care of her. That's a pretty common, if unrealistic (in this day and age) wish. Heck, there's a BDSM fetish for that (DDLG). Unless you go out of your way to find underage women, I don't think that you're really a pedo. I think you will end up having to settle for a woman who weighs a little over 5" and weighs 7 stone, but that's just down to demographics.
So long as you find an adult woman who enthusiastically consents to being your partner, and likes you treating her like this then there's nothing anyone can criticise you about.
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I'm not actually 18-24. I'm actually 28-34; put myself down as having been born in 199_ instead of 198_ by mistake. Her being at least two years younger than me would just mean that she'd ideally still be in her twenties, as opposed to being in her early thirties like myself. Is that more acceptable?
Freiburger
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Nothing at all wrong with wanting a partner in their 20s.
ak667Yoda
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I have a Hispanic friend who is a good guy but he always pisses me off here in Japan describing women in their 20s, sometimes even 30s, as looking like "teenage boys". There's plenty of signs of aging as well as femininity among Asian women, the way to tell is just different from Western women.
Pedophilia is being attracted to minors too young and too immature to give consent, not being attracted to women whose features of aging and "femininity" are more subtle than some other ethnicities.
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ak667
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You're also not gay if you like women with small breasts. Geez! :-D
ak667
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His idea is like woman has to have big breasts, big butt, or else she's not a "real woman". And the reason that irritates me more is not because of the implications it has on me (being from Japan), who find Asian woman attractive (but not exclusively), but on the women who could end up developing all sorts of insecurities from such an attitude.
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That's what my BBM black momma says. And my aunts. And even my little sister, even though she herself's borderline small enough to meet my physical preferences, even after having given birth to two kids; she's the loudest when it comes to accusing me of having deviant sexual preferences, and she accuses me of being a pedo just for finding Asian and white girls in general sexier than black girls.
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ak667
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One thing you could say in defense at least for Asian women is that they do actually carry more body fat than one might think. They might be described as "skinny" but they're usually not "lean", because they actually have less dense bones and muscle mass on average than Western women, e. g. And body fat is tied to fertility, but Asians actually carry plenty of it (they're slim but soft), and generally have no trouble bearing plenty of children. Other is just from a visual arts perspective, there are a lot more nuanced features that distinguish male from female anatomy than large breasts and butts. Even the skeletal structure is different, down to a greater tilt of the pelvis and lower spine for females, narrower shoulders, slimmer neck, reduced eyebrow ridge, smaller jaw, etc. There's a boatload of "femininity" to find in an Asian woman, let alone a slim and tiny Western woman of any color.
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Yep, that's what my sis says too- that non-black women 'aren't real women', because their breasts and butts aren't big enough, and that I should be going for 'big and beautiful black girls' instead. Even though she's short, slim and petite herself.
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