Are promiscuous girls not girlfriend material?

My ex dumped me after he heard from my sexual past and now i wonder if i dont have a chance with love no more.

My parents had a open relationship and were swingers and so i grow up with the thought that this was normal and so i started having sex at age of 12 and until now i had sex with 50+guys and many girls, i am 20. But i never felt happy and stopped doing it cause i know now having sex with feelings with only one person forever is more special.

There is this guy friend of me i know for 5 years now whom i like now a lot. I ignored him sexually all my life cause others looked better than him but now that i am after more than just sex i like him and i can see myself being with him together.

He knows everything about my sex life, like everyone else knows.

I want to get together with him but i honestly dont know how to do it, how to ask him out and such stuff. by the way he is 19 and a virgin.

Are promiscuous girls not girlfriend material?
How to get together with him?
How to convince him that i am worth it if he sees my past negatively?
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For everyone that is interested. I didn't wanted to wonder what if and so i asked him out. Well... what happened? He said he likes someone else and that he never saw me more than a friend. Aww shit it hurts. And then i embarrassed myself. I asked him if it was because of my sexual past while looking desperatly. There he told that he doesn't cares about my past but if he would date anyone than only someone with similar (sexual) values as him and therefore he wouldn't probably be with a promiscuous
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girl. I try to stay friends with him but at the end i got an answer. Thank for your help.
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  • "I ignored him sexually all my life cause others looked better than him but now that i am after more than just sex i like him and i can see myself being with him together."

    When I first read this, I thought maybe the guy just had a very closed mind about sex. Maybe he does.

    But when I read that sentence you wrote, did he have feelings at all for you in those 5 years? My guess is if he did, and he was ignored, he now sees you coming on to him only after your previous exploits didn't deliver what you wanted. It's not about the fact that you've had a lot of sex, it's more so he felt ignored and is reluctant. Especially if this is his virginity he's talking about.

    • I dont think he liked me in this 5 years. When we first met he dated another girl and in these 5 years he had 2 gfs. But i think he might like me now.

  • You would have to find a guy that is willing to look past your past and if he is willing then your a lucky girl. Hint at taking thing further with him or in my opinion what's best is just be open and tell him how u feel and if he accepts then yay! But if not don't get discouraged there are guys out there with the same type of past and won't give a second thought to being with you. (New guys that don't know you don't have to know about ur past sexual relations unless they ask for extreme detail and you want to be with them and be honest then just be honest). I wish you the best of luck.

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  • You're a MGTOW guy posing as a girl, writing a question you think will provoke some reaction of remorse from whores like myself, nice try.

    Most men will settle with anything, because they are desperate and clueless, when they do settle with a so called decent girl and she fails them sexually, they become sexually frustrated and end up assault innocent women, so by that reality, no woman is really pure in a world of predatory men who are always horny.

    I was raped at seventeen by a man who had a girlfriend, he then forced me into a relationship with him for a year, and tried to marry me behind her back.

    • Your argument is uncogent and fallacious. It has a sterotyping fallacy and therefore this opinion is wrong and shouldn't be given any more thought.

    • @bluntmonkey420 Sure, because I'm a woman denied knowledge and education I can't google what the fuck those words mean? Your words don't scare me, and it doesn't make you look smart to me. My statement should be given all the thought in the world, it's also the voice of many women ashamed of common experiences. You're sick and twisted trying to disregard the truth to men's desires to curb women's sexual freedom. Stop confusing and destroying women because of your own fear of inadequacy, now bye.

    • @bluntmonkey420 Oh and since preaching and promoting modesty is such a great way to go, why are christian women the biggest whores, and why does the church have more sex secrets than anyone else, huh sicko?

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  • Without pulling punches, you will have to search hard to find a guy that will really accept your past. What seemed like normal fun back then, has caught up with you. You cannot undo the past.

    You will have to convince most guys that they are not going to be just "another number".

    • Thank you for MHO!

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  • It comes down to health and consent:
    If you are healthy (no STDs) your partner has no right to know what/who/how many you did prior.
    If your partner gives his/her consent, you can continue to do so.

    Follow both things and you are gf/wifey-material

  • For most of the guys out there promiscuous girl aren't girlfriend material. I won't say that's good nor bad. It is what it is.
    If he sees promiscuous girls negatively he won't date you. He could just use you for sex. But since he's your friend I don't think that'll be the case. I think you should look for a guy with a similar experience in sex than you.

  • I agree, at least for me, promiscuous women should be reserved for promiscuous men, others don't deserve to be screwed over.
    With all due respect, you might be a great person in real life, but that is just my opinion on the topic

    • You took the words out of my mouth

    • @pinkanon if anyone is to home then its your parents. And I repeat, you might be a gem of a person, but your past is pushing you miles and miles away from being girlfriend or wife material, I am assuming you might not be that big on becoming wife material, if you are the al the best to you. But I'll I can try to create a scenario which will help you understand his side of the view. Think of dating a promiscuous man with a count of over 100 or 200 maybe, and let's see how you fare with trust issues, insecurities and still manage to love him without a spec of problem. Not judging you, but trying to help you see things from a different perspective.

    • @dean7 😊

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  • My girlfriend was promiscuous before we met and she's an incredible girlfriend and definitely girlfriend material

  • I believe you shouldn't think like that, all girls as all boys could be a girl/boy friend material, because there is no such a thing as a perfect way of relationship. Just find someone who accepts you the way you are.

  • I'm gonna be direct with you. Your past screams red flag in all caps. You are considered a very high risk for any guy looking for a committed relationship. Because a lot of girls with pasts like yours do all of these things:
    1. They initiate breakups and divorces more often because of their inability to pair bond since they've had sex with so many partners, so they won't be willing to stick it out with their boyfriends/husbands when times get rough.
    2. They are more likely to have severe mental problems or drug/alcohol issues.
    3. They would tarnish a guy's reputation of him committing to someone who has been passed around the block.
    4. AND MOST IMPORTANT, they cannot insure paternity. It's one of the most devastating things to happen to a man when he finds out that the child he busted his ass caring for was never his when all this time he thought it was. Many guys have lost their minds, been put in mental institutions and have even put bullets in their head when they realize this. They want a woman who can ensure that the child that she is carrying is no doubt his child, and a woman with a high body count or a bad past cannot ensure that for him.

    That's why it's a risk. I hate to break it to you, but it's the truth.

  • Most guys don't want a girl who ignored him for years while she slept with hotter guys and then only goes to him after she failed to have anything serious with the countless random guys she slept with.

  • No, that is why they are called promiscuous...

  • Promiscuous girls are great fun to date and are usually much for adventurous but you should also expect a certain amount of cheating. However, the cheating is usually just one night stands and not full on affairs

  • How can anyone be with someone who is promiscuous? It wouldn't even be a relationship... it be like friends with benefits.

  • There are guys out there that love sharing their wives with other men for some reason you type of girls find yourselves with guys that want an relationship. Or at least look for guys that just want sex with no commitment if you’re looking for a real relationship probably not going to happen not unless he has an back ground like your own.

    • Leave him alone, look for a guy with a back ground like your own. Tbh if I was that guy I wanted you and you neglected me for soo long watching you with other guys then you turn around and come back to me like “Forrest Gump” it’s not going to be a good experience for you young lady.

    • Thanks for the update

  • let me answer this with another question: is a fuck boy not boyfriend material?

  • Not to me, but that's a personal preference, how easy a girl is, at least to me is a direct reflection on how much she respects her self.. same goes for guys by the way.

  • Jeeeeeezus, that's terrible. I wouldn't touch a chick who's been with that many guys. You could literally smell all the dick emanating from her septic snatch standing 10 feet away.

    "There is this guy friend of me i know for 5 years now whom i like now a lot. I ignored him sexually all my life cause others looked better than him but now that i am after more than just sex i like him and i can see myself being with him together."

    That's just fucking mean. Don't do that to him. He deserves better than that trash attitude. If he wasn't good enough for you then, then you're for sure not good enough for him now.

  • Well its not your fault, your parents just have bad parenting skills.

    It's like if a druggie started saying it's ok to be a drug addict to their kids.

    Well yes if you want a real relationship most guys wouldn't want his girl to be sleeping around.

    You can try finding a guy that's ok with swinging and be like your parents.

  • If you are no longer promiscuous then he will know that as well? You were a pretty shallow girl weren't you? But now that your older and want more than a dick don't expect people to forget. You must see him more often and in places that have nothing to do with sex or a deviant life style. If you want to be bold ask him if you could talk about your problem and his advise. Go some place other than a bar or club. If he is interested and you tell him so he will respond.

  • The fact that you have been in homo and Hetero sex relationship which puts others in high risk of STD including the baby if you get pregnant. However if you mend your ways seriously maybe it’s possible otherwise the guy deserves someone of his expectation as much as you have your expectations

  • They're not girlfriend material

    • lol @ ignored him then now when it suits you, you demand he have feelings for you

  • No they're not

  • Most men wouldn't date a women who has banged over 50 guys and many women. It's damaged goods. And shame, you want to date a guy you aren't really sexually attracted to, let him find a girl that is sexually attracted to his looks.

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