Are sex and love two separate things?

Isn't it so, that one would never have sex (even casual sex) with a person who they aren't also able to fall in love with?

Are you capable of separating love and sex?
And if so, how?

Enlighten me with your perspectives on the matter. I'm curious about the g@g community's opinion on this.
Are sex and love two separate things?
Yes they are separate
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No they come as a package deal
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Okay, first off all, thank you all for your opinions. So the majority says they are two separate things. And if they truly are two separate things, then please explain to me how, why is everyone so hung up on monogamous relationships and why do most people fear infidelity if one (sex) doesn't have to do with the other (love)? (not always anyway)
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  • Yes they are two separate things you can love someone and not have sex with them right? I mean you love your mom and don't have sex with her you can love your kids and you definitely don't have sex with your kids. I've been told by my wife that we have to be deeply in love to have such good sex, but she's wrong I've had mind blowing sex with other females before we were married and it was just sex. I didn't love them I just enjoy sex and the more often you have sex the longer you can last and if you know few things you can get them theirs several times and bigger than they're used to. For most women anyways as far as the bigger than they're used to. So definitely sex and love are 2 different things but with love comes trust which makes for better sex. Also when in love your sex can become more intimate, but a lot of women mistake slow soft sex the kind when you're staring into her eyes as love when it isn't always. Sometimes it's just a way of saying damn you feel good in a nice gentle way

  • They are definitely separate. Sex is a physical pleasure, similar to anything else that you might enjoy like good food, travel, or exciting activities.

    You can have sex by yourself. Some girls give blowjobs as favors to mere friends where there is no love involved. Some people just have sex for sex sake because it is extremely pleasurable. Few things are better than the sight and touch of a beautiful human body.

    Love is something completely unrelated. Love even goes beyond deep infatuation.

    Engaging in sex with someone with whom you have a deep connection is the best, but connection is not necessary. You can have an amazing sexual encounter with someone you don't even care about.

    The only thing I'll add is, hormones are released during sex. Those hormones give us the feelings that we associate with love or, more accurately, infatuation. People who have little or no experience, or who are longing for connection, might mistake those hormones for true love.

    • You should make your update a separate question.

    • You're right and I probably will ;)

Most Helpful Girls

  • I wish I had a dime for every married or "taken" woman I know that have Tinder accounts.
    To them it must be a separate thing.
    *The hubby works different hours
    * the hubby travels for work
    * the hubby spends most of his time with friends

  • For me it is... i have been in casual relations and hook ups so i dont bother much about serious stuff

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  • I believe they're case-to-case for individuals but for me, it's absolutely a package deal but in the opposite way. I don't think I could fall in love with a woman I didn't have sex with first because it's in the bedroom that I feel closest to a woman if everything goes right (or if not, strangely disconnected). I tend to start falling in love with the woman in the bedroom.

    Otherwise, I have a number of female friends and I don't see the difference if we're just hanging out and being sort of affectionate in a platonic way. That type of romantic love for me and sexuality are all blurred together, but I'm not some horndog just looking for sex. On the contrary, sex to me is like the most intimate communication you can ever have with a human being on the planet. That's what separates lovers from friends for me, and I can only fall in love with a lover, not a mere friend.

    • I think one of the reasons monogamy comes easily for me is this peculiarity. I can't develop feelings for a girl I haven't slept with, haven't shared that most intimate form of communication that you can't share with just ordinary friends. And since I'm married, I'm not going to sleep with a girl I don't have feelings towards... and so fidelity comes easily.

  • For most women, they are impossible to separate, but for most men, they are two separate things. This is probably the single most important difference between men and women and women not understanding this is one of the biggest reasons that women have so much trouble understanding men's behavior (it does also cause men to have trouble understanding women, but to a much lesser extent.)

  • They can start separate. After long enough they start getting tangled again, or at least puppy love and possessiveness. Expectations start coming into play both ways too. It's a kind of love that comes up. But without communication, it's a twisted beast, continuing such a thing without feelings, or anonymity is a recipe for disaster.

  • They come the same, but you can detach them through conditioned apathy. This kind of ruins both, though.

  • For me, sex and love are completely inseparable. They are inextricably intertwined. I simply cannot have sex unless there is love and a true connection. Otherwise it's just completely shallow and empty for me. Not interested. I've had the chance to be with beautiful women in the past, but couldn't do it because there was no connection. A fling isn't something I'm interested in. Sex is WAY better when you actually love, care for and cherish the other person on a soul-to-soul level. That kind of connection magnifies the pleasure intensity of it. But sex is so much more than just an act of pleasure. Sex is as much mental as it is physical, and when you have all those additional genuine feelings for another person, it is absolutely electric. When it is based on love, it is a spiritual expression of love and connection between two souls. Sex and love are one and the same thing for me. They cannot be separated.

  • Separate. Many people prefer sex with someone that love but that does not mean sex is love. I prefer sleeping next to someone I love but sleep is not love.

    Sex is like a very deep massage That is best when in love but cAn still be amazing.

    If you love someone everything will be an issue including sex. people don’t want people that love having sex with other people but they will not mind someone they do not love and had sex with , marrying someone else.

    • What an anology, and good explanation of the perspective👌👍

    • @Aakash_Hangargi Thanks mate 👍🏻😊

  • 😳 You?
    Love is a feeling, mood.
    Sex is an action.

  • Sex is a bonding activity between two people. Sex requires lust and can, but doesn’t have to, lead to love.

    You can definitely have sex with someone you could never really love on a deep level. I do think lots of people would call it love anyways though.

  • Yes they are separate, and I do believe in some kinds of open relationship. I think it's different for every one. I think every couple should discuss what they really want, and not always follow rules they are not happy with. What matters is the trust between the partners.
    That being said I do need some kind of connection for the sex to be better. But love is something else.

  • Interestingly, both Sex and Love are something that you do as well as something you can feel. I think they are both independent of one another. You can Love without Sex and you can have Sex without Love. I think they are stronger together, but they can operate separate from one another.

  • Love is deeper than sex. Imagine your partner as your brother. What would you do for your brother, if he was unhappy, if he was in trouble, if he was hurt? But ever further, what happens if you physically can't have sex in your relationship, what's left in the relationship id call love. Love is a feeling and sex is the physical piece of that feeling but not the whole reason for love. And love can take on many different forms in relationships including family and friends which obviously don't involve sex even though you love them

    • Interesting... More women. Say they come as a package deal...

  • Speaking only for myself, there should be some degree of fondness.

  • For guys they can be separate

  • They can be separated. Sex can have two meanings and it can be of two types. One that is done with just the feel to knock yourself out without any compassion, and the other where you just feel each and every breath of your partner..

  • Yes and no
    Sex is intimate and intimacy is part of a loving relationship. Intimacy, passion, that becomes exclusive towards your partner, which is why cheating is cheating and not just casual sex, but a partner isn't required to experience either of those things.
    They are closely related, more so than some think, but they aren't the same thing.

  • They are but they aren't.

  • Sex has nothing to do with relationships n love

  • Oh i see what you did there with your update

    I like it

  • They are separate
    You can buy sex but you can't buy love

  • Loaded question. But I would say that they are two different things, and yet a package deal at the same time. It's like the very existence of the sexes, man and woman. In the case of both concepts it's the same; you could have one without the other, but without both, how can you have humanity?

    • @update ☝🏾 I answer that above 👆🏾

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