👀 Are Sexual Fantasies Harmful for Men?

[RosieMelts]

Dreams ✨

Fantasies 💋🔥

Is it dangerous for men to indulge or entertain their sexual fantasies, as it is harmful for women to believe in ‘romance novels’ 💕

and ‘fairytales?’🪄🎀

Very few women I know in my inner circles are discouraged from believing in romance, and were told boys in school were not as “serious” about relationships, as the girls were, but it’d come later for them “with time.”

I just spoke to a nice GaG user, and he is quite impressionable 😏🥰 and our convo. did wander into sexual fantasies.

For me personally, I don’t mind sexual play, but as a virgin the main goal for me is as you may have guessed it: just to have his mini me in to my camel toe 😂 Yes, I’m speaking in code..

Anyways, it made me wonder how bout that? What about guys’ wildest fantasies, where they imagine an opening with a girl, but she turns him down, plans change, or she’s just not down to do what he was hoping for.. is it dangerous for us to have these fantasies? Or should we be more open to them in our hook up/ dating lives?

Specifically for men, should sexual fantasies be embraced?

What do YoU think? 🙃

Let me know down below!

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Image sources:

http://www.coronadocougars.net/blog/2019/11/13/disney-plus-goes-to-infinity-and-beyond/

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a35291843/secret-sex-fantasy-personality/

https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/sexual-fantasies

[Anonymous]

I think it's good to explore sexual fantasy, I mean the same thing is with romantic novels, he can indult your romantic life if you indulge his fantasies every now and again, it's all about Compromise

[RosieMelts]

Anonymous I don't know who you are but I really do appreciate your comment on this topic Thank you so much 😊🙏

[Opinion Owner]

No probs, just went anonymous as sometime people can argue on this subject but if you ever want to talk more about this let me know and I'll follow you and if you follow me back I'll DM you

[Beardedman1996]

Wouldn’t say harmful, id say if the line between fantasy and reality get to blurry for guys that’s when the disappoint themselves and who their with

[RosieMelts]

Yeah helpful to know why it’s somewhat harmful- because it can lead to disappointment, but I like your comment because it simply shows how that can be avoided 💕👌

[ohsheeT]

One of the best things about romance novels is that a woman believes in them and I don't think there's anything wrong with that because if a man is himself and not selfish like 97% of all men and he makes it all about the woman there's no reason in this world why he cannot make her feel just like those romance novels whether it's to touch a look a kiss the way that I see it at least for me anyway I can't talk about anybody else but that's what I want her to feel I want to make it all about her I want to take her to a place she's never been before and she's always dreamed of I want her to feel that passion within because it's a beautiful feeling it's one of the most beautiful feelings in the world when two energies connect like that I have many fantasies and they're not like what you would think when I have a fantasy it's about a certain person or something it's like you I could have a fantasy about you and it would be a beautiful thing not one fantasy is for all women I don't believe in that I believe each person is an individual and I'm going to have an individual fantasy because I want to make it all about them and every fantasy is different when I look into a woman's eyes I can see exactly what she wants and if she wants to feel like a romance novel that's that person I'm going to become because it's inside of me and I want her to feel the same thing that I feel

[Lliam]

For me, fantasies are like movies written, produced and directed by me. They have little bearing on reality. But the fact that they contain intense sex is a reflection of my own desires and can inspire passionate sex in real life.

I don't have any unfulfilled sexual kinks or fantasies in real life. I've done everything I ever wanted to. :-)

[RosieMelts]

Wow that’s great 😂😃 And helpful insight as well Liam, Thank you for this. 🤝🔥

[Lliam]

You're welcome, Rosie.

[dustybiker]

No. Creative minds lead to better sex.

[RosieMelts]

True, I do see a lot of people talking about being willing to try new things in the sexual arena.

[NathanDavis]

@dustybiker 101% agreed

[PeteBy]

Don't see any problem with fantasies as long as it's taken for what it is. Of course a fantasy will contain elements of reality in the sense that they'd really like to enact that if the occasion arose. In the case of sex chat it is just that. It's a fantasy tinged with thoughts, wishful thinking, maybe even with the person they're chatting to.

Nothing wrong with fantasising in general though.

[NathanDavis]

I think the outcome will greatly depend on the mindset of such man...

if his mindset is weak, immature and prone to fixations and other traits that can become problematic then yes, it could eventually turn into something that will lead them to problematic territories

but if you are sound of mind and also sharper in thought, character and behavior, then you will just be able to separate fantasy from reality, and it should not represent a problem at all, in fact... it might lead into some very interesting experiences or exploration

paired with the right person, of course... lol

[RosieMelts]

So you seem to embrace being more in the moment with an S/o and if they’re both are mentally stable/ and flexible he could get sexual fantasies as a bonus? Is this what you’re saying?

[NathanDavis]

not exactly what I said, nor what I implied... my point was not for how a man will get sexual fantasies come true my point is that for any person, man or woman... if they're more mentally stable as you put it, they will be a lot less likely to run into harm and trouble as you mentioned in the premise of your question as for those who are more into fantasy and idealization and approach reality with these in mind, they might be more susceptible to run into any kind of trouble... and this also applies to other aspects of life not just the sexual territory... lol

[RosieMelts]

Yeah I guess you misunderstood my question a bit, which led me to misunderstand your response. No biggie! I’ll just clarify: when I mentioned ‘harm’ I meant it as disappointment for the male. It’s harmful because it’s a let down to something that could possibly never happen. BUT your opinion was still quite interesting to read, and helpful. Thank you! 🤝🔥

[NathanDavis]

well my answer still applies 100% with what you mean... only a stupid man would be disappointed when he finds out that fantasy, indeed... does not meet reality... lol a mature man, would not have this happening to him, he simply knows better, the difference between the two... reality << >> fantasy

[RosieMelts]

Interesting so you just expect basic sèx with your s/o? Nothing else to it?

[NathanDavis]

again... my personal sexual experience or preferences with the SO that I do not have, are not in question here and they are not part of my point, so no, nothing I say relates to that... my answer was specific to your question only, and in the general aspect of things, it is not about my personal experience lol

[RosieMelts]

I was going to make a point with my question, but it must be intrusive and immediately closed off by you. No worries. Your feedback can still be used. Thanks 👌

[NathanDavis]

the point of a question, should be in the question... I cannot make a point that is NOT included in the question... lol so for now, I only have an opinion on the premise you clearly raised on the ones yet to be written, I would not dare to guess blindly on what that could be

[RosieMelts]

Okay so you stick to the questions and make make sure to avoid the conversations. 😂 I never felt so strongly as if ‘brainstorming’ or dialogue were not a thing. Again.. Thankyou! Lol

[NathanDavis]

okay, if you want to have a conversation that is not about your question... but it is about my actual personal sexual experience, here goes... and it is simple -- No, so far, I have had any disappointments within my sexual life and experiences... and that is primarily because I do not approach my relationships from a point of view that is of idealization and fantasizing

[RosieMelts]

I mean- did you not get a hint at my closure to this conversation? This is a closure: Thankyou for your feedback! 👌

[NathanDavis]

you got all the answers you wanted... the one you asked, and the one bonus hidden one as well if you do not care for them, that is fine too...

[RosieMelts]

Thankyou! 👌

[NathanDavis]

*goes sit at the corner to face the wall*

[RosieMelts]

👀 I humbly suggest sitting in a more comfortable and open space- with friends, family, and good natured pets 👀👍 Thanks for the feedback/ insight! 👌

[NathanDavis]

no thanks, because then I won't be able to think about what I did so wrong...

[RosieMelts]

You’re not wrong for me closing a conversation.. this is all sharing of opinions Let this be a reminder to you, me, and other GaG users old and new

[NathanDavis]

guess I can't get my lunch box either... when recess starts it's biblical camp all over again... *sigh*

[RosieMelts]

Lmfao buddy? Schools over it’s late at night. You should be home 🏡

[NathanDavis]

I know, but the forgot about me... again

[RosieMelts]

Lmao okay you can come home with me if you want… but you’ll stay with Will in the pool house 👌 #FreshPrinceOfBelAir

[NathanDavis]

he better don't slap me... I do have mean reflexes...

[RosieMelts]

Yeah don’t drop the soap 🧼.. it’s are only bar of dove left

[NathanDavis]

ew... I would never ever walk into people's shower just like that, gross...

[RosieMelts]

The pool house is just one big shower 🤫

[NathanDavis]

for a germophobe like me... it's something else, lmao

[20yearsolder]

Wild sexual fantasies may never happen in our lifetime. That's why they are called fantasies. I don't think they are anymore harmful for a man than they are for a woman. Everyone has different fantasies, some are simple to the extremely complex.

[Sixgunsound]

As long as something remains a fantasy, I don’t see the problem with thinking it. When some thing dangerous degrading or otherwise harmful becomes reality, that is a different story.

[RosieMelts]

Agreed! Well what about the fantasy kinks you’d like to try out? I. e. Handcuffs; making out in the woods? Wouldn’t it disappoint you if she doesn’t go along with it?

[Sixgunsound]

I carried handcuffs and wore body armor as a hospital public safety officer, and honestly that world and the world of intimacy with my wife are not something I would want to bring together in a sexual context. There isn’t much quicker of a way to make me go from standing at attention to flat than by thinking about all the fights and blood and injuries and horrible things human beings do to each other to put patients in the hospital…Sorry I doubt this is the answer you were looking for but it’s the one I have. Playing around in the woods is AWESOME! But she doesn’t want to, and it is very disappointing.

[RosieMelts]

😂 no your answer was indeed helpful, and I apologize for what you had to endure to see. Thank you for your contributing service, and your committed heart to the field. You mentioned the disappointment, which made me wonder again, if these sort of fantasies are even good to entertain. If entertained, I think couples and all, should at least talk about it and consider trying them for the man’s sake, and sometimes for the woman’s sake. Do you agree? Or no

[Sixgunsound]

You can’t have a good relationship without communication. We have communicated about it, and it just doesn’t interest her.

[Sixgunsound]

After having two children, one of which was a difficult birth and has special needs, she’s exhausted at the end of every day. We can’t really have ‘us’ time that we’d like to, because we have two little kids who can’t watch themselves and very little support outside of our immediate family. We don’t have a relationship with my family, and her parents both have medical issues which preclude leaning on them to watch two really busy high energy kids very often.

[RosieMelts]

Interesting, so I guess wild fantasies and dream obsessions are reserved for earlier dating and marriages? It would just take a little more effort for you both to ensure time for that as well. Not impossible but at that point I’m sure you’re both just as content with cuddles on the couch and bedroom time? Forgive me if this is too intrusive. I didn’t mean that at all

[Sixgunsound]

Not a problem. At this point the best we can do with me getting home from work at 0300 and her being exhausted from caring for children is to talk during the day and get bedroom time in when I get home from work and then go straight to sleep. The years when kids are little are difficult for the parents relationship, but getting through that is totally worth it! Are you interested in kids one day?

[RosieMelts]

Yes I get that 100%! Me interested in kids? I’m afraid not 😂😭👍

[OneManOnly01]

Usually not

[RosieMelts]

Do you ever get disappointed if your fantasies don’t play out in the bedroom or elsewhere?

[OneManOnly01]

No, if she does it just to please me, it won’t be fun anyway because she isn’t all into it. And vanilla is good too.

[RosieMelts]

Oh so you’d rather she be into it because the fantasy will always be better if that’s how she is sexually- you’re kind of wild fun, right? Or no 🤔

[OneManOnly01]

Yes, it’s only fun when she is doing it with conviction. If she only does it to please me then she’s half assing it and it’s going to be boring.

[RosieMelts]

Makes sense 🤔 truly helpful, thank you @onemanonly01

[Stoner710]

Yes and no, One (this applies to both men and women let’s face it fifth shades of gray the book is female porn) the thing is there fantasies. Would i love to have sex with a beautiful blond elf girl in the middle of a spring forest yes, is it going to happen NO. Just like it’s not going to happen that you find Prince Charming who going to give you the kiss of life like in sleeping beauty or Snow White. It’s fancy, nothing wrong with the fancy but expecting it to be reality is Ludacris

[RosieMelts]

😂 ouu I don't know if you’re fun at parties but you’re indeed Most helpful 😂😊😊

[Stoner710]

Probably not but I got the weed, I’m kind of a introvert until I get alcohol in me

[RosieMelts]

Awe it was just a jokey joke 🥺 everyone is fun at a party. Parties are fun 🤩 But I get what ya mean

[Stoner710]

I will say most conservatives are introvert least the men are the women seem to be for extroverted

[Dargil]

I've never been harmed by one.

[mstbooblover]

As long as the involved men are well aware of the difference between a fantasy and reality, there's no reason to consider them harmful. This being said, women also have fantasies. It's a matter of maturity to choose consciously which of our tendencies to use in what circumstances. This means knowing very well oneself. In case of doubt: don't indulge !

[TheSpaceGnome]

Everyone should have fantasies. It's what makes life less boring.

[HighlyQuestionable]

The danger is in not trying to fulfill them, c'mon people , live a little.

[RosieMelts]

Live and Let Live, huh 😂🤝

[HighlyQuestionable]

Something like that @ Rosie. Checked out your profile, cute pic. "I'm the realist", lol , I like that. "realists are rarer than "Amethyst" these days.

[Nikki1989]

Fantasies that could become a reality are hot, otherwise, what's the point?

[RosieMelts]

Yeah well said! I just hope it’s not big disappointments to men if they don’t get those fantasies. As a lady haven’t you ever had disappointments with men in romantic affairs? Or even sexual ones? I certainly have, so it made me wonder if similar happened for men. Love your response though! 👍

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol that woman is not properly equipped for a motorcycle ride.
(Neither is the guy.)

[Jamie05rhs]

by the way, I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with having sexual fantasies. And I think two open-minded people can have tons of fun exploring all there is to explore. ☺️

[Jamie05rhs]

(I just don't believe in having sex with other people. So no swinging or 3-ways or anything like that.)

[RosieMelts]

😂👌 my thoughts about the bike exactly And that makes sense. Having limits but still willing to be open to new things with your partner. It definitely seems healthy 😊👍

[Jamie05rhs]

@RosieMelts 😅lol. Yeah! 😃 Thank you. 😇

[convo_king89]

in ur mind is nothing wrong. As long as u can separate reality and fantasy

[Keepitreal007]

I like fantasy and as long as both parties are good with it then it’s fine.

[Wise4myage]

I think that all depends on what the fantasy is.

[motownplayer2000]

It can be if that’s all you obsessed about. Men don’t tend to get that wrapped up in theirs, like women do women attach to things a lot harder than men do

[pizzalovershouse]

At times of pleasure