👀 Are Sexual Fantasies Harmful for Men?

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Is it dangerous for men to indulge or entertain their sexual fantasies, as it is harmful for women to believe in ‘romance novels’ 💕

and ‘fairytales?’🪄🎀

Very few women I know in my inner circles are discouraged from believing in romance, and were told boys in school were not as “serious” about relationships, as the girls were, but it’d come later for them “with time.”

I just spoke to a nice GaG user, and he is quite impressionable 😏🥰 and our convo. did wander into sexual fantasies.

For me personally, I don’t mind sexual play, but as a virgin the main goal for me is as you may have guessed it: just to have his mini me in to my camel toe 😂 Yes, I’m speaking in code..

Anyways, it made me wonder how bout that? What about guys’ wildest fantasies, where they imagine an opening with a girl, but she turns him down, plans change, or she’s just not down to do what he was hoping for.. is it dangerous for us to have these fantasies? Or should we be more open to them in our hook up/ dating lives?

Specifically for men, should sexual fantasies be embraced?

What do YoU think? 🙃

Let me know down below!

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Image sources:

http://www.coronadocougars.net/blog/2019/11/13/disney-plus-goes-to-infinity-and-beyond/

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a35291843/secret-sex-fantasy-personality/

https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/sexual-fantasies

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  • I think it's good to explore sexual fantasy, I mean the same thing is with romantic novels, he can indult your romantic life if you indulge his fantasies every now and again, it's all about Compromise

    • Anonymous I don't know who you are but I really do appreciate your comment on this topic Thank you so much 😊🙏

    • No probs, just went anonymous as sometime people can argue on this subject but if you ever want to talk more about this let me know and I'll follow you and if you follow me back I'll DM you

  • Wouldn’t say harmful, id say if the line between fantasy and reality get to blurry for guys that’s when the disappoint themselves and who their with

    • Yeah helpful to know why it’s somewhat harmful- because it can lead to disappointment, but I like your comment because it simply shows how that can be avoided 💕👌

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  • One of the best things about romance novels is that a woman believes in them and I don't think there's anything wrong with that because if a man is himself and not selfish like 97% of all men and he makes it all about the woman there's no reason in this world why he cannot make her feel just like those romance novels whether it's to touch a look a kiss the way that I see it at least for me anyway I can't talk about anybody else but that's what I want her to feel I want to make it all about her I want to take her to a place she's never been before and she's always dreamed of I want her to feel that passion within because it's a beautiful feeling it's one of the most beautiful feelings in the world when two energies connect like that I have many fantasies and they're not like what you would think when I have a fantasy it's about a certain person or something it's like you I could have a fantasy about you and it would be a beautiful thing not one fantasy is for all women I don't believe in that I believe each person is an individual and I'm going to have an individual fantasy because I want to make it all about them and every fantasy is different when I look into a woman's eyes I can see exactly what she wants and if she wants to feel like a romance novel that's that person I'm going to become because it's inside of me and I want her to feel the same thing that I feel

  • For me, fantasies are like movies written, produced and directed by me. They have little bearing on reality. But the fact that they contain intense sex is a reflection of my own desires and can inspire passionate sex in real life.

    I don't have any unfulfilled sexual kinks or fantasies in real life. I've done everything I ever wanted to. :-)

    • Wow that’s great 😂😃 And helpful insight as well Liam, Thank you for this. 🤝🔥

    • You're welcome, Rosie.

  • No. Creative minds lead to better sex.

    • True, I do see a lot of people talking about being willing to try new things in the sexual arena.

    • @dustybiker 101% agreed

  • Don't see any problem with fantasies as long as it's taken for what it is. Of course a fantasy will contain elements of reality in the sense that they'd really like to enact that if the occasion arose. In the case of sex chat it is just that. It's a fantasy tinged with thoughts, wishful thinking, maybe even with the person they're chatting to.

    Nothing wrong with fantasising in general though.

  • I think the outcome will greatly depend on the mindset of such man...

    if his mindset is weak, immature and prone to fixations and other traits that can become problematic then yes, it could eventually turn into something that will lead them to problematic territories

    but if you are sound of mind and also sharper in thought, character and behavior, then you will just be able to separate fantasy from reality, and it should not represent a problem at all, in fact... it might lead into some very interesting experiences or exploration

    paired with the right person, of course... lol

    • So you seem to embrace being more in the moment with an S/o and if they’re both are mentally stable/ and flexible he could get sexual fantasies as a bonus? Is this what you’re saying?

    • not exactly what I said, nor what I implied... my point was not for how a man will get sexual fantasies come true my point is that for any person, man or woman... if they're more mentally stable as you put it, they will be a lot less likely to run into harm and trouble as you mentioned in the premise of your question as for those who are more into fantasy and idealization and approach reality with these in mind, they might be more susceptible to run into any kind of trouble... and this also applies to other aspects of life not just the sexual territory... lol

    • Yeah I guess you misunderstood my question a bit, which led me to misunderstand your response. No biggie! I’ll just clarify: when I mentioned ‘harm’ I meant it as disappointment for the male. It’s harmful because it’s a let down to something that could possibly never happen. BUT your opinion was still quite interesting to read, and helpful. Thank you! 🤝🔥

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  • Wild sexual fantasies may never happen in our lifetime. That's why they are called fantasies. I don't think they are anymore harmful for a man than they are for a woman. Everyone has different fantasies, some are simple to the extremely complex.

  • As long as something remains a fantasy, I don’t see the problem with thinking it. When some thing dangerous degrading or otherwise harmful becomes reality, that is a different story.

    • Agreed! Well what about the fantasy kinks you’d like to try out? I. e. Handcuffs; making out in the woods? Wouldn’t it disappoint you if she doesn’t go along with it?

    • I carried handcuffs and wore body armor as a hospital public safety officer, and honestly that world and the world of intimacy with my wife are not something I would want to bring together in a sexual context. There isn’t much quicker of a way to make me go from standing at attention to flat than by thinking about all the fights and blood and injuries and horrible things human beings do to each other to put patients in the hospital…Sorry I doubt this is the answer you were looking for but it’s the one I have. Playing around in the woods is AWESOME! But she doesn’t want to, and it is very disappointing.

    • 😂 no your answer was indeed helpful, and I apologize for what you had to endure to see. Thank you for your contributing service, and your committed heart to the field. You mentioned the disappointment, which made me wonder again, if these sort of fantasies are even good to entertain. If entertained, I think couples and all, should at least talk about it and consider trying them for the man’s sake, and sometimes for the woman’s sake. Do you agree? Or no

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  • Usually not

    • Do you ever get disappointed if your fantasies don’t play out in the bedroom or elsewhere?

    • No, if she does it just to please me, it won’t be fun anyway because she isn’t all into it. And vanilla is good too.

    • Oh so you’d rather she be into it because the fantasy will always be better if that’s how she is sexually- you’re kind of wild fun, right? Or no 🤔

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  • Yes and no, One (this applies to both men and women let’s face it fifth shades of gray the book is female porn) the thing is there fantasies. Would i love to have sex with a beautiful blond elf girl in the middle of a spring forest yes, is it going to happen NO. Just like it’s not going to happen that you find Prince Charming who going to give you the kiss of life like in sleeping beauty or Snow White. It’s fancy, nothing wrong with the fancy but expecting it to be reality is Ludacris

    • 😂 ouu I don't know if you’re fun at parties but you’re indeed Most helpful 😂😊😊

    • Probably not but I got the weed, I’m kind of a introvert until I get alcohol in me

    • Awe it was just a jokey joke 🥺 everyone is fun at a party. Parties are fun 🤩 But I get what ya mean

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  • I've never been harmed by one.

  • As long as the involved men are well aware of the difference between a fantasy and reality, there's no reason to consider them harmful. This being said, women also have fantasies. It's a matter of maturity to choose consciously which of our tendencies to use in what circumstances. This means knowing very well oneself. In case of doubt: don't indulge !

  • Everyone should have fantasies. It's what makes life less boring.

  • The danger is in not trying to fulfill them, c'mon people , live a little.

    • Live and Let Live, huh 😂🤝

    • Something like that @ Rosie. Checked out your profile, cute pic. "I'm the realist", lol , I like that. "realists are rarer than "Amethyst" these days.

  • Fantasies that could become a reality are hot, otherwise, what's the point?

    • Yeah well said! I just hope it’s not big disappointments to men if they don’t get those fantasies. As a lady haven’t you ever had disappointments with men in romantic affairs? Or even sexual ones? I certainly have, so it made me wonder if similar happened for men. Love your response though! 👍

  • Lol that woman is not properly equipped for a motorcycle ride.
    (Neither is the guy.)

    • by the way, I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with having sexual fantasies. And I think two open-minded people can have tons of fun exploring all there is to explore. ☺️

    • (I just don't believe in having sex with other people. So no swinging or 3-ways or anything like that.)

    • 😂👌 my thoughts about the bike exactly And that makes sense. Having limits but still willing to be open to new things with your partner. It definitely seems healthy 😊👍

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  • in ur mind is nothing wrong. As long as u can separate reality and fantasy

  • I like fantasy and as long as both parties are good with it then it’s fine.

  • I think that all depends on what the fantasy is.

  • It can be if that’s all you obsessed about. Men don’t tend to get that wrapped up in theirs, like women do women attach to things a lot harder than men do

  • At times of pleasure

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