Are some fantasies meant to stay as fantasies?

[Anonymous]

I've been with my girlfriend for 4 years now but we were friends during our early teen years; 7th and 8th grade. Then we moved out and reconnected as adults.

The fantasy I have isn't really about me. It's rather humiliating. It's about coming to work early and catching her cheating, then doing that scene over again. I'm the jilted lover in the fantasy. I don't want to join though. I just want to watch, then leave after a while, then play that role play it again.

But seriously are some fantasies meant to just stay as fantasies and not act on them? It's likely she's going to get hurt if I suggest her that or think I don't love her.

[EradicOne]

I too have such fantasies and have been with my girl for 6 years now. I'm not sure why, but often theae thoughts are all I can think about when I'm turned on. I have yet to experience anything of the such but I have expressed the interest to my girl. I think it's honestly how you word it that makes the biggest difference to a woman. Obviously you don't want her to feel like it's because you aren't interested in her anymore or anything like that. I said something along the lines of, "I find you more attractive everyday and nothing turns me on more then seeing you get off. I want to see you having sex with someone else so I can see you getting off from a different angle." But ya, just know you are not alone on these thoughts bud, best of luck.

[Asker]

It's refreshing to hear I'm one the only one with that fantasy. Apparently seems to be a double standard on fantasies too. If a girl wants to share her man, it's cute but if we have a fantasy of watching her have sex with other men and like it, it's frowned upon.

[Nightmoon83]

No I would say tell her everything and why you like it and want to see her do it I did that with my wife and I’m glad I did

[Asker]

Oh ok. Glad to hear things work out for you. If she doesn't agree to it then I can't insist. I'll respect her wishes.

[Nightmoon83]

Of course you can tell her why you want her to do it and tell her you don’t believe it’s cheating and go from there

[MementoMori777]

Yes, mostly this one, I heard of some terrible ones but this one damn wtf

[Asker]

I don't know why I got that fantasy. I think I've been reading too many ''caught in the act'' cheating stories for too long. Obviously those people were rightfully devastated but I would find myself curious and turned on by it. Weird. So I guess I should just leave it as fantasy and not ask her about it.

[MementoMori777]

Don't listen to the horny bitches on this site, it will all end in disaster, it's easy for them to tell you to let em cheat because most of the lusty women can't keep a relationship, do it for your dignity mostly, letting a woman cheat opens the opportunities for them to cheat on you emotionally as well, she catches feelings for someone else and it's goodbye to you.

[billmunch]

I'm the same way. I've always been more attracted to promiscuous women and get turned on when she fucks other guys.

[boobliker]

O yes!

[Bobbysworld]

Demented ones yes

[Anonymous]

Probably. Start slow. Most marriages end in divorce, so don't believe the virgins on this site.

[Asker]

But I don't tell my girlfriend about my fantasy?

[CoolCatMar1]

You can marry the Person you love if he or she is worthy and you spent at least 2 years with them

[CoolCatMar1]

And not everyone divorces

[Opinion Owner]

@CoolCatMar1 Only 50% of marriages end in divorce.

[Opinion Owner]

Phase it in slowly.

[Opinion Owner]

@MementoMori777 Said the single incel on this site.

[Opinion Owner]

@MementoMori777 I really like Mar She seems like a nice person. She asked a very intelligent question. I don't have the perfect answer for her. None of us are mind readers. Maybe her and her guy are on the same page. Maybe they're not. Her question is very intelligent, but no one has the answer. I told another girl to take baby steps.

[CoolCatMar1]

Thank you!!!

[Opinion Owner]

@CoolCatMar1 If people could read our thoughts, we'd all be in trouble. lol I met a pretty lady online. She begged her husband to give her an orgasm. He called her a whore. She begged him to let her suck his dick. He called her a whore. Don't listen to idiots on this site. Your gut has all the answers you need.