Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I’ve only been in one relationship in my life. It was short term and I was not in love with him. I love him and care for him (as in having his best interest) but I’ve never been in love. And it bothers me. I’m already in my twenties. Everyone I know has been in love before. And I should not (don’t) have a timeline.
While it it sounds as if I probably haven’t met the right person yet, I wonder if I should pursue a partner again. I am not interested in sex (oral, anal, vaginal) and would prefer to not gamble with a person that may potentially hinder my schedule or cause more unnecessary problems. The idea of falling in love seems wonderful at a glance but I feel as if relationships are a waste of time. All this effort for something that can simply crumble before your feet without notice.
Are some people simply incapable of falling in love?
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15 44Girl I’m in the same position as you only have had sex once and been with a guy once back when I was 16 and have been single for the past four years. I want a boyfriend and thay affection but also having a boyfriend seems like a drag. I personally think it’s cause we’re more “mature” maybe? I don't know I know for a fact
The only reason I don’t want a boyfriend right now is cause I don’t
Need a guy distracting me or taking up a lot of my time, but it will happen when it will happen and I believe the same for you. We just have to wait for that one person. Hahaha
There are always some.
But you will find love some day. The Hierarchs (San'Shyuum) will pray for you.
Everyone falls in love you just didn't find the right person yet, it takes short time for someone as it may be possible to take longer for another one.
Don't worry, love comes by itself just focus on important things in your life and it will hit your door any moment.
Not sure. I know that men are more capable of love than women. Women act on emotions and impulses and are therefore more prone to cheating and backstabbing their friends. Women have no code of honor or care about anyone but themselves. As a woman yourself, you should have no problem in finding a guy.
@ Steve Damn son what happened to you? Geezus lol. That's the biggest load of bull I've ever heard.
@Figen how is it a load of bull? Women will fuck their best friends ex. Women just act on their emotions and impulses.
Your capable of it, but it sounds like you have made the conscious choice to sabotage your chances at it. It’s ok to not want to pursue anything. Don’t do anything where society tells you, you need to settle down, find love and live a certain way... as my favorite saying goes, don’t go to life, let life come to you!
I don’t believe I’m th problem
You may or may not be... but to find a solution, you need to look at the problem from all angles
I'm not incapable of falling in love just incapable of being loved
yes especially those with autism
Some people are just too dumb and shallow to fall in love.
"In love" is just a short-term hormonal imbalance. That is all it is, nothing more. Only complete idiots make a big deal over it and demand it for a relationship. You can get the exact same sensations of being "in love" from morphine or heroin. Same neuroreceptors are activated. That's why opioid addiction is very difficult to get into remission.
Everyone's idea of love is different so dont worry you'll find love when the time is right for you
I've never fallen in love and I wonder if I ever will
Maybe ur asexual
Yes...
Yeah I'm very like that. I'm pretty sure at the point love is just a socially acceptable form of codependency disorder.
There are people clinically unable of love (psychopaths, sociopaths, narcissists, etc).
l can't help falling in love with one girl
Well, your needs today may make you feel that you don't need it. Everyone goes through the phase that they need a companion to love with at some point in life. If you are able to coin that need as love it's generic way. If you can count that need also as one of your need now, you may never be able to appreciate the meaning the word love like anyone or most of the people do. I guess you are at good side too interpret the word love in a better way all your life, cause you are really introspective about it now. Keep it up and be yourself. You will learn the meaning of that word in a better way in your life
I am.
Maybe is not just the time, or the right person
It's generally called asexual/aromantic.
Yes few lack confidence on approaching a girl while some are over-confident that they fail to match up the girls perspective of thinking