Are there non religious reasons to wait until marriage to have sexual intercourse?

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If so, feel free to tell me in the comments. Most people who wait could be religious. But then again, they might have other reasons that don’t necessarily have to do with religion.

Sangita93 · Accepted Answer

Anyone who are judging you for making a personal choice to wait until marriage, are completely closed-minded. It is just a different choice that is all. Waiting to have sex in anticipation of marriage is our social and traditional culture. We both – my husband and I had promised each other to keep our virginity till marriage. With the freedom that comes with young adulthood, the popularity of hookup culture and easy viabilities of birth control options, sex has became common in young adults – and even before permissible age. Waiting to have sex until marriage is deep-rooted through cultures, religions and life experiences. From a religious perspective, there are spiritual dangers, and from a cultural perspective, you risk heartbreak because you have given yourself to someone who had no true commitment to you. Some choose to wait until marriage, which is quite rare in the western culture. There is more to focus on in life, and one should not emphasize sex as single aspect of a relationship. In media, sex is overhyped. But it is a special connection with special person. There are many perks in waiting until marriage, like protection from diseases spread through sex. Sex is something deeper than desire. Dating while choosing to wait can be especially difficult in a sex-centered society, but setting boundaries and avoiding tempting situations can help. It is good being on the same level where guy and girl both agree to wait, but I it is a struggle when being with someone who does not have the same values. My reasons for waiting are as follows: Live without fear of getting a Sexually Transmitted Disease. Don’t have to worry about becoming a parent before physically and mentally ready. You can live without regret from bad choices, or ‘in-the-moment’ decisions. you have a high view of your body and you believe that what you choose to do with it matters. you believe sex is an act of COMPLETELY giving yourself to someone, and that is something I want to save for my future spouse. You strongly believe God designed sex for marriage for a reason. You are saving yourself from extreme heart-break and emotional baggage because sex builds a deep emotional bond with someone. You know that real love will wait to have sex and you do not want to confuse sex for love and end up having your self-esteem beat up when the relationship ends. I hope, any one of these reasons might be a sufficient enough explanation for why you have chosen to wait, but altogether they seem to form a pretty convincing argument that there may be value in waiting.

NorthAfrican · Accepted Answer

I think for me it's purely religious but even without religion I might have considered it. Actually, I was kinda diest/agnostic for a year or 2 and still wanted to wait for marriage. I like how it's traditionally done. Plus wouldn't want risk of premarital pregnancies.

Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

Yes; absolutely!

But let's rewind a bit first. Religion is involved with sex because sex involves the human soul. Sexual intercourse is a spiritual connection; therefore, it's a spiritual matter.

So the main reason I don't want to have sex before marriage is because I only want to be spiritually connected to one person. I don't want to be spiritually connected to a whole bunch of people. That's just way too messy for me, socially and psychologically. I'm a sensitive creature, and I prefer to keep my intimate relationships deep and solid and long-lasting. I have zero tolerance for a broken heart... and I don't want to cause one in anyone else, either.

The next reason is the issue of children. Biologically, sexual intercourse is the function our species uses to reproduce. AKA have babies. I believe in the strong traditional nuclear family: mother, father, and children. I don't want to create any children that will be raised in an environment where they won't have their mother and/or their father (in case something happens where our relationship doesn't work out.)

An additional reason is the prevention of STDs/STIs. If you only have one sexual partner in life, and they are also a virgin, your chance of catching an STD goes down to almost zero. I don't like taking chances with my health and engaging in risky behaviors, so that is why a lifetime of monogamy is ideal for me.

Other reasons include just being modest and having one's private activities remain private. That's much more likely to happen if you're in a committed relationship with one person, as opposed to changing partners all the time. I know that some people are attracted to the idea of having a public sexual reputation, because maybe it makes them look cool, but I have zero interest in that. Especially due to my upbringing. I was raised to be proper and well-mannered. It would bring shame on my family if I were to become well-known in the community for being involved in any kind of prolific sexual activity.

ThinkerShell · Accepted Answer

There are many reasons for this. I waited until 30 And it was a question I had in mind for few years so now I have few answers for it

menina · Answer

Yes I think so. They might not be ready to have sex, they might just want to have sex with their spouse or it might be just a preference.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Statistically those who wait for marriage have much more stable and happier marriages. So that can be a reason.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

I can only think of one & when you meet her father he shows you his axe collection.

exitseven · Answer

Some people just are not ready for sex. Everyone has their own timetables.

chris_987 · Answer

Not wanting to have sex in your parents house

BUNroaster · Answer

Like diseases and aids and the basic stuff but that's like if you really rocking multiple dick weekly. For typical long term relationship frequency it's pretty much fine.