Are they’re different forms of sex?

My boyfriend sees other people, and I was feeling a little insecure and asking about it.

he went on to say they’re two types of sex, sex to make the other person feel good or sex for HIM to feel good. He says with me it’s more about making me feel good, since I’m too small, he can’t go all the way, he always has to be careful etc etc. He describes he is fine with this and cares about me a lot.

But he is saying sex with the other people has been more for HIM, where he can go all out, not worry about nothing etc and just go crazy with it and no strings

this sounds weird to me, how true is this? He seems to like the balance of both that he’s getting but I don’t really understand how sex is different with different people? I’ve only been with 1 person

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Superb Opinion

  • Sounds like he's being manipulative and trying to excuse cheating. I don't know if you're in a mutually open relationship, but I get the sense you don't feel right with this, and that's completely justified. I think you should consider breaking up sooner than later. These kinds of situations never end well.

Most Helpful Guys

  • As much as you'd dislike it, he's an inconsiderate prick.
    That's so disrespectful to say that to a woman straight to her face. I mean you're letting him have you and that's what he makes out of it.
    He's not grateful honestly so in the long run if not soon, he's gonna make you feel even worse.
    I'd suggest you to think again about being with him.

  • Definitely a troll, a blue in a pink suit. Doesn't know the difference between "there" and "they're". If this were a "sincere" question, there's no reason to post it Anonymously.

    • No.. def not a troll

Most Helpful Girl

  • What? That’s a horrible model. Sex should allow for mutual pleasure.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Is this a sincere question? Sounds like troll of the day!

    • Nope … sincere

    • Why are you willing to share him? Are you having sex with other guys?

    • No. I just want him happy

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  • I really want to punch this asshole of a human

    Sex is meant for 2 things - building intimacy through mutual pleasure and procreation.

    To divorce ether of these purposes from the other is to devalue both sex and each other

  • Oh for f sake!

  • I always treated sex like I'm an orchestral conductor. When I perform well, they make beautiful music.

  • I had 4 long term relationships including my wife of 38 years and each one was different how we acted in bed. I enjoyed sex with all of them and adapted to their physical and mental needs.

  • Yes. Sex my wife is tender. Sex with my girlfriend is rough. Both are valid though

  • What do you mean too small? Where is your hall pass? Sex should make both people satisfied. This isn't kosher.

    • I’d assume she has a shallow or premature vagina, sex with bigger or too deep hurts them.

  • I don't understand it. This is something some men do and think. I just think its ridiculous

  • Hookup sex or friends with benefits sex is just for personal pleasure. You don't care too much about making the other person enjoy it. Sex with someone you love should be more for thrm than you. You should be more interested in making sure they enjoy it even if you don't.

  • Personally it’s what you’re okay with. Some people need multiple partners and are able to be emotionally attached to one, while others can get it all from just one partner.

  • As a guy with a big one I call him a bullshitter.