Are virgin men allowed to have standards?

I told some friends that I had standards and wouldn't sleep with any random woman even if she was hot, and they got angry at me. Especially the women. They seemed to be implying that since I am a virgin and don't have experience, I don't know what I want. They also told me that I don't have value as a virgin and that I should just worry about getting laid rather than filtering out women from my life. I don't think that's what I'm doing at all though. I just don't want to date someone who makes me feel worse about myself than I already do, and believe me that's hard to do.
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  • To each their own. If you do not want to have sex with a person, then that's the end of it. It sounds like you are a romantic person, and I think that's great. I assume that you would like to know a person well before you have sex with them, and if that is who you are, then I think it's better than having sex with people you personally dislike.

    Are you only looking to have sex with someone if you have an established long term romantic relationship with them?

    • I would like the relationship to be long term, but it's not like I have a waiting period before I agree to have sex with someone. I just want to know that they aren't going to fuck me and then never talk to me again

Most Helpful Guys

  • You are entitled to have your own opinions and preferences, just as they are entitled to their own opinions and preferences.

    I'd understand if you were being incredibly rude about it, but really how dare they belittle you for having your own thoughts.
    They've just told you that as a virgin male you have no value, and therefore they think lesser of you because of it. That is not true at all, and some very backwards logic.

    I think it's time you find a new group of friends from what you've written. They are most likely adding to the feelings of worthlessness you are getting.

    And if anyone in the future makes fun of you for being a virgin, drop them.
    Such people are not good for your mental state or sense of worth.

    You are allowed to have standards!
    Don't let anyone tell you, you can't.

  • They could say that beggars can't be choosers, but you can still have some standards.

    https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/EveryoneHasStandards

Most Helpful Girl

  • What percentage of us are so bad we don't deserve 30seconds of your dick.

    • The % of you that bring nothing to the table except for your bodies?

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • You can have as high standards as you want. If they're too high, the only one suffering from it is you.

  • Of course virgin men are allowed to have standards.

  • Everyone is allowed to have standards.

  • Don't listen to them, especially the females. They're just trying to shame you because they know they can't control a man who has standards and doesn't simp for every chick he see's.

  • you are right all the way. you don't even care about those sinners. 😏