Are virgins high value women?

[Anonymous]

[btbc92]

As a person who is a virgin myself allow me to just say this. If you don't see yourself as a highly valuable person, then in a sense is not going to really matter to people. But it does matter to God. And it needs to matter to you too. People who don't value virgins don't value the person anyway. But it doesn't mean those that aren't virgins aren't of lesser value either. It's all depends on how they lost their virginity is in the first place and how they see sex.

There are those who didn't wait until marriage and they made mistakes. And they want to do it right this time. That doesn't mean they are of lesser value. But that they made serious mistakes. Those mistakes are costly, and they are less likely to find a partner that's going to want to be stable with them. But that doesn't mean that is impossible to find somebody who will. And there are those like me that do wait until marriage. But that doesn't mean you're valued. Because people value sex, pleasure, and what they can get out of you more than they value you as a person. You want to wait until marriage to have sex to please God. And you also have to have good reasons to be having sex in the first place. And lot of people are not doing it for the right reasons they just doing it because they want to gain something out of somebody. But just because we're virgins that doesn't mean we're better than someone. But that it's the right decision to do. A lot of people who thinks otherwise tend to be very jealous and envious people. Look at people by how they treat you. But at the same time if you don't treat yourself with the same kind of respect, then you won't win respect in return. Seek to please God with your choices more than to be trying to please people.

[Asker]

can I ask why are you still a virgin?

[btbc92]

I'm a virgin because I know it's right. I'm a Virgin by choice because I love myself. If I didn't love myself I would have been out there being whorish trying to see love from people who can't fill a void. When God had said about waiting until marriage to have sex he's very serious about it. Because when you have sex the two shall become one flesh. And you're married because of that sexual Union because you cut a covenant with that person. Tied to that person forever until the end of your days or their living days. It doesn't matter if you're divorced, if they leave you or you chose to leave them. As long as you and them are alive you're tied and join as one. Until you end up having sex with someone else. But by that time you already divorced one and you already married another. That's how serious sex is. Not just STDs or potentially unwanted pregnancies. But that you joined together with a person only to God forbid be ripped apart.

[btbc92]

I tell you one thing for sure. I got more shamed for keeping myself pure then I did for doing the right thing. All I care about is God happy with my choices? I know God is because he told me so. I know I've been told so by a good amount of people. But if you're already contemplating as if you're going to be loved or were they just because you're a virgin don't. That's my advice to you. You are worthy of love. Just make sure that person loves you for you first. Virginity is very important. But that person has to love you for your soul and the pureness of your heart more than the body. Better for you to do the right thing according to God than to follow your flesh that leads you to hell. Has my mother lived today she would tell you no different than I'm telling you. My mother was is very firm about me being a virgin until I'm married. She did not wait until marriage to have sex. She only been with two people. Her first boyfriend and my father. She ended up with an STD that almost could have infected me, many years later she eventually died of cancer while I was still around your age now. I don't have her with me sadly because of that choice. But she wanted to make sure that I didn't make the same mistakes she made.

[Asker]

I'm a virgin too

[btbc92]

Don't let people try to make you fall. Don't let people try to dictate who you are or your worth. You're worthy to be loved. You're worthy to experience greatness with a person who she is pure value and who's going to love you for you. And who simply just want to love you. And your virginity should be both a gift and an honor to each other, and you create something beautiful with that. That is the purpose of sex. It's not meant to be self-seeking or self-serving. But a sacrifice of self. But use it for the wrong reasons in that same blessing can God forbid be turned into a curse. Not only can you risk getting sick not just physically but even spiritually. It can affect your children. Your family. Your friends and everybody that love you. Your entire bloodline rides on your decision because your Offspring must come from you and whoever you choose to lay with. Hence why you must be careful who you choose to touch and who you choose to allow to touch you. Your life literally becomes the responsibility of the other person's hands as a woman. If a man don't treat you right it can affect you for your entire life. It don't have to if you don't let it. But it does come with consequences if with the wrong person. Please wait. Other people are not going to give a damn about you. You have to give a damn about you. You have to care about you. You must first Learn To Love Yourself. Before you even think about allowing somebody else to try to love you without knowing what love is. It really is worth the wait. But you must decide that for yourself.

[btbc92]

I know you're a virgin. But the real question is do you love yourself as a virgin or do you hate yourself? That's the important question. Because there's nothing wrong with being a virgin. And there's nothing wrong not being a virgin. But. You want to be a virgin before you are married. It is always good to be a virgin. But it's not always good to not be a virgin. A lot of people that's talking about that made the right choice not being a virgin are often lying to you. A lot of them I'm miserable, a lot of them are better, A lot of them upset, so torn, using abused, and wish they had made better choices. You may get that a lot if you wait long enough to hear it. While others don't care because they're not human. Remember one thing and one thing only. If a person does what they do and have no remorse for their sexual choices understand they are not human with no soul. It takes a soul, to fully understand the gravity of sin. But those who don't have a soul think they don't have sin unless man have truly deceived himself. So don't make the same mistake others make. But it's still your choice to make. Just make sure you're doing so for the right reasons and it's a choice you're not going to regret and it's something you'll be able to answer to at the end of your life. But you must first understand what's more important. You being loved or you losing your virginity? Because I can guarantee you from the sexual choices of my own friends who made that choice. Losing your virginity just to gain you love won't get you what you want. People will scam you out of love and your inheritance if it means they will get pleasure from you. Most people aren't even doing it for the pleasure. Just vampires trying to suck the youth of you. Because you have something they don't have. All I can ask if you was don't be foolish to give it to tgem.

[btbc92]

A lot of them are miserable* Put it like this. You and I are in a far better position in the sense then some others. That doesn't mean that we're going to get first dibs or priority or whatever. It's not about that. Is about no matter what happens in this life make sure you're doing what's right. Because once you lose your virginity is hard to get it back. Having sex especially in this kind of world brings you more pain than it does for you not to be having it in the first place. Ask yourself can you handle those choices. Because if you can't you would be better off staying out of it. Because a man who don't respect your virginity let alone won't be with you simply because you are a virgin or because you're waiting is somebody who is not worth your time. Because they often just want to smash and then continue smashing other women. Seriously judge them by their fruits. Because you don't want to make a big mistake. Remember that others shame you for being a virgin because they're mostly jealous and they want to see you miserable like them. I'll tell you now it's not easy being a virgin per se especially at my age now. But it's a heck of a lot better than to be in dysfunctional relationships that don't last. Because sadly there is nothing truly stable out here. Not to discourage you of anything. But for you to be mindful of why you want sex in the first place. Be mindful. And Trust God's judgment for your life. If it's meant for you to be with somebody you will find somebody. But if not that's okay too. Just don't do anything that's going to God forbid lead you to hell. That's all I can say. Better your salvation to be something for you to strive for, than for you to God forbid lose it over a man.

[slizzle01]

I think a lot of people value it and I think it's weird and a bit creepy. Like there's a little bit of a youth thing attached to it which is gross. I don't know why someone would want a virgin since they'll be bad at sex, unless there's some predator/manipulation going on. Unless it's for religious reasons which I understand.

[Asker]

why there's manipulation going on?

[slizzle01]

People with experience want someone without experience. And virgins tend to be very young.

[God_of_Thunder]

It depends on how much an individual person values virginity. Some people think it's extremely important, and others think is absolutely meaningless.

Personally, I fall into the latter category. Whether a woman has had sex, or not, doesn't increase/decrease her value, in my eyes. I think it's an outdated societal construct; a holdover from when women were considered property, and their worth was primarily measured by whether they were "pure" or not.

Women are no longer "property", and are free to make their own decisions. If she chooses to have sex, then that's her business. The thought that she's somehow worth less, for having done so, is insane to me. Remaining a virgin, then, is similarly meaningless and doesn't make her worth any more than anyone else.

[Anonymous]

To high value men, yes

[Asker]

Someone copied your answer

[Opinion Owner]

That is generally how my life goes lol

[Derekk]

To low value men, yes.

[Avicenna]

Yeah

[Bandit74]

Depends on the reason and the guy you ask. Personally, I think everything else being similar I prefer a virgin. Only negatives would be if she has a low sex drive, is really religious, or completely unnatractive. However if she's cute, non religious, has a healthy sex drive and is just waiting for the right person and/or is shy/introverted then that is ideal.

[Rexos]

No, virginity isn't important for how you SHOULD be valued, but lots of people think of it too much.

[jasco]

to some yes and to others not so much

[geonator]

Not if they're married

[Guardian45]

Depends on their personality, but different people and cultures have different views about this.

[Whtevernever]

Not any higher than non-virgins

[Valnac]

They are simply girls that don’t know sexuality yet.

[btbc92]

That's dumb. Please go back to school. Sexualities what you're born with. You are either born a man or a woman. A woman know she's a woman. Not having sex doesn't mean she doesn't know anything about her sexuality. She's born a woman. Grow the heck up.

[Dman19]

Sorta I hate making a woman lose her virginity though

[Anonymous]

No. Hoes are of high value to men

[Anonymous]

In my opinion, yes.

[Anonymous]

Yes absolutely true.

[Anonymous]

Uh... Kind of? I suppose it really depends on why they're a virgin. If the question were a flat "Would you prefer a virgin or not?" I would say I prefer virgin. However, are they a virgin by choice? If not, then there's probably a reason. If so, then why? Do they not want to lose it until after marriage? If yes, then I'm not interested. Getting married before having sex is like signing a contract without reading it. Are they a virgin because they don't have interest in sex? If yes, then I'm not interested.

[Anonymous]

Depends what for.
If I just want a hardcore slut to get me off there's lots of them around.
If I actually want to marry and trust a woman and really try to be a good couple I would pursue a virgin woman.