Are we friends with benefits or no?

[Anonymous]

I have been friends with benefits with this guy for two years i have grown attached to him smh. I know that a lot of him stil fucking me for him having sex with me for that long is his ego only. And he has easy access to vagina he doesn't have to work hard to get it. I recently was seeing a woman and he said he was jealous that she would be pleasing me and not him. When I was seeing her he hit me up wanting to see if I wanted to see if I wanted to have sex i didn't even though he knew I was seeing the woman. The woman and I stopped seeing each other and the Feb and I started to have sex again. He asked if I ever thought of his dick when I was with her I said no and he was shocked and sad. When we had sex he was kissing all over me except my mouth. He never does that. We just have sex than sometimes cuddle after. Is he a little attached after all this time or just is it his ego and his lack of options for the moment that keep him having sex with me. And hitting me up even when I'm seeing someone else? And why does he assert his male dominance over me even tho we are just having sex is it a control thing like he wants to keep the easy vagina close by or does he feel he can assert his dominance because he is comfortable around me. And has known me for 2 years. We only have sex nothing else but we kw each other birthdays. I know he can be manipulate and I'm dumb for catching feelings. And still sexing.

[Berethor]

Hard to tell, men tend to be territorial by difficult, only if a man see a woman as a total whore only then he might not be territorial about her, so he care about you on some level, but it still don't means that he is emotional about you, also you was seeing a woman, so he might been little jealous and annoyed, but it was a woman, not a man, so it make sense that he was more forgiving about that.

[Berethor]

I mean "men tend to be territorial by default".

[Asker]

What do you mean by forgiving if it was a woman but not if its a man and why annoyed? And territorial by default? Why forgiving if we have just been having sex for almost 2 years? I get home somewhat feeling territorial given the tie we have just been having sex...

[Asker]

And thank you

[Asker]

And he is controlling like he doesn't want me to argue with him. If I argue he gets annoyed who wouldn't? But sometimes it makes his bloood boil he says.

[Berethor]

Glad to help, looks like I am the only one here so far who was able to answer your question. What do you mean by "just" been having sex for almost 2 years? 2 year is quite a lot of time, you almost like a couple, and friends with benefits in general is quite similar to a relationship, and it closer to a relationship than to a one-night stand, and as I said men are territorial by default, you say "just" sex while sex is usually the most important part in a relationship for a man, that's why wanted to know if you thought of his penis when you was with her, if you said yes then he would felt like he is important to you, but because you said no, then he was shocked and sad.

He might wants to keep the "easy" vagina close by, but there is more to that, he feels like your vagina belong to him, and the fact that you was seeing other woman didn't shake that feeling by much, PIV is was counts the most, and your vagina his still exclusive to his penis. It's an instinct, a woman can't get pregnant from other woman, so even though men tend to be more territorial than woman, when it's woman on woman, men tend to be forgiving for that, while if you was seeing other man then there is high chance that he would had not wanted to see you again, and would had considered you a slut, but girl on girl don't count for much, in most men mind.

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[Asker]

I mean I have had sex with guys before while he and I were friends with benefits and he at first would get annoyed but now he just wants to know if the guy was good or whatever the usual guy 1questions... I stopped hooking up with other dudes even tho the friends with benefits doesn't believe me. And he knows I have feelings for him. But he might not believe me like he has said this is what happened. Because I wanted us to be more than fuck buddies.

[Asker]

So he is cool with just having sex for this long. And I have tried to date other people once or twice one guy one girl and both times he became affectionate. Sexually and normalmy he never is. He was only affectionate thos two times.

[Asker]

Before we would go to a movie than go back to a motel now we go straight to a motel. Smh. He has said i remind him of his girls in a negative sense. I guess they are sassy and dont listen to him.

[Asker]

He was the one that said this is just friends with benefits so i assumed it was just his ego when he got sad that I wouldn't want his pwbis or I wasn't thinking about his penis when I want a relationshop but he isn't thwt into me or taking me seriously which I underatand why but yes. That's why I tried seeing other people but it didn't work...

[Asker]

He even mentioned thwt if he got a girlfriend and things werent wotking out betweeen him and her that he would go right back him and i having sex which of course I said no I dont cheat...

[Berethor]

Okay, so he is not territorial about you, he just like fucking you, he used to be territorial about you but when you start hooking up with other dudes then he stop carrying about you for more than sex, that's also why he start going with you straight to a motel, it's it made you friends with benefits zoned.