Are women even attracted to men or just socially conditionrd to be?

[Anonymous]

Its clear that female attraction to men isn't instinctual like men's attraction to women.
Men's brains literally release chemicals and stimulate certain parts of the brain apon site of an attractive woman, this happens with zero thought or effort from the man's behalf.
Where for females, nothing happens.
Also in terms of sex, is always played from the perspective the man needs to earn it? If women want sex than why to then why is it men have to earn it?
Also this is a big one, the majority of females get off to lesbian porn... Basically this just proves women aren't stimulated or attracted to the male body.

Also now that LGBT representation is more apparent than ever, every second girl is fucking bisexual but still most date men.
So are women actually attracted to men or is it just social conditioning?

[Kait444]

yes women are attracted to men and we have similar reactions. I can see a hot guy and find myself getting wet. yes women are wired differently to men but guys who complain about that are somewhat missing the point. women are different if a guy wants someone that behaves and reacts in every way like a man then date a man don't try to make women change what makes them female and different. the image of men having to earn it comes in part from culture in part from media. the whole 'real men' can get the girl thing, but also comes from the fact men are far quicker to put out. you can't make yourself easy and then complain because others don't do the same. personally I like to feel desired and pursued.

[Asker]

Im not asking women to change at all, i love every part of the female body and part of femininity. I just hate how much more men desire and lust after women to only have women be so minimally attracted to men that most can't even feel attraction without personality. Even then the sexual side of the relationships sre purely based off how men are turned on and desire women which turns women on. And to top all this off most females are bisexual and into other girls as well, most more sexually to girls and romantically to men which is just an even bigger kick to the ego.

[Kait444]

none of that describes most women I know

[Asker]

What about my poibts in regards to attraction?

[Kait444]

women I know who date men aren't 'minimally' attracted to them they find men hot

[Asker]

By minimally i meant not aroused, turned on or drawn to looks. Most girls are more attracted to non gender specific traits like the way men carry themselves and personality.

[Kait444]

if that's the case why are women obsessed with guys like aidan turner? why do they like guys who work out? why is there a concept of a 'good looking' guy

[Asker]

With celebs i get it because they think he looks nice, they know his personality and they love the image/ status they represent. Even ed sheren isn't considered attractive physically but millions of girls love him just from the way they connect through his music. Where ofc working out and looking good is a plus and a concept pushed through men's visual nature and society as a whole but when it comes down to it, these things dont really attract or turn girls on alone like they dont men with girls.

[Asker]

Like they do for men with women*

[Kait444]

oh yes of course your utterly right we women don't find men attractive at all, that's why we never sleep with guys because we don't find them attractive... hmmm but we do and women don't tend to sleep with people they find unattractive... hmmm and the biological imperative behind a sex drive is to find a mate that would give us strong children and attraction is how we find that mate... hhmmm

[Kait444]

and why do I get wet and aroused when I see guys I find hot/attractive/sexy then? am I just a defective woman?

[Asker]

Its just most girls have told me they need to know a guys personality to find him sexually attractive, otherwise they can say he's attractive but dont really fee anything. And something I've noticed is the majority of girls who are in fact turned on by male bodies without personality are also bisexual (i guess because their less conservative and traditional?)

[JenDB]

Of course we are attracted to you we just don't show it that muc. You will see a woman that shows her butt and you will get turned on while girls will see a handsome guy that wears cologne and turn on. Do you get the difference?

[Asker]

Basically girls are attracted to the status and illusion it represents of a man and men are attracted to female bodies?

[JayFromEngland]

Plenty of women definitely are attracted to men. However for women, sexual attraction can often come from a more emotional origin (although plenty also are into physical attraction, but I feel that they consider emotional stuff more). As for sex drive, this purely depends on the individuals. Lots of people out there have really high sex drives, lots have lower sex drives. It depends on the individuals; I've heard stories of men who couldn't handle their partners that wanted sex multiple times a day every day of the week. Also, I think that lesbian porn could be more popular because dicks are ugly, whereas in lesbian porn the woman could imagine themselves in the porn scenario enjoying themselves.

[Reapurr]

This about sums it up, but the porn thing (at least for me) is more of a "it's more sensual" thing, as most straight porn caters moretowards the male audience than female.

[Asker]

Lol basicslly girls aren't turned on by guys, their turned on by feeling sexy, desired and loved. They get off to lesbian porn because itd purely centred around female pleasure which only redemonstrates the fact its not men women are turned on by. Its all about her. Men sre the only ones who experience real attraction

[Reapurr]

No, not exactly. I was very sexually attracted to my current boyfriend before we started dating and he's actually the one making me wait on anything sexual. However, the difference is, most females want an actual relationship, not just sex. I'll still give you the porn thing tho.

[Asker]

@Reapurr The number of times youve been sexually attracted to guys is probably small enough to count on ur fingers. Men experience this everyday. I get the relationship over sex thing but thats just because women dont desire men to that intensity of men with women. Only enough to want to be loved by them.

[AdamED]

I think there're some standards for what an attractive man is, if you're fat, bald, short and not handsome then chances to be attractive are very low. But if you're tall, muscular, your face is oval and you have a nice haircut with a little beard (some girls don't like the beard) and dressed well, then chances to be attractive are super high and girls will hit on you, you don't even to put that much of an effort to meet a girl.