Are you a natural submissive or a learned submissive or both? What parts of you are each?

I am both a natural submissive and a learned submissive. I think everyone is to an extend. You can’t make someone submit consensually if they really have not one submissive bone in their body, or their mind is just not wired that way.

I think while we are starting out at natural submissives, we still have to learn certain things, certain basics. Add to that that we need to learn about what makes us tick and why. That is really the baseline of learning about your submission.

Add to this mix the fact that each dominant has their own specific way of what they want out of their submissive, and thus further training will be imparted. So while you may be a natural submissive, I don’t think you can fully blossom and bloom until you have learned what makes you a submissive for the right dominant.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I’m def natural because I seem to have made my bf’s past r current my dom. But people think the strangest things… that I’m like tied up.. r something. Take now… I was told wear my plug tonight and leave it in. Now he’s not here.. so I don’t really have to (although I’ll feel guilty and tell him) (taking my punishment like withholding orgasm or he’s like hit me somewhere a bruise isn’t noticeable). But I leave it in and feel proud of myself that when I c him tomorrow I will still have it in.
    here’s where…it’s not 4 him that he told me to wear it. When we are gonna have sex he’s gonna be extra excited seeing it in me n when or if he wants to please me via anal it won’t be super uncomfortable for him to enter. So he’s thinking and taking care of “us”. I trust he is protecting me from being in pain. If i don’t do or disobey him I need to know that it’s no joke n I will be punished

    • Thnx 4 the mho.

    • That's really hot! I love the idea of teaching a woman how sexually pleasure me. If she does a good job, I'll give her permission to cum. If she doesn't do well, then I'll do things like, give her a ruined orgasm. or I'll tie her up and then lick her pussy softly and slowly until she has an orgasm. Then, when her clit extra sensitive, I won't stop! I don't care how much she screams and begs, I'll keep licking her for as long as I want! I also love teaching a woman how to make love to another woman. Teaching her how to kiss, touch, stroke, lick and pleasure a woman. Either with a vibrator or a dildo. I really love it when she will give another woman an orgasm and the other woman will give her an orgasm. Very hot.

  • I'm definitely learned. I was taught by my first boyfriend and he loved it ever since although I'm not nearly as into it as I used to be

    • Oh, what happened? What would you like to experience these days?

Most Helpful Guys

  • i don't know why anyone would be a submissive. and i don't think those are all of the degrees of submission

  • I'm a virgin

    • The way to endure, I have found, is just to keep going day by day

    • What in the world are you on hun

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Not really, only on the outside world i appear to be but not in the bedroom

  • I don't know about natural, but I definitely have become it over time. And I'm learning to be more sub every day.

  • You're a submissive? 😳
    What then makes a dominant to you?

  • I’m a pure dominant. I like playing sub on my terms in the bedroom on occasion. It’s confusing lol I don't know

  • Can I pls dm you

    • Sure!

  • In my relationship she learned it over time and as trust built. I think being in a happy, loving and caring relationship is essential to get to a proper non-abusive sub/dom relation. In the beginning it was only loving and slow sex, and she didn't enjoy when i told her what to do. Now she begs me to tell her, loved when i yell at her (only during sex ofc) and she does everything i say within the boundaries we have talked about. She learned all of that, and so did i for my dominant side. I haven't done it before, but it also came natural to both of us.

    She is shy and petite, I'm tall and hung. I think that only helps make it natural. I also think the guy has a responsibility to make it so, submissive behaviour can only occur so long there's someone to take charge ensure safety. If the guy isn't taking that role no girl is gonna submit to him.

  • Naturally submissive male.