Are you against the idea of sex before marriage?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Given that I am not married now and have had four children out of wedlock - three with my girlfriend and one with a gal who was, essentially, a one night stand - I guess you would have to say that I am pretty positive about it. Though that sounds a bit glib.

Truth is, I have no problem with it. Sex is healthy, natural and instinctive and men and women should have it when they feel like it and mutually agree to it. However, that does mean that it has no obligations.

Truth is, I have gotten four women pregnant out of wedlock. In addition to my girlfriend - with whom I have lived for over a decade - and the mother of my eldest - there were two others. One miscarried and the one that hurts me more than words can say is the woman who aborted my little baby without telling me. I miss that little baby and only wish I could hold him or her and tell him/her how much I love him/her.

Frankly, truthfully, having unprotected sex out of wedlock is fine with me. In fact, silly as it sounds, unprotected sex is the kind I enjoy the most. It makes me feel like a man and that I am doing what nature intended me to do. However, you have to be prepared to take the consequences.

For me, I always knew I would. I lost my virginity at age 16 and even then I knew that if I got my girlfriend pregnant that I would be a stand-up dad and take care of her and the baby I made. Because THAT is also what nature made me to do.

There is nothing wrong with giving in to your natural instincts, so long as it is remembered that we are more than the sum of our natural instincts. We have obligations and when a man makes a baby it is his obligation to protect that little person and care for him/her and his/her mommy.

Truth is, as I say, my girlfriend and I have lived together for over a decade. We don't want to be married as it just seems too contrived and artificial and somehow diminishes what we have. Frankly, I don't think we would be living together had we not had sex first. It is that important to a relationship between a man and a woman.

As to the mother of my other son. Truth be told, I did not know that I got her pregnant. It was, as I say, basically a one night stand and we did not know each other well. She looked me up years later to inform me that I had a son - this after I already had three children with my girlfriend.

The tests confirmed that I am the dad to this young man, but the twist here is that she does not want me disrupting his high school and college years by revealing who I am. So I have met him, and I am enormously proud of him, but I have decided to respect her wishes and that has not been easy.

Long story short, I think premarital sex is perfectly fine and healthy. Males and females need that release and to do what nature made them to do. Breed and reproduce, not to put too fine a point on it. However, I strongly believe that you have to be prepared to take responsibility for giving in to and obeying those instincts.

Those instincts have given me four of the greatest gifts a man can be given by a woman. For a man, we have an obligation to take that seriously.

hyperben · Accepted Answer

no, its a silly conception to me. ignoring societal conventions, sex is pleasurable, your brain makes it fun in order that you want to do it and the human race continues to reproduce willingly. if you impose some rules based upon rules imposed by society (remember, monkeys, swans, elephants, fish, every animal except humans doesn't have a formal/legal joining process) it has a negative impact upon how we view sex, it makes it feel either forbidden or somehow dirty and will make it less pleasurable when you have it.

dustybiker · Accepted Answer

Completely the opposite. I’m not entirely for marriage anymore. Too many people loose actual trust in each other thinking a piece of paper will hold a couple together.

Cherry234 · Accepted Answer

Not at all. I don't believe in reserving sex for marriage because I'm not an ultra religious person.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Goodness, no. To my mind, marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment; making sure you're sexually compatible before taking that step is pretty much a necessity.

Julie_TS · Answer

Nope.

katiesmuff · Answer

No not at all am I against sex before marriage.

musicbrain5 · Answer

Not at all.

summiter · Answer

I think sex before marriage is a great thing. The orgasms are great and it is a great way to gain experience with some wonderful women.

Berethor · Answer

I am fairly neutral about, but I respect girls who wait until marriage as long as they are virgin.

PeteBy · Answer

No and I bet 99.9% of men who are against it don't practice what they preach. So I definitely wouldn't listen to the men on here on this one.

Midgetmcwidget · Answer

Yes,

slatyb · Answer

I'm against the idea of marriage before sex.

20yearsolder · Answer

I'm not at all, honestly I would never marry someone that I hadn't already had sex with. We may not be sexually compatible. That'd be kind of rough to find out on your wedding night

Dargil · Answer

Looking back, In would want to walk the bases to the level of mutual oral/69 and wait on the Deed.

Fireguy17 · Answer

not at all, but I can understand that to many people it is very important to wait until married.
The downfall is that if you are adventureish or have a particular fetish or like bondage etc, you really don't know if your partner will be into that, or how often they will want sex, or if it will just be plain vanilla sex.
So, if you are into those things, your partner may not be.

nomandik · Answer

I am pagan I don't believe in marriage so the idea having sex before even getting married since I don't believe in marriage yes as part of life my belief systems of marriage is if you're with the person longer than 6 months we don't have to have a priest or pastor marry us we are married so

talka20 · Answer

Yes are u?

exitseven · Answer

No, I am against not having sex before marriage.

Makeushiver · Answer

Not only not against I think sex should be mandatory before marriage. Living together should be mandatory before marriage. It would probably result in fewer divorce lawyers but they would be the only ones upset about that

es20490446e · Answer

I'm against sex before a relationship.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not at all.

MysticDevice · Answer

Not one bit

Emma_Walker · Answer

No i am not totaly aginst it but i think that it is something that you should wait for

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