Girls, Are you comfortable having sex?

[Anonymous]

I never will be. Like other people I too suffer from body dysmorphia. I’ve been told I should model etc... just bs.

Also the thing I’m most insecure about is my penis. I have a big penis. 7.3 inches and thick too. But girls just want more and more. So do I. Also it’s all about the size as to how much pleasure/excitement you can give a woman.

How can I overcome it? Is there any point? Should I stay a virgin and have kids through other methods?

[Anonymous]

Awww sweetie I feel the same. Body dysmorphia sucks. And to answer your question, no... I do not feel comfortable even picturing myself in an intimate situation, because I think that my body and my face are so subpar that no man could ever find them attractive. And, just like you, I get compliments but think they're bs. And no amount of compliments and reassurance will ever heal you from body dysmorphia. It's an issue within you that can only be healed from within.
Everyone has a story, and if you try to read your own you could maybe find out why and when these insecurities started. That would give you a starting point. You gotta do a lot of deep introspection. However, even once you have an idea on what jumpstarted your insecurities, you still won't be healed. It'll be a process of you trying to remind yourself the reason why you started to feel insecure until one day it starts bothering you less.
I'm gonna take a guess and say that you tend to hyper focus on your perceived flaw until it becomes so big in your head that that's the only thing you can see and think about. That's a vicious cycle because the more you focus on it, the bigger it becomes... and the bigger it becomes, the more you wanna focus on it. Tell your brain to stop overanalyzing one flaw when you catch it doing so. Break the cycle. It won't be easy, but try it... you have nothing to lose.
Words of comfort and advice are nice to have, but sometimes they're not enough and a person needs to have their own realization to be fully ready to try and change their perspective.
Just let what I told you sit in your brain at least, and perhaps one day down the road it will be of help to you if it wasn't already.
I'm sorry I wrote so much, but it breaks my heart to hear of people going through the same stuff I do, because I know how much it can eat at you.

As for the insecurity in particular that you brought up in your post, I don't really know what to tell you because, being a virgin myself, I don't know how intercourse feels like.
However, I can use it as a way to explain what I mean by doing some introspection. When did this start? Why do you feel so insecure about it? You say girls want more and more yet, you don't actually know what girls want. Who told you they want more and more? Did you read it somewhere? You gotta keep in mind that some of the comments you hear/read might reflect the person's own emotions and issues better than the actual truth. If a person is angry or upset, for example, they might say something that they don't truly believe in but was instead fueled by that anger. And the awful thing about body dysmorphia is that you have the tendency to cherry pick comments that fuel your insecurities and completely ignore the positive reinforcements (i. e. people telling you you're handsome and you thinking it's nothing but bs).

Please don't lose hope, you might have a wonderful future ahead of yourself even if you don't see it just yet. I'm here talking as someone on your level, struggling with the same issues and knowing perfectly well the hardships all of this brings. But you're worth this fight. I'm worth this fight. Any other person like us is worth this fight.

[Anonymous]

Same