Are you required, in a relationship, to provide sex to your partner?

I’m not saying you can’t say no but do you believe that you or your partner are required to put it on occasion? If you have a high drive and they have no drive do you expect them to fill your needs? Would you leave a relationship that didn’t provide you the sex you want?
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  • Yes, because in a relationship you should be giving and receiving. And sex is one of those things. I would rather my partner come to me for sexual release or needs bc I am his wife and I have a duty to help fulfill his needs. As he does mine.


    Of course there are occasions where one isn’t feeling well, or extremely tired, and in those instances it should be okay to decline sex. In a nice way of course.


    Sex is an extremely important part of any relationship and I think many women fail to understand this. Men need sex as much as women need emotional connection.


    If women don’t bond/connect emotionally enough with their partner then they feel dissatisfied in the relationship. The same goes for men when they don’t have enough sex with their partner. Men express love through sex and women express it through emotion.


    So yes, I think you should be required to provide sex to your partner. Just like you should be required to give them company, quality time, love, stability, emotional support, etc. Sex is no different.

    • I like the way you word this. I agree with this thought.

  • You aren't required to provide ANYTHING in a relationship that you haven't worked out before you're IN the relationship.

    If your sex drives are wildly different and that upsets either or both of you, the relationship probably won't make it. I'm sure most people would exit a relationship where the sex drives of the two people weren't basically similar.

    Sex, money, lifestyles, emotions: the issues that end relationships when there can't be compromise.

    • Isn’t compromise her or him doing the deed they don’t want every now and then? Also you can’t base a whole relationship on sex.

    • Compromise is deciding what will satisfy BOTH parties. NOT one or the other. Sex isn't servicing one person at the expense of the other. No one's basing a whole relationship on sex, but sex is an incredibly important part of a relationship. Everything else could be wonderful, but if sexual relations aren't, or you have no chemistry, your future as a couple is doomed. Could you be in a relationship with a person who spends every penny they earn if you want to save to buy a house and car? You discuss this with your partner and they keep saying, sure, on my next paycheck. You need your partner's salary to GET the house and car. You could do it on your own, but how resentful would you be if your partner contributed NOTHING. What about kids? WHen you get together no one mentions them. Five years in, you start thinking, this relationship seems stable, let's talk about children. You're both doing well at work, you've bought a house, have a cushion of savings, have done wonderful traveling. He's finished his master's degree and you're nearly there yourself. At the talk, he says, he'd never considered it. Think of the costs! College, clothes, daycare, sitters. How would you travel anymore? There are no grandparents nearby to help. What about schools? If one party says NO, it's not happening. Lifestyles. You've been going out every weekend for the past five years. You have a group of wonderful friends. But, more than half of them are in jobs where their responsibilities have increased and those weekends are few and far between. He has a football crew who meet for games. Some evenings he's drinking with his gang. You're in your early 30s, and this 20s lifestyle is wearing on you. You like getting up early to exercise then go to work. He's stopped exercising, but hasn't stopped going out and has drunk on a thick beer belly. More dealbreakers. It's NOT just sex. Sex is just one of the issues.

    • Life isn’t 50:50 you don’t each mop half the house... sometimes you do the mopping and he does the trash... men’s reason for chasing women is sex, children, or support... Consider this. 20 years of marriage and she decides she want sex a specific way... he either has to give it up or risk the 20 year marriage. He might want to experience something but she don’t. Should he be allowed to go get it somewhere worse?

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Most Helpful Guys

  • I could hardly believe the weird answers to this question which obviously shows that most of the younger generation don't understand what a true relationship is all about. A real and true relationship is why a couple get married. So definetly you will expect sex as being in a committed relationship you're not going to get second anywhere else. That is what a true relationship is about committing yourselves to each other. If in a true relationship like that yiu're not going to fuck with 30 other people so that you don't mind if there is no love or sex in your so called relationship that actually doesn't exist.

  • Yes. Relationships requires all kind of extra efforts. So they are getting out of your comfort zone step by step. Some people want you to take leap of faith instead of baby steps. Some people world be ok taking a leap and some people would be hesitant. That means saying yes to your partners legit basic needs including sex even when you feel to say no. Now you two can decide. When it is ok and when it is not. If one of the partner keep complaining about same s*** over and over again then other person is going to catch that bs sooner rather later.

    • Thanks Vanilla!

    • Would be*

    • Thanks for MHO!

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  • Required NO!

    • So are they required to remain faithful?

    • lol good question man.

    • They are not REQUIRED to do anything!

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  • You are not. But they are also not “required” to stay with you if that is not a good match for them.

    • I both agree and disagree. Forcing someone isn’t right but neither is refusing to providing something necessary like sex is abuse. It’s breaking the contract that is marriage. Should a man or women not provided sex remain faithful?

    • What she said is 100% accurate.

    • Sex isn’t “necessary.” If you are not well matched sexually, time to go your separate ways.

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  • If you have a high drive and they have no drive you should be asking yourself why in the hell you selected them as your partner! Obviously, you made a poor choice and that's your fault.

  • No, you are never required to have sex with anyone for any reason. if you can’t understand that you should have your penis rights revoked.

    • Then do you expect your partner to remain faithful if your not putting out?

    • Why are you assuming what my expectations are?

    • You day a persons not entitled to put it. So does that person expect their partner to remain faithful if their denied?

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  • Maybe in the old days or in backward countries your partner is required to provide sex.
    However, in today's modern world, they are not required to provide sex. In the Western world, they can file a rape claim if you rape them (so I hear).

    This is why I advocate for premarital sex... make sure you are compatible in bed before tying that knot or you will be most unhappy.

  • Of the porn contract says so you gotta do it.

  • Nope, but she only gets the first right of refusal, not sole proprietorship.

    • In others cheat... got ya

    • It ain't cheating when you're honest.

    • It’s cheating... period. But I agree if she or he won’t watch their SOs needs them adventure becomes an option. I will cheat if you don’t give me enough sex... and I’m for legal recourse for adultery.

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  • just get a rental, it's cheaper and less work.

    • That wasn’t the question.

    • lol, it was the wrong question...

    • I never said I disagreed but I learned how to stay on task in 2nd grade. Stick to my question please.

  • Yes, it is required.

  • If you expect me to be exclusive to you? Absolutely.

  • I mean I don't want to have sex the first time we meet for sure, nor do i want it all the time. Do I see it as a requirement, No

  • I'd say if you plan on not having sex, you should make it very clear before you start a relationship.

  • I need sex fairly regularly in a relationship once we start

  • If you want them to stay, then in practice yes. Though nothing is a guarantee.

  • Sounds like you became pretty good with women quite early in life

  • Pretty much. You can say no but if you do it too often your partner might just walk away

  • Me and my fiancee has been together since I was 14 he was 15, now engaged at 23, and 24 never had sex once! We are still virgins, and we are VERY happy in our relationship, we live together, and all!

    • Ask him if he wants to have sex with you. If he says yes then you left him wanting. And maybe you are happy. If you add an extra good feeling to your relationship a few times a week will that somehow make you less happy? Also you’re an outlier. It’s not normal to have a relationship like you tell have.

    • We are Catholic so waiting is NORMAL for us! He said he wants to wait till marriage.

    • I’ve seen many Catholics that don’t follow it. Furthermore being Catholic does not get rid of these feelings. He’ll say yes if you asked if he wants sex I promise. After you’re married do you think he’ll expect sex? Even the Bible encourages sex.

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