Asexual Awareness Week 2018: What's asexuality?

This year, asexual awareness week is October 21-27, 2018.

What is an asexual?

Someone who never experiences sexual attraction and never has the intrinsic desire to have partnered sex.

Rabger's Model
Rabger's Model

Asexuality is not a lack of a sex drive

Many asexuals do masturbate, but they don't think about having sex with others or inherently desire to share sexual activity with others.

Asexuality is not celibacy

Celibates have the inherent desire to have sex with someone, but they choose not to act upon it. Asexuals don't have that inherent, primary desire.

The difference between celibacy and asexuality
The difference between celibacy and asexuality

Asexuality is not repression or a result of medical problems

Asexuality is not the result of sexually abuse, level of attractiveness, never having had good sex, getting out of a bad relationship, hormone deficiency, being a loner, not meeting the right person, depression, or etc. There are plenty of ugly people who are heterosexual. Most asexuals don't have a hormone deficiency from the last time they checked. Asexuals aren't repressing a sexual desire that doesn't exist. They aren't secretly homosexual and in denial. Many asexuals, including me, would've not repressed homosexual desires if we had any. Being a loner is irrelevant to sexual orientation. Sexual people don't "turn asexual" because of bad experiences, they only turn bitter.

Asexuality is not a mental disorder

Asexuality doesn't cause psychological distress to self or others, doesn't cause physical harm to self or others, doesn't break any laws, and isn't strongly frowned upon by society; so it's not a mental disorder according to DSM-5 standards.

Asexuals can have varying romantic orientations

There are romantic and aromantic asexuals. Romantic asexuals inherently desire a romantic relationship with another person but without the sex part. So it's possible for a straight person to not desire sex in a relationship. It's possible for a gay or bi person to not want sex in a relationship. Those people may have sex with their partners only for the secondary benefit of keeping their romantic partner.

Romantic and sexual orientations
Romantic and sexual orientations
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  • I dont find people attractive, but I still masturbate, am I asexual?

    • Nah, most people suck

  • I always wished I was asexual but now Im not sure

  • Well I’m a very sexual person and would never date an asexual, sex is part of a relationship a big part

  • Another thing to complain about? Why can't people just be what they are, like who you like and stop begging for validation, nobody cares. Not talking about the person who posted this but the rally or whatever that picture suggests. They're not struggling it's not another struggle. People just want to feel victimized.

    • Apparently you cared enough to comment on a myTake I wrote four days ago

    • nice and apparently you're insecurity showed 4 days ago to reply to my comment 4 days ago.

  • For a human male... NOT being cursed with a typical male sex drive would be a huge blessing. Asexuality is a lack of sexual desire , which is quite common in human females , but much rarer in human males

  • What does it mean when there are many different definitions for the same term? It means the term has no meaning.

    • By the way, I am a karicitisexual, which means I am sexually attracted to tire irons but I choose not to have sex with them, but I also am turned off by porpoises and mocking birds. I'm just telling you so you are aware, but I don't feel the need for a week in my honor.

    • Omg a fellow karicitusexual

    • @BonnieBunny You like those tire irons, eh?

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  • that chart at the end is so fucking stupid. how are bi/pan/poly different?

    further, this thing is a HUGE non issue. Why the fuck do you want me to notice you NOT doing something and congratulate you for it?

    No one has ever been persecuted for this. We don't need to raise awareness. Gays were beaten, denied jobs, kicked out of families... asexuals have nothing to complain about.

    • Because I never get noticed and barely anyone mentions asexuals. We are invisible unlike gays. Gays usually don't get their sexuality questioned in the same way that asexuals do. Asexuals are more likely to have suicidal thoughts than gays do. The point of asexual awareness week isn't to say that overall I have it worse than gays do. I understand gays generally have it worse in some other ways. No, this doesn't deserve congratulations. I only want acceptance and understanding.

    • why do you deserve to be noticed? You realize how much you're asking of strangers? Being invisible is the default for EVERYONE. If you, an individual, want to be noticed, you have to GRAB people's attention. No one hands that out.

    • I'm not asking to be recognized as an individual. I just want asexuality to not be invisible because invisibility isn't the default for heterosexuality and homosexuality.

  • Nice mytake but you are wrong in your first point.
    Asexuality is actually a lack of a sexual desire.
    Asexuals do not masturbate, you are mistaking them for Autosexuals - they masturbate but they don't want to have sex with others.

    www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Autosexual

    • Doesn't an autosexual only feel sexual attraction to themself? So if a heterosexual masturbates, they're also autosexual? Does it make them bisexual too because they're attracted to themselves? Asexuals don't feel sexual attraction to themselves in that sense. Masturbating doesn't mean you feel sexually attracted to yourself. That's weird. If autosexual only means someone who masturbates but doesn't desire sex with others, then that would only be a variation of asexuality. Just how some heterosexuals identify as sapiosexuals.

    • Yes, autosexuals feel sexual attraction to themselves only. No, because when a heterosexual masturbates, he/she is thinking about someone else, while autosexuals are attracted only to themselves, they never think of other people when masturbating. It's a form of sexual narcissism. No, because bisexuals are attracted to other people of both genders, but not to themselves. No, autosexual doesn't mean someone who masturbates, it means that a person is attracted to himself/herself, and doesn't desire sexual relationship with anyone else, that's the key difference... because asexuals don't feel sexual attraction at all, to themselves or anyone else.

    • Heterosexuals don't always think about someone when they masturbate. I, for one, don't think about anything when I masturbate. Asexuals who masturbate are not sexually attracted to their own bodies just how anyone else who masturbates isn't sexually attracted to their own body.

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  • As if there hasn't been already enough MyTakes about the gays or bisexual, now we have the asexual. All the special snowflakes want a piece of validation
    I hope they don't make one about transexual because then I'm gonna vomit

    • There's going to be more this week, so bear with it

  • Sorry to disappoint you, but you are not asexual. Asexuality is exactly a lack of sexual drive. If you think about sex or masturbation ever, you are already not asexual. And there are only 3 sexualities, "asexual" isn't one of them

    • Asexual is one of them. Your opinion is wrong.

    • you probably also think there is more than 2 genders, right?

  • it does not exist this is a stupid tale

    • It does exist. Your opinion is wrong and stupid.

    • your feelings or anyone else's feelings do not matter WHAT SO EVER what matters is what christ says and he is above the dome so this whole post is pointless

    • fuck not the dome guy xx ~ Mrs Manson

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  • Guys congrats for being asexual but there have been already 20 MyTakes about it.
    WE GOT IT BY NOW YOU DONT LIKE ANYTHING.

    • There are many things I like. Sex isn't one of them.

    • Good for you, but guess what? We don't care.

    • Same!

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  • Asexual- someone who has never found the one for them and fallen in love, or overthinks themselves out of any thing that might get serious.

    never met an asexual that I could not play cupid with after I brought them out of thier own heads. The best advice is just roll with it and accept and enjoy the feelings your having, and go for it especially if your not sure.

    • 1. Most people in real life don't identify as asexual. 2. You obviously haven't read the myTake and you just made up a definition about asexual people that you pulled out of your own ass. 3. I just said that romantic asexuals fall in romantic love without wanting sex.

    • So I'm like every one on the internet cool!!!