At a sleepover with my best friend, after the lights were out, I heard her touching herself, which aroused me and made me do the same. Am I a lesbian?

We had been talking about boys and kissing and stuff before so I guess we were aroused. Did this happen to any other girl, touching herself with another girl but not touching each other?
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  • No, you are not a lesbian. Many times, when close friends spend a night (sleepover), each one will or could masturbate. First of all, she must felt good about you to be able to do something personal as she needs to masturbate. There are 90 percent of humans do this when they go to bed to relax and release stress and anxiety. She just had a lot of trust in you, and you both had a solid bonding relationship. Just because you got arousal with her doing it does not mean you are a lesbian. Then you lay in your self-space, and you masturbate as she was masturbating in her self-space. There is nothing wrong with it. This goes on with males, also. Do not go around in public and talk about this. This was between your friend and you. This happened on a Girls' Scout camping trip where I shared a tent with another girl. It happened with my brother when he was in Boy Scouts. My son spent last summer in summer camp experiencing this. You can be in the same room, but each person still has their self-space. You do not spend nights with someone who you are not bonded to. Bonding means a very close relationship. They allow you to be in their personal space and will enable them to be in your personal space. That personal space is private. There is nothing wrong with you. Friends who are genuinely bonding support each other in private matters. She trusts you that she masturbated. That means she wants you to be a part of what she was doing. When you share something personal with a true friend, they feel safer. Be thankful she is not masturbating with porn. Porn is fake; it is not accurate, and you can not relate to it. She wanted you to be a part of this because she felt safe. Do you know how to support someone when they need to masturbate?

  • No, moaning and other noises associated with sexual pleasure turn just about everyone on. I'm totally straight, and sometimes I get turned on when I hear my neighbor having sex with his girlfriend, her moans/screams. I've even read that it's totally normal for straight girls to watch and enjoy lesbian p*rn.
    If you're still wondering about your sexual orientation, imagine yourself in a relationship with a girl. Picture you and an attractive girl holding hands, living together, etc. If it feels right, like you could get everything you need out of that, then maybe you're bisexual. If, however, it feels like something's missing (the presence of a man) then you're straight.
    From what you wrote, it seems like you're probably not a lesbian. But, if you decide to explore the notion further, know that there's nothing to be ashamed of.

    • Thanks for mh! :)

    • To be honest with you. That research, interview others over the years and listen to what people say. That most humans are bi-sexual. Mothers get arousal with their children, but it does not mean they are perverts. Everyone needs to deal with their sexuality and understand it, and then it does not trouble you.

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  • Yes, you are doomed to shun the affections of men, and be drawn only to women for the rest of your life. (I'm kidding.)

    No, you're not a lesbian. You're a sexual creature, as most humans are, and when someone is giving in to temptation, it creates an air of sexual atmosphere that can lure others in, who are there, too.

    It's why some people enjoy "Watching" others have sex.

    It exists for the mutual enjoyment of two people who have made life commitments to one another, when one desires sex- the other does, too.

    You are a feminine creature. By nature, women are generally soft, and vulnerable. It makes it a little easier to fall into this sort of thing than maybe a man, who might be repulsed by it.

    Don't blame yourself.

    Your friend likely has serious emotional issues, for her to do that in your presence. If I was you, I would avoid getting sucked into any traps like that. Be careful.

    • Since @AshleyGreen then did the same are you saying that she has serious emotional issues?

    • No. But it could begin her down a trail that could end poorly for her. Lots of people are sexually derailed because of incidents like this.

    • @Red_Arrow Do not play any throughs with this person. Red Arrow, the Bible warns you about fooling people. You do not talk to them. This Red Arrow is completely wrong. The sexual creature is an unapproved word to use in this article. The woman who was masturbating does not have serious emotional issues. I pray and hope Red Arrow does not work with children or teens.

  • You were already aroused. She decided to take advantage of the dark and enjoy herself. Don't know what you "heard" (her movement, moaning, whatever) but you realized what was going on and since you were already aroused and knew she was pleasuring herself and not in a position to judge you, you went ahead and did the same. It does not indicate any interest in her or any woman. Since you were not doing any more than she, it was not something that was out of line for you. And there was certainly nothing to indicate a sexual preference, one way or the other.

    • Well put, you are a blessing. Thanks for your high level of knowledge, wisdom, insight, understanding, and common sense in this matter. I am proud of you.

    • Well, you said I am completely wrong. Then said you hope I do not work with children ore teens. Then you said "Well put, you are a blessing. Thanks for your high level of knowledge, wisdom, insight, understanding, and common sense in this matter. I am proud of you." You sound like a real nut job!

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  • Ho, it means you are a normal, horny college-aged girl, who was turned on by sex noises. That's pretty ordinary.

    • Lol did you just call her a hoe?

    • Doh! That should have been "No". An unfortunate typo.

  • sex talk and sexuality gets people aroused, seems normal i wouldn't say you are a lesbian as it was just the sexual act that made you aroused. if you had the craving to get involved with her then its a different story.

    • Good point; under the question I put up about sex education in school and how they learn. I made a statement under someone's comment that when they have this class. Later that day, 1,000 percent of the students will masturbate or have sex.

  • No this does not make you lesbian..women moaning is a turn on

    • We females get turned on with sound, visual, and seeing others nude.

  • No, the sound of a girl touching herself is a big turn on. If a girl watches lesbian p*rn, then i'd still consider her straight.