At natrual state. A man getting a bj is dominant but a man giving oral to a woman is also dominant?

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This is related to another question I saw on here.. so if a woman gives a man a blowjob without doing any extra stuff I would say she is being submissive and he is dominant. But if a man is doing the opposite to her 😼 I'd still say he is dominant and she is submissive. (Not adding or trying to go the opposite way, like just natrual). Am I wrong or no?

Billlewis · Accepted Answer

A man getting his dick sucked is definitely dominant, but licking a woman's pussy is very submissive, in my opinion.

BarryLiverstone · Accepted Answer

For me, dominance isn’t about the sexual action. It’s the energy and how the two people communicate.

chrissykerdock · Answer

if you wear short dresses and get on your knees when the man asks you to then your submissive... without a question asked... doms will often ask y ou to lower your panties... basically tell you what to do and you don't question him nor talk back... in a sense there's a safety there... or a trust in your dom where it's a better experience for both... would you rather be on a boring date wondering if he likes you or would you like to be out with a guy who asks you to get on your knees so you can give him a blowjob? if your fine with that than being submissive is for you... nothing's better than wearing a nice short and sexy dress... being bare thighs... and giving someone head.

Losalt · Answer

I'm thinking that oral sex isn't tired to power pr say, but that it can play a role in power dynamics when it already exists.
So a man *ordering* a girl to blow him is dominant and in control despite the effect she has on him.
He's looking down on her, holding her head and controlling the pace, telling her what to do etc, instead of letting her decide what to do.
Or perhaps even "skull fucking" her Instead of regular blow jobs.
Likewise a dominant man might be giving *her* pleasure, but *he* is deciding what's happening, playing her body like a instrument, controlling her.

By contrast a dominant woman and submissive man might have her controlling *his* body, deciding what's going on etc, and might be ordering *him* to pleasure her etc...

The terms "top" and "bottom" is used in BDSM here, not to describe who is where, but who is the active part or in control.
A Dom is on top in a D/s sense even when he's on the bottom in other senses.
So a dominant masochist might order a submissive sadist to tie him or her up and torture him or her on his or her command.
Being in control (s) he's the D/s top, but being bound (s) he's the bottom in terms of bondage, and (s) he's bottom in terms of S/m.

Does that make sense?

You can be a dominant guy while being tied up tortured by a girl that's on top of you and riding your penis, because *you* are in control.
And she wouldn't be able to disobey him even if she wanted to, completely ensnared by his mind and will.

It's a spell easily broken, but while it lasts he's 100% in control.

madhatters4 · Answer

i don't think there is necessarily a dominate or submissive element to oral sex. or it can be both for the giver or the receiver.

the giver is really the person in control, but at the same point they are effectively in service to the other person. so i don't know. i don't see it, at it's basic, as a dominant vs submissive thing.

BadApple69 · Answer

I think part of it is who is on top. If a man is standing getting a BJ then he is looking down at the girl. That’s a dominate position. Reverse the sexes and if the girl was standing and the guy on his knees… I wouldn’t consider him dominate.
The same would go for a guy laying on his back getting a BJ. With the girl above him I would consider her in charge making her the dominate one.

Apple1996 · Answer

The person giving is dominant

abc3643 · Answer

You fail to neglect that some girls just love to give blowjobs. They want a dick in their mouth and cum on their tongue. THEY WANT IT. There are no dominance issues there.

Same with muff diving. Some guys just like to dine at the Y. Again, no dominance issues.

AMS700CX4u2 · Answer

If you are focused on being the dominant one then your concerns are for yourself. To give, in this situation, is to focus on the receivers pleasure and to not worry about yourself. However, If the receiver is pleased they will more than likely reciprocate. Happy people tend to like to create happiness.

papiC21 · Answer

It's all in the way you do it. If you treat it like you are dominant then it doesn't matter who is giving or who is on top. Where you put your hands, the vibe you are giving off, etc. I'm still going to be dominant when going down on my girl because I'll throw her back, hold her legs down or something ya know. And also when getting a BJ, I get my little tough guy posture and shit feelin like Im cool for a sec, put your hands on her head, things like that. It would be different if she powerbombed me onto the bed and tossed my legs to my ears to suck me off.

ManOnFire · Answer

Wrong, wrong, wrong lol. She is still dominant even when she's giving a bj, and she can turn up the heat on that by really being aggressive and grabbing his hands to keep him powerless when he tries to take her head and bob it on his cock. Whoever is getting oral is submissive. Whoever is giving it is dominant, because they are the ones providing the pleasure. Same when a man is eating her up, she is submissive and he's dominant, especially with eating a woman because she is in a super submissive and helpless position.

Dargil · Answer

I see a BJ as a girl prevailing and guy subordinating. I see Cunnilingus as a guy prevailing, even controlling and girl subordinate, even submitting.

oldguystillhasit · Answer

My wife almost always initiates giving me head so I really don't think she is submissive when I let her do me.

Hithere4567 · Answer

I think going down on a woman is more sub than dom?

Andres77 · Answer

The fact that you insist that there must be a dominant partner in the relationship is just sad. There must not be any quality men around you. Or, despite your tremendous beauty, you must have some real issues.

jahaims · Answer

Depends how you go about it.

kellytheman · Answer

I think it depends what position you’re giving or getting oral n. If a girl is on her knees while the guy is standing the girls is submissive and the guy is dominant but if a girl is sitting on his face she is dominant and he is submissive.69 is kinda a mixed bag it kinda depends who’s giving or getting the most pleasure.