At what point do YOU consider an encounter to be kinky?

Question

"kinky" to one person may be vanilla for someone else, but where do YOU think the line is?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think it's when something outside of vaginal and oral sex and foreplay happens. When someone gets restrained, becomes dominant or submissive, or a non-sexual body part like butt or feet gets involved.

Another good factor to judge by is whether you'd be hesitant to tell a friend about it. I've talked with friends about sex. I haven't told them about the times I got handcuffed by my wife, let her put her finger in my butt during oral, or went down on her after cumming inside her because all those things are kinky.

Kaneki05 · Accepted Answer

When she's into what I am into. Otherwise it's just kinda Vanilla like when a girl say's I am kinky because I like cuffs, I am... just here thinking no pretty sure that's a common thing for a women.
Kinky has to be something out side the normal to me. A dominate woman and submissive guy for example is very much outside the normal therefore kinky.

Guy13 · Answer

When whichever person says that's far enough. And is willing to play again... move forward at a comfortable pace until Vanilla is getting a return too. Make sense?

sw1916 · Answer

To me any time submission or dominance is involved or sexualizing a body part that isn’t meant to be sexualized

Berethor · Answer

Anything behind normal sex can be considered kinky/pervert, and BDSM is never vanilla.

slatyb · Answer

Could be a number of things starting with a good spanking. Bondage is definitely kinky.

Dargil · Answer

I don't think of kinks as BDSM, cosplay, group sex or role playing. To me kinks are on the visceral side. I would consider an encounter kinky if she initiates or attempts a blow job.

SushiSxnpai · Answer

Out of the ordinary, I’d say.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

When other bodily fluids/secretions get involved that one wouldn't automatically assume should be involved.

Havthrills · Answer

Some dominance. Many toys involved at the same time can be kinky. Will you share your thoughts later?

Keepitreal007 · Answer

Certain toys or when food is involved.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

It’s all in the delivery.

swettannie · Answer

when he put a collar on me

Hanrej · Answer

I would draw the line at when you enjoy a feeling others would describe as negative. Like, pain, shame, disgust and stuff like that. When you find a way to turn that into pleasure during sex, you're kinky.