Attraction to Black Men = Perversion?

I'd like to know if anyone else has had a similar experience to me:

I've found that when I express to friends in a conversational/casual way that I'm attracted to black men, I'm met with jokes or shock or questions. The general assumption from society seems to be that it's a sexual perversion, that it's all about big black dicks, that it's some sort of joke. It's never just accepted as an ok/normal thing.

My good friends know about my preferences and they're totally fine with it - but there are still jokes when it comes up, or it's assumed that I'll have the hots for any black man that crosses our paths, regardless of whether I find him attractive or not.

I'm even afraid to tell a black guy that I may be dating that I prefer black men, in case he thinks it's weird or a fetish and I'm sexualising him.

Personally, my love for black men feels natural and pure and the LAST thing it feels to me is dirty or perverted. I just hate the assumption that if I like black guys, it must be about big dicks

Has anyone else had that kind of reception?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • it's a stereotype created by porn and sex sites/social media. it's the most depraved fetish about white women being sluts for all black men supposedly because of their big dicks. unfortunately for people like you, this is how the average person views white women that date black men. they view them as sluts who date them because they want big dicks or fetishize them because they have daddy issues. of course, there is truth to the part about daddy issues. in my opinion, it's mostly social media to blame. they allow this type of garbage to flourish, twitter being a prominent example. it's unironic that women who date black men usually flock to twitter, further reinforcing this belief.

  • If you only date black guys, you must have a reason other than "I prefer them" - by taking all other men off the table, you are in some sense fetishizing the black men, whether you understand the "why" or not. It does seem like you are embracing a stereotype rather than a person.

    I think you should reassess your feelings and reasoning and figure out what exactly drives you to be attracted to them only.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Unfortunately, porn has created this stereotype that black men are all well-endowed and white women’s interest in them is purely a sexual fetish. In reality, it can just be a personal preference... the same way some people have preferences based on hair color, build, height, culture, or status.

  • Yes, I know what you mean. It's stupid. I have a black boyfriend and even some of my girl friends made jokes about THAT.

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  • Those people are just idiots and/or jealous. If that's a perversion, then anything anyone is into sexually is a perversion.

  • Hmmm? Why am I not surprised by the company you keep.

  • Well what culture do you come from? Your preference is perfectly valid, but there are many cultures that feel entitled to control your sexual desires.

  • its called jungle fever, just a fetish i think or a tyle or a fever ha

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  • Well that's the stereotype buddy. Why else would you prefer black men? You didn't exactly explain why you're attracted to them.

    If it's not for the d then it's probably for something else physical.

  • Yes very same jokes etc.

  • I don't have a taste when it comes down to race so no but i have met girls who do and thats fine

  • i still don't understand why people like black colour why not a tanned skin basically what we call as skin colour , like that of dwayne johnson, neymar, ronaldo, kim kardashian you just carefully reasses you will fall in love with tan skin instead of black.

  • if it becomes a creepy obsession

  • No, not everyone look like a stallion.

  • No it is not. You are absolutely okay and I even adore you. Everyone can have preferences some prefer white some prefer Asian there is absolutely nothing wrong with that

  • Maybe only for that reason most of the white girls want to try black dick..

  • No more so than Attraction to Asian Girls would be "sexual perversion" for us guys. Which, FYI, we also get similar assumptions from, especially speaking as a black male.

    • Maybe you're right. But I've honestly never heard anything about guys dating Asian girls. Since you're black you'd know how people react when you're dating a whiter girl.

  • Date a black guy with a small dick and prove them all wrong.

    • I won't date anyone specifically because of his dick size.

    • Then explain to them why you are attracted to black men. Is it their lips, muscles, voices? I don't know, just articulate what it is that draws you to them.

    • It's called preference. I already said that in my question.

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  • White girls who date black men do it because they think black guys have bigger dicks. It’s a pretty standard truth.

    • That's exactly what I asked in question. How and why do people come to that conclusion?

    • Because it’s generally true.

  • you do you!