Azrial's Hand-Job Guide

You may not feel like taking a penis in your mouth, but still wish to do something special for a man. Try a hand-job (HJ). A well-done HJ can be just as pleasurable for the man as a BJ.

For details on undressing him and moving from his mouth to his private parts, check my blow-job guide (Azrial's Blowjob Guide).

Lube Up

You can leave out the lubricant, but it will be several times better for the guy, if you add some lube. Alternately, you can use saliva. He might find it sexy that you spit or drop some saliva on his member, but it's not guaranteed, so check his signals.

I would suggest starting without lube to get him started and then add the lube after a few minutes.

If you want to have penetrative sex with a condom after the HJ, I would recommend either leaving the lube out or having a towel / cloth ready.

How To Handle Him

It is fine to move quickly and jerk him at full speed. It feels great, but I would save it for later in the act. In the beginning, take it slow and vary your pace. The key to an amazing HJ (or blow-job) is to build tension.

Careful with the nails. Nails can cause pain. It can be okay to gently run your nails along the shaft of the penis. The skin on the scrotum may also be okay. But be careful.

Scratching and pinching is okay (if he likes it) on the rest of the skin (thighs, belly, buttocks, etc.).

In SM you can find something called "edging" or "orgasm denial". This means bringing the receiving part (in this case the man) to the edge of orgasm and then stopping or changing the pace / technique, so that he doesn't come. It's mean, but it builds tension, and once you do allow him release, his orgasm will be so much better.

If he gets annoyed, just tell him to be a good boy and let you do your magic.

His Penis

Depending on whether or not you chose to lube his member, these tips may be of more or less use.

The most basic HJ technique is probably to grab his member with one hand with your thumb facing towards you and then stroke back and forth. This can also be done with two hands. It's very simple and definitely not bad.

Now try turning your hand(s) so the thumb is facing him instead. This stroking technique is the only actual possibility if you are standing.

This "backward" grip is also much better for pulling his member. Best with lube. Grab his wood with one hand (backward grip) and pull towards yourself. Only stretch him a little and then let your hand slide off him. You can continue this by repeating the process with the other hand and so on.

You can also "push" his member (normal grip may be best for this). You grab him with a semi-tight grip and push your hand(s) towards his body. This will create a slight stretch at the glans /head of his penis. Once you feel some resistance, let your hands slide the rest of the way to his body.

Try alternating between pushing and pulling.

For both the normal and the backward grip, you can alter the sensation by turning your hand from side to side (not twisting his penis) while stroking.

The glans / head of his penis is very sensitive, and it might be uncomfortable for him if you stimulate it to intensely (imagine the man focussing directly and intensely on you clitoris). But do not be afraid of touching it. The most sensitive areas of the head are right around the opening and just blow the head.

A great way to stimulate the glans more directly is to turn your hand a bit when you reach the tip of the penis, so that the palm of your hand runs across the tip instead of along it or simply closing your hand(s) more and more around the penis as you get closer to the tip.

You can also let your fingertips caress the glans gently, though you should try not to hit the most sensitive areas too much.

In stead of grabbing around his member, you can run your fingers along and around it.

As I mentioned in my BJ guide, the base of the penis is often forgotten. Try grabbing it the base tight (not too tight though) and jerk only the innermost 3-5 cm of his member. To avoid touching the rest of his penis, the normal grip is great.

Another nice move is to use a tight normal grip as close to his body as you can and stroke only moving as far as the skin allows. Many men don't know the pleasure that can derive from pulling / stroking the part of their penis closest to their body.

Finally, you can place your hands in extension of each other creating a long tube. This way you can stimulate his entire length at once. Combine it with some twisting, and you'll have him climaxing in no time.

Azrial's Hand-Job Guide

His Balls

Some men like to have their scrotum touched, others don't.

When touching the scrotum, it's important to not grab too tight as this hurts... A lot.

Cup your hand(s) and treat his balls as if they were a pair of Asian anti-stress balls. You can also rub them back and forth with your hand slightly curved.

If he is into it, you can try pulling them gently, too. Tightening the cup-grip can pulling until you feel a slight resistance. Then either let go or let them slip through your fingers.

His Anus

Once again an area that some men like to have included and others don't. Many men fear their own anus do to some sort of homophobia, so tread carefully.

This area is best approached with lube. At first, let a finger or two rim his anus. If he allows it, you can put a finger inside. Start with just the tip of a finger. If you move deeper, try to locate his prostate gland (approximately 5 cm up, in de direction of his belly) and rub it.

Before doing anything to his anus, I would strongly suggest talking with him about it.

Use Your Mouth

Though you may not want his penis in your mouth, there are plenty of other places you can use your mouth.

You can kiss, lick and bite his entire body. So go ahead. Also, let your hands roam freely. Touch him everywhere (unless it's somewhere he dislikes being touched)

Also, talk to him. Men are terribly vane when it come to sex and especially their penis. So tell him how big and good his penis looks, or how you're going to make him feel good... Make him feel good about himself.

Moaning and other sexy sounds are not required, but do add to the experience. You can help this along by tending to your own body as well ;)

Your Body

Yes. Don't forget yourself. You have needs, too. So either help yourself out or make him help you.

You can add a vibrator for extra fun (for instance a wireless, remote-controlled vibrator that he can control).

Also, you have other body parts than hands and mouth.

You can try stimulating him with your breasts or simply rub your body against him and his member.

Climax

If you do not want penetrative sex, go ahead and make him climax. It's always a good idea to tell him where you want him to release, so that he doesn't do something you don't want (e.g. release in your face, when you only want in on you breasts).

Once a man reaches climax, he can become very sensitive, and it can be unbearable for him to be touched. Therefore, if you plan on continuing, let your hands stay around him, but stay very still (the tiny moves, you will make can be nice because they are so subtle) and let him recover for a bit. Once he calms down, you can start very gently again.

Letting go of the penis seems to make it harder to start again.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • I never touched another penis than mine but a handjob on a circumcized penis seems more delicate than when there's a foreskin to make it easier.

Most Helpful Girl

  • not working , help over here

    • Not working in what way? Can't he get off from a hand job? You could always ask him whether he likes something in particular. You could also stimulate his glans more intensely... A tighter grip and fast, short strokes focusing on the head and the area right below the head. I can't guarantee that it will be what he needs, but I hope it is :)

    • hi do u interest in talking

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  • Why do you put your name on the title who the fuck are you.

    • I put my name in the titles because these are MY guides. It's another way of emphasising that what I write is no universal truth, but merely what I have come to learn through experience and talking to other people about sex.

  • of course you would know how to give good hand jobs :D

  • That is what I always thought of when I saw those weight ads too.

  • Azrial? The angel of death 😂