Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Sexual addiction can come in many forms. For me, it was like... a new year, a new addiction. And well, you know its bad when you set aside other activities. You know its bad when you dont care who you hurt. You know its bad when you dont care if you even hurt your damn self. You know its bad when you want to do risky things in risky places. You know its #ALowDownDirtyShame when you just like it straight raw... if you know what i mean...
I hate giving in to sexual temptation because its so hard to resist once the addiction has started. I guess fighting sexual tension for so long (by simply not thinking about it and doing nonsexual things to occupy myself) just makes it that much worse once finally giving into something sexual. It’s like... whats the healing factor ya know? Well, below are a few of the sexual addictions I’ve dealt with.
SOFT PORN ADDICTION
In late 2006, i had a softporn addiction after being introduced to the late night shows on HBO/Cinemax/Showtime. I’d stay up late nights on school nights, just watching the romantic scenes. Yes softporn films on those channels were quite romantic but dont show shit lol. I didn't know what “flicking the bean” was til like 3 years later when a friend taught me what touch. Anyways, I would accidentally buy PPV porn and then blame other family members in the house. I never got caught but finally told my mom the truth in 2020. Meanwhile, I forced myself to stop watching softporn after those 2 months of addiction.
PUBLIC SEX ADDICTION
In late 2009, I had a bit of an exhibitionist addiction. That year I was pressured into losing my virginity to my ex. After so many times of hating sex, I eventually learned to like it. Even worse, he kept making us do it in public places. We got caught by so many classmates, family, friends and enemies. Yet i’d deny deny deny. As a result, I got bullied at school because of it. But afterwhile, I started to like this new me... and so i started to own up to it. I wanted to get caught even more than before. I think part of it had to do with having to hear my mom get laid. It fcked me up in the head as I cried myself to sleep because i didn't want to hear her moans. I didn't want anyone touching my mom. I thought he was hurting her and when i tried to cockblock, she’d snap at me and put me out. So as a revenge plot, i wanted her to catch me having sex so she could understand how I felt. Instead, it was Her boyfriend who kept catching me around town. He’d tell my mom but she never believed him. Funny she believed me when i told him he bought the PPV softporn. But til this day, she has never caught me...
MASTURBATION ADDICTION
In late 2015, I grew addicted to masturbation. My first ex had always fingered me, but never teased my [SHUT THE FRONT DOOR] nor taught me to touch myself. So when i started watching hardcore porn, it helped me in terms of experimenting. Once i started to play with myself, I couldnt stop. I was addicted for I’d say 3 months straight. I couldnt stop no matter where i went. I was skipping meals, not sleeping, dodging family time. Even if i hung out with someone, i’d sit far away from them and throw something over my lap to cover me, then I’d go at it. I never even had to think about anything. I just enjoyed the feeling of being penetrated until it hurt. I don't know what came over me, but I was happy once i forced myself to stop. However, i then turned to nipple play and it was an addiction for about a good year. Now I've trained myself to have mentalgasms in which i orgasm just from seeing/hearing something really hot and dont even have to touch myself. Its much better than physical addiction and more easy to control.
SEXTING ADDICTION
In late 2016, i had a sexting addiction. No i didn't send nudes but i still made things worthwhile just using my words and a few seductive pics and gifs. It became about getting off to those who got off. Yet, After satisfying one, i couldnt just go on about my day. I had to go for another and another. I was just never satisfied. I forced myself to stop after i started to get caught up. It felt like cheating although it wasn't. But still, That “one crush” would feel hurt after realizing he wasn't the only. I just felt like an awful person and wanted to be better so I made myself stop.
HARDCORE PORN ADDICTION
In 2018, I had a hardcore porn addiction. No matter how good my ex gave it to me, i wanted to keep going and well, when he went to sleep, I’d sneak and watch porn. The one time i didn't was when I nearly killed us both by going at it from 10am that morning til 2am the next morning. I couldnt part my legs for a good 24 hours after and neither of us could hardly walk. I guess sometimes you just gotta tapout to not need porn after.
PHONE SEX ADDICTION
In 2019, I had a phone sex addiction. Saying those things were 10 times more powerful than texting them. At first, i was fine just making that one guy go nuts. When we ended, i was fine making another go crazy. It was good longterm stuff with people i thought i’d end up with forreal. But other problems started to overpower the sexual pleasure. So once i decided to just remain single that year, the sexual addiction came back. Once again, I just wanted to make as many bust a nut as possible. And i’d just never take a break. It was call Ted. Hangup. Call Ned. Hangup. Call Fred. Hangup. Call Ed. Hangup. No matter how much I came... #NeverSatisfied
I realized these addictions came about partially from not truly loving myself. Once i did, it became so much easier to resist temptation and sexual addiction. As of 2020 i was very proud of myself. I fought off all of these addictions and just stuck to being a minor tease. As of 2021, I nearly caved but thanks to rejection, I was knocked back into focus and will keep holding back until i feel i’ve met the right one. Sometimes you just gotta be turned down by a man of God to get it together. Lesson Learned: DO BETTER.
Now a lot of you will realize, when i turn down your PM’s, its for my own good. See, porn, sexting and phone sex are things that can mess with you mentally but i just wouldn't be able to live with myself if i had gotten physical and had actual sex with so many men. Anyways, if you’re dealing with a sexual addiction, try and fight it. Some need therapy, some need prayer. I think most just need time. It’ll die down on its own.
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What Girls & Guys Said
19 77Oh that's awful, I'm so sorry.
Can I get your number? We should talk about this in person. 😉
You really dont care huh
Humor heals all.
I feel heavily addicted to porn. I’m extremely lonely after still being single at 32yo. I want to quit, but it’s difficult.
You gotta pray
I am. I believe in God. I need to learn how to believe in myself too, though. I’m frustrated with myself too much.
Yes love yourself like i learned to
Any tips?
Did you read my take above?
I am unable to “mentalgasm”. I have no partner to “tap out”.
I have no partner either. You have to occupy yourself withh other things, tv shows, games etc
I’ve tried that every single day. No progress.
It takes time
Everything takes time, but it shouldn’t take 20+ years. There’s clearly something wrong.
It sounds like you have been through hell with your addictions. I commend you for talking about them here. A lady friend of mine has been addicted to sex since her uncle took her virginity at 7 years old. Yes he is in jail. She can't get enough sex. I refuse to have sex with her because then I wouldn't be helping her addiction, I'd be feulling it. How can I help her overcome her addiction?
Leave her be. I had an ex who was raped by his babysitter at age 9. He tried to tell and she threatened to accuse him of rape. He grew up addicted to sex with older women. He was only 2 years younger than me but tried to rape me because he couldnt get over the sexual addixtion. he's not the same guy from the other mytake. But yea i left him
You don't think I should do anything?
I think you have to leave her. She’ll either rape you or cheat on you
We're not dating. She is strictly just a friend. I've known her for years but only found out about her addiction 4 years ago. I've been trying to take up all her time so she can't meet guys
You’re gonna wear yourself out trying to watch her. You gotta take the training wheels off and hope she's learned to better herself
I know she's just going to do what she wants. Several guys on different occasions have almost killed her. They beat her and choked her. She always calls me to pick her up when she gets beat up badly.
Damn she needs rehab
I can't sign her in to a rehab center, I'm only a friend. Her mom is a druggie and an alcoholic. Her dad is in jail. She lives with her aunt and she gave up years ago. I know she is going to end up dead. She's the sweetest most caring woman. She just has this one problem
Pray for her man. I don't know
Believe me I do, I really do
For me it was masturbating at the age of 12 or 14 years old. I had to masturbate everytime and it would ev n use my imagination which at the time seemed limitless as anything would feel that void no matter eventually if it was a girl who I had a crush or just thinking inappropriate thoughts. 2001, I eventually got into porn cause my brother had friends who would download videos on CDs back in 2001-2005. My brother had CDs which videos which his friend downloaded from Limewire back in the day. It lead to me looking up porn stars on the internet. I would get addicted to watching it at night for about 13 years on and off. I never done sexting, phone sex, or public sex addiction. I seen softcore which lead to hardcore and was just turned on by how hardcore is was in the videos.
At least you had an imagination when masturbating. I didn't imagine anything. I just wanted to play lol. Yea i was 13 when i got addicted to watching softporn on hbo. But i didn't start watching hardcore til i was almost 21
I remember at 13 years old, there was a channel 99 and it was called Redezous Channel where you could order adult movies. It was scrambled but you could make out the image just barely on the TV.
Lmao wow. Channel 99 here only played Monk, Nash and In The Heat of the Night lmao
It's only addiction if it hurts you in any way.
If it doesn't hurt anyone, go nuts and do wjat you truly like! Only listen to a no if it comes from you mutual beloved other for whatver reason like lack of lust or if you fapp too much and it physically hurt you.
Learn to read off of the negative signs if there are any.
No its addiction when you stop sleeping/eating/spending times with others. That was hurting me. Also i was breaking hearts left and right because people were thinking they were the only “happy ending”. So yes its addiction. You have to listen to yourself. Others can be enablers
What did I just write?👆👆👆👆👆👆👆👆
I didn't exclude other people. What I meant is when someone you love or care about got hurt from it, so would you. That's when you stop at the latest, rather consider it beforehand... If it doesn't mess anything up, It's not a problem per see, therefore the addiction isn't that seriously bad YET... Stop when it gets harmful in any way and listen to other people IF needed.
Ignorance can be anmoying sometimes...😳🙄😨
Smh the struggle is real 🤣🤣
Not anymore. Im good now haha
I don’t believe in addictions, it’s not like some godly overpowering force made u put your hands in your pants that u have no control over... I think whenever I fap I make the conscious choice to do it, I’m controlling my hand to go down there... so I’m not addicted... I jus choose to do it to much,
I could simply jus stop if I wanted too... but I don’t think I want to enough, that’s why I keep doing it... it’s like looking at chocolate for a long time and trying not to eat it... eventually you’re gonna give in and eat it... well... the best thing to do is jus not even look at that chocolate for months and have some self control... jus don’t do it... don’t look at that metaphorical chocolate (porn) for months.
It’s pretty easy to do to be honest... the hard part is commiting yourself to do it... but once u commit... it’s easy
I’m going to stop right now jus to show u how easy it is... see you in 3 months penis
Also don’t even think about the metaphorical chocolate... cos if you think about it too much that will lead u to looking at it.. and so on... jus don’t even have any sexual thoughts at all
Like i said, you may not be addicted but i was. I was addicted for a few months and stopped eating and sleeping.
Addictions can be difficult to break I wish you luck in your recovery
Im pretty good. Its been over a year now :)
The positive thing is it's a healthy addiction where your hands don't talk back 😇
Wow it must have been hard to stop sexting I can't lol.
Lol i grew bored of it. It doesn't compare to phone sex and phone sex doesn't compare to real sex
Right but still it is a thrill to sext like especially with girls who are strangers lol.
I preferred crushes over strangers. I have to form a connection first
So that is why you were able to stop lol.
I only did those things with crushes. I stopped because i didn't see them as husband material. They showed true colors down the road. So it was easy to drop em like flies
See I would probably never sext with a girl that I cared about I am like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde lol.
Thats horrible. But they probably thought the same deep down
Like I cannot let them know I am a pervert lol it is like 2 separate lives to be honest. Not that I am dating at the moment but any girl I ever was legit interested in I never let them see that side. Only whores lol.
Thats nuts. Yea im not into manwhores. So i was very picky about who i sexted. I was just single and had a lot of attractive options and was getting to know them one by one. But we all got horny in the same week, so the dirty talk just happened daily with a different guy that i liked 🤷♀️ I dumped em all for one guy that i reeeeally liked. But then he did some weird shit and i left him for another guy i liked. Then that guy turned out to be a former pornstar so i left him for a boyfriend indated for 2 years lmao
Wow that is crazy. Yea I have sexted with numerous girls at the same time and also had a lot of phonesex too. No phonesex in the past decade though but before that all the time.
All the phone sex last year was with actual boyfriends. 2019 was also just boyfriends but i fcked up in September and just said hello world 😂 2017-19 i dated one person so it was all him. Well actually early 2017 was two others before i dated him. But yea 2016 was just baaaad in December
Well I still respect you because you were not doing it with random strangers lol.
Thanks
Oh wow what about food sex 🤣🤣
Its not funny
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I probably have a masturbation and porn addiction but being a guy it's like normalized so I dont look into it much. Obviously not to the extent of OP. I wonder if this is common in females because they can get off more/longer? I don't know :l...
Its not normal when you stop eating/sleeping. And yea its prob in females but short term. All my addictions were only 2-3 months
Yeah lack of sleep is brutal, your mind would probably just act to impulse or routine. Good for you having the willpower to fight your addictions.
Thank you :)
Nice Mytake and its very normal 🙂🙂
Its not normal to sit aside food/sleep/family for sexual things
I got your point but sexual urges are very strong in teenage years and early tewnties
I know many Christians who have fought them off
I'm addicted to looking at women's feet
Uh uh lol
Hell yeah I'm gonna vacation and bang every sexy prostitute I can. (With condoms). Good beaches, good pussy, good weed, good times.
Honestly I do have sex addiction , it’s just grows
It will grow if you dont care to fight it. But luckily i wanted to fightmine and i did
I must say, interesting and very funny intake. It gave me comfort that I'm not the only one. I have recently been going through some of the same stuff as you, and honestly it feels very scary and bad. I dont know all the reasons for it, but I believe it's because I was sexually abused as a child in some ways.
Yea its not bad but it an get there. Yea i think sexual abuse has cause a lot of people to have these addictions. I was taken advantage of by my first boyfriend. One of my exes was raped by his babysitter and it caused him to become a sex addict and he even threatened to “take it from me” if i didn't give it up in time. Its sad
Definitely is sad, you're right. I'm married now but still fantasize and get thoughts of a friends with benefits I had when I was younger.. it's quite damaging.
Ooo please see a sex therapist. Save your marriage
Yeah, thanks
I can relate to this post a lot more than I'd like to.
Have you fought it?
Oh yes, for sure. Among other demons, lol. I'm willing to go into it, just not here.
this was very interesting to read.
very good writing never knew you had any sexual addictions i like that you are open about it most people are not.
call me weird but i enjoyed this mytake
You know me I'm always curious 😂😂 i have a few questions of you don't mind
i would never judge you there were needs you needed met.
Nah i was being horrible
@dizzydesii not my place to say hope i have not been talking off you ear today its just nice talking to you again.
@dizzydesii horrible would be riding every guys dick.
Very well done! I think I’m always thinking of fucking, can’t wait to get my cock in a wet pussy and fill with my cum.
Lol we know