BDSM for beginners, can anyone please post some tips and advice for both the sub and the dom or domme?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Don't know about the sub cause I am a full time freaking dommie
Maybe the sub must just surrender and accept what Dom does and be obedient

The dom guy must make efforts to understand doing what makes her most aroused/excited
Don't directly ask her, cause that's a turn off for Subs.. cause Dom never asks Sub for opinion
But Dom must analyse her reaction and make out what she loves the most so as to make things enjoyable for both

Almost every sub love the feeling of being held down and helpless
That is, they have to accept what is being done to them and they can't literally do anything about it
Bondage helps in this. So whatever you are doing to them , it would be great to have them restrained and unable to move/resist

For this you can use ropes, tapes or anything
Personally I prefer using my strong hands against which she got no chance
So pin her hands either on both sides of head , or above her head or behind her back while having your way with her

Some subs are kind of into verbal stuff more..
That is kind of getting ordered to do or say stuff
They may get aroused when you order them call you Daddy/Sir or order them to kneel etc etc

Also verbally abusing gets some subs aroused , if that's the case call her Bit*h , sl*t or anything like thay frequently in between (Never liked this very much)

Some fantasy stories help too. Maybe like a rape fantasy
So take her by force and surprise and carry her to bed and have your way

Last , but most importantly : Always , Always have a safe word and stop immediately if the sub says the word and give her a comforting her and calm her down

[richardcory]

As others have said, always a safe word. Just "red" works.

Next COMMUNICATE. Different people like or dislike completely different things - both the actual physical activities, and the atmosphere around them. Both of you describe what you think would be fun to do, see where the overlap is

[Anonymous]

Sure mistress can help but only if you submit and give into my wants! Get you tied up pinned down my cunt on your face...

[pethouse]

Safe word always have a safe word