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Sexual Health Because I am Virgin I Said to my friend that I want Virgin guy but she Said that you can not find How can I answer to her?
Anonymous
I am Virgin and i want someone who is Virgin too. Of course if i love someone it does not matter but my priority is like that right now. I am 25 and my friend says that you will never be able to find. ( in where i live, Virgin girls are more than Virgin guys because hymen is important) men can have sex with their girlfriends or if they do not have they go to the escorts. Anyway i Said that i want this but the what my friend Said offended me.
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5 22Because she’s probably right and I doubt you’ll find a virgin guy around your age, maybe he still in high school or someone that you would never want to be with and that’s why he’s a virgin
But if there are Virgin girls. There can be Virgin guys too.
Not if women outnumber men where you are, Also many of the guys go to the same women to lose it if they’re going to escorts
I wouldn’t mind a virgin but never had one, there were none past 16 in my generation
No outnumber. Yeah, i agree with that thought because of escorts but i didn’t understand why you think he is someone i would never want to be with? Maybe he can be shy. That’s why he couldn’t do it, i am like that too.
Do you mean girl virgin?
Yeah girls here in USA were never virgins after 16 but I meant something might be physically wrong with the guy or really socially awkward or autistic to be a virgin in their mid to late 20s
Maybe He is not… :(
I'll be ur virgin 🥴
Finding the right person is hard enough without making extra problems for yourself.
I know about that. I do not say that if i find someone who is not Virgin i will break up with him i just say if i find someone like me i will feel happier.
But if that is the case then why even bother talking / thinking about it? The fact of the matter is that you rate this as being important, so it is in the scales there somewhere. What that means is that all other things being equal you would choose an objectively inferior man who was a virgin to an objectively superior one who was not.
I haven’t experienced anything so i feel very bad when someone who i love experienced it makes me think so much. I don’t judge or criticize them but i know that i will care too much. Many people who are virgins care about this. And i do not think He and i are inferior.
You are not grasping this concept. Imagine the following thought experiment: You have a dating value of X and are able to trade out evenly with a partner who also has a dating value of X. The value of X is determined by all of your physical, personal, social and belief properties etc. By placing ANY value on virginity, you are NECESSARILY losing value in some other area directly proportionately to the value you place on virginity in order for X to be equal to X. It cannot be another way. Even if you were to say that you have been lucky and have been able to trade favourably and trade your X for X+1 or X+Y you are still losing whatever the value of virginity is vs virginity not being one of the variables.
It became more complicated but i understood what you said and i am okay with that. He can have less but if He is Virgin i will feel better. For example, if you were a Virgin and experienced nothing but you have a lover who experienced everything How do you feel? ( you will marry with her and she will be the one) i think it will come to my mind and i will feel bad because of the fact that i haven’t experienced anything. There is one more way in that way i must experience something before i get into serious relationship. I do not know it is right or not.
I can certainly appreciate how and why that could or would be a problem, but I am not an advocate of virgins getting married. Im not against it as such, I think its great if a couple happens to be in that situation, the problems come when you try to manufacture the situation artificially.
Virginity is prized by religious zealots. I dont like religion at all, to put it mildly, because it simply isn't true, there is no evidence to support any of the claims made and it has been repeatedly demonstrated to be harmful.
It is common in fact for women to be posting on this site with problems born of these religious practices.
Clearly religion is not aligned with the interests of people.
Whole lives are destroyed by this single issue, they wait for their fairy tale and it never comes and the more of your life you invest into this idea the more the sunken costs fallacy puts pressure on you; 'if i just give up now what would all those years of abstainance have been for?' but of course, you only get one life and wasting future years is just 'good money after bad'.
So by all means if this is important to you, invest your life in this idea, it is your choices to make but at what point do you pull the plug on it and take what you can from life while you have a chance to do so?
Do yourself a favour and give yourself an opportunity to at least listen to and consider the arguments being presented to you before you potentially waste the best years of your life on lies which do not serve your interests.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s0b44l66tQQ
I am not Virgin for religious reasons. :( I am a shy person so i couldn’t get a boyfriend and experienced nothing. I feel so bad about this i haven’t been kissed too. I am now in the age of 25 and if i have a boyfriend and i love him i will be the one who naive, inexperienced and knows nothing it makes me so insecure. I know that no one can control others’ life, but i feel so bad about this. I want to experience something (not much) with other people to understand other peoples’ experiences. If i don’t, i think i will feel worse. Until the age of mine people has had many experiences but i do not have any. Now, i feel complicated that if i love someone How can i accept everything? Because i had ‘’nothing’’. If other people say this problem to me i would say that it is not problem because everyone has different life but when it comes to me i can not think logically.
Well its not difficult to find casual sex as a woman, you would no doubt have many applicants to choose from.
Yeah, you are right thank you. In where i live, men can sleep whoever they want but then they want virgin i hate because of that.
Little boys can't cope with competition. Im not scared of a womans history, firstly because I know that making her cum isn't going to be a problem for me and secondly because if she wanted to be with any of the people in her past then she wouldn't be here with me right now. Those people are in the past for a reason.
Yeah, i think it is because of their insecurity. But even they have much experience they are like that it is so ridiculuous. You are right if we are not confident we can feel insecure in every relationship too. I will try to experience something before getting into serious relationships to get over it. Thank you for your help 🙏🏻
Where is this awful place? If you dont mind my asking? pm me if you want?