Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I have been on tinder for a couple years and I've discovered quite some things. I'm not obese, but well, I'm kinda chubby. And being a chubby girl on tinder, really makes dating very different than when you are skinny. I used to be skinny when I first got on tinder. After a few months I gained a lot of weight and kinda stayed that way. Didn't get much less matches. But the way guys see you and why they date you changes A LOT. Small detail, and I don't want to brag: I know I'm not ugly. Still do some modeling for plus size clothing. Just not thin anymore. So for people who are not sure about how they look, this take is mainly for women who have questions about their weight. Not looks in general.
Is it worse when you are on the heavier side? Well for most of us, yes. Though I still had a lot of fun and met some great guys. But do guys contact you for the same reason? Nope.
In short: If you're cute and have a fit body, guys want to date you, not just for sex, but often with further goals. They might want to keep seeing you, start a relationship and show you as their girlfriend to their friends and family. If you are chubbier, well... get used to getting on your knees and putting that mouth to work on the first date!
Tinder for thin girls: easy mode
When I was thin, guys were really careful with how they chatted with me. They chose carefully what kind of date it was, where we'd meet, how they dressed up for the date, and of course how they carefully checked when and how they would get in my pants. Their purpose was often also sex, but they had so much more respect for me. I noticed that they would love to see me more often and even show me off as their proud catch to their friends.
Tinder for big girls: hard mode
Since I got chubby, things changed completely. Still met up with the same type of guys. Still always guys i thought were hot. But Their intentions were completely different. The way they talked to me, the fact that they chatted the same day/night they so necessarily wanted to meet up, and where they wanted to meet up. Just one reason: getting their balls emptied.
Now I'm not really looking for serious relationships. I mainly want to date, get to know guys and see where it goes. Honestly I prefer to just have some great connection with a guy than a serious relationship. But I can't count the times I blew guys on the first date and quite often only date. And I also noticed that it's mainly the blowjob that's popular. Sex too, but that's more for a second date. I really don't mind giving guys blowjobs on the first date though. I feel comfortable with casual sex and really like giving blowjobs. But I do get that most women don't think that way and might feel slutty or used. In the beginning when I gained weight, I often turned them down when they asked for a favor, and the dates ended really quickly every time. And when I did do it, well at least it was fun and some of them asked for a second date. That second date was often also with sex as the goal, but by the third or fourth date I usually got a connection with some pretty cool guys.
When they text you, you notice immediately they don't even try to hide the fact they just want to get off as fast as possible cause they feel horny. They also try to come to my place immediately, and honestly I even offer to just cook for them at my place, or "watch a movie" cause I know that's what they want. If I went out, I ended up on my knees in a toilet stall, his car or even behind a dumpster... Romantic, right?
All these things aren't just my experiences, I talked to a lot of women with the same body type as me, and so many of them experience the same thing. Not all of them of course, but it still seems to be very common. I even talked to a couple guys that were really good looking and were open enough to talk about why they, who can date any girl, wanted to come to my place so suddenly, not being too much of a gentleman, and got their loads of baby juice all over my face in no time. They admitted that they also lost count of how often this scenario happened and that it's "just the way it goes. Why not?"
Again, I'm not saying dating has become horrible for me since I got curvy. I'm still having an awesome time. It just got a lot harder to get that plain nice, cosy date. It's like dropping in ranking and having to work a little first to get something.
What do you think about my take? Is it fair, or should these guys' attitude towards us change? Please share your opinion!
#tinder #sexlife
What Girls & Guys Said
19 73Interesting. Thanks for sharing, I would've never thought about this kind of stuff.
Good take
I like curvy girls but I have a limit, if its overweight or fat its a nope
Its because women care about their looks. They wanna strike where it hurts most.
curvy girls rock!
Agree. I can get a hot girl so id never settle for a fat girl. Might stick my dick in her mouth but thats it. I won't even fuck fat girls, not interested.
2 downvotes from fat girls lolz.
Could you at least explain why you might stick your dick in our mouths but not fuck us? Don't get why that would be such a big difference...
I think sex is supposed to be more intimate while its easier for me to feel completely emotionally detatched from a bj which is good because id not date a fat girl. Like its just kissing really so no big deal. And also i can't feel the fatness. Like i can just close my eyes and relax and it feels like any bj i ever had but sex i have to feel all the fat on me and its weird and unpleasant. Im just not attracted.
Most men would love to get 2% of the attention you get.
Truth.
How's this anything new? The first way you have to judge people on this app is literally their looks. Same goes for guys, only guys don't even get the opportunity to only act as a sex toy for once; they don't get any matches.
People judge people by their looks, obviously. I think Tinder is just the cheap, lazy, non-socializing way of trying to get a girlfriend or boyfriend.
Maybe you should get on the treadmill instead of getting on your knees.
No one has to change for you, the same has you don't have to change for anyone. But if people doesn't like what you are, they have no obligation to force themselves to choose you.
They have preferences, and if you don't match those preferences, well they'll look for someone else, that how it is.
Also, try tinder as an ugly guy. Then you'll know what expert mode is. No girl even choose us, you included. But I still won't ask you to change and choose me when you don't want it.
I go for personality over looks.
It doesn't matter if you have a little extra, if I like you then I like you
Really? Many of us men love thickness because booty
Guys love a phat ass yeah
No guy goes on Tinder looking for dates. It's a hook-up site, nothing more.
At the time i'm working out. I'm also overweight, but working on it. If i found a great girl that was overweight, if it would be by some insane margin, i would be fine with it. Especially if she also wanted to work out with me so we could lose the pounds together. A girl can have a few extra pounds and still be hot.
Sometimes it be like that
My wife is a chubby lady and she had the same problem and now her and I are having the problem with finding a girlfriend or partner but people should not judge by looks I love bigger ladies they do it better
Some absolute gentlemen on this thread 😒
Not surprised
IKR, it is kinda difficult to say something positive when she's fat and easy, either of those things is fine, but both? I'm trying to think of something nice to say, still haven't got any yet
@betaTester saying nothing is always an option, preferable in some cases 🤗
I like curvy girls approach me
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Awesome a girl that's down to blow me within minutes of meeting up? Holla at me girl lolol