Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Alright, don't take this too literally but I feel the need to say this.
Throughout history there have been plentiful of cases of wealthier men attracting money hungry gold diggers/prostitutes and "traditional" housewives (at least that was prior to feminism). The point then was for men being the financial/resourceful provider while the housewives maintained the house, cleaned, cooked and looked after their offspring. Now I don't say things got any worse today specifically after liberating women to be able to have the same rights in the first world countries. I am more than happy for women, that they can graduate, work and drive and not having to be dependent on men.
The problem is the general picture of how society and especially women value men.
This MyTake is a spin-off from someones MyTake (I keep the author of it semi-private for now) "being a woman means being sexually harassed" (She seemingly deleted that MyTake, that I sought but got a 404 error. She seemingly deleted it.). Although @pervertedjester has responded to it by writing his MyTake to prove, that humans regardless of their gender can get sexually harassed, I wanted to point out this specific issue, that seemingly men have a lot more often than women have. Correct me if I am wrong but this is merely my perspective. In fact I was told of cases where women have been used for their money!
Of course there are also cases of poor people having relationships and women disregarding the man's financial status but the important thing is, that he is financially secure at least. And I can't blame them for it because I know I don't want to deal with an unemployed girlfriend either. That is nothing more and nothing less than an acceptable standard. There are also exceptions where both parties are unemployed students. I haven't been so lucky unfortunately and I grew bitter of it even up to today.
But if we are talking about men in general, what do YOU have in mind? What kind of person is that? Sure, it's an adult, male human being over the age of 17. That's the exact definition of a man. But what are his values, his personality, his orientation on life and what about him would make you like him (romantically, platonic, sexually)?
There are quite a few items associated with typical "masculinity": Strength, honor, protector, provider of resources, security, courage, endurance, assertiveness, independence, dominance, toughness, aggression, having some wheels and a warm roof etc...
See, this is where the problem emerges. His values are typically defined by his practical usefulness like he would be some kind of a tool. I'm not saying having those characteristics are bad. I'm saying the view on it is.
Often men don't value women the same way women do value them. Now I'm sure, there are men out there, who would really love strong, independent and assertive women out there, who can finance herself. Men could actually care less about these perks. Sometimes (and I consider myself as part of it) men value women for the person, that they are rather than how useful she is to him.
Sex while being useful can be granted by many other women or replaced by sex robots and porn but most importantly is a very huge part of a healthy and happy relationship and is usually expected. Cooking, cleaning and washing while also useful can be learned quickly and easy as opposed to studying years for a degree or two and racking up the career. Everyone can learn to become useful in that sense but not everyone is even able to become wealthier.
Let's get back to where I was. Now that I said what typical "masculine" traits are, what are typical "feminine" traits? Those are gentleness, empathy, sensitivity, nurturance, taking care of the young and wounded, beauty, caring, sweetness, compassion, tolerance, fertility, deference and so on. Little to no of these items are associated with money (beauty). Those items are mostly associated with personality and behavior - both of which can be toggled on just by considering those traits like a flip switch. Anyone is able to have that personality. But not anyone is able to become rich and useful like I mentioned above in the typical "masculine" traits. Life is just random.
We are men after all and human beings. We want to be valued for who we are and not what use we have for women. Then again I am sure, that there are some men, who wouldn't mind being defined by how useful they are to women and feel like it's their masculine obligation. I don't shame that. I just see it as a form of self objectification. In my opinion it's the male equivalent of female sexual objectification. I personally find it insulting being seen as a walking wallet with a regenerating bank card.
I will bring just one example of a million cases: Rich Piana, a famous bodybuilder was used by a gold digger for his money and a U.S. Citizenship through marriage. Now I don't care what he did because he should have known better what kind of women he associated himself with. For your convenience here is a piece of Rich Piana's Wikipedia article:
Point is if he wasn't rich and didn't have the U.S. Citizenship, then he wouldn't have gotten himself into trouble with a disgusting gold digger. So that's a benefit for us average men.
Recently I was reading a dating-coach article, which mentioned, that women don't like to be "bought" into relationships such as throwing money at them or trying to win a woman over by gifts or other materialistic things. This sounds all sweet and amazing but on second thought how many women are willing to stay if we don't finance/sponsor anything for them? Rest assured this is how the filter works, so there are no issues doing so. We just end up more likely to stay single instead of risking to be used for our practical usefulness in a fake transactionshit. That's a portmanteau, that I made up (Transaction + Relationship + Shit = Transactionshit).
Alright. I'm done now. Thanks for the heads up. Take care and take it easy folks!
And chaps. Be clever and don't let yourself being taken advantage of. I'm saying this with sincerity in order to preserve you from being used by some parasites. There are dangers for all of us out there.
In biology, parasitism is a non-mutual relationship between species, where one species, the parasite, benefits at the expense of the other, the host. - Wikipedia
What Girls & Guys Said
0 1A good sh** test is to insist that neither of you spend a cent on each other.
If you insist a relationship should only cost time then you'll very quickly filter out gold diggers.
I completely agree. This is a good plan.
Thanks!