Girls, Being the only boy within feminsts?

[maximusdecimus]

My teacher (high school) forced me to join a dance group where I am the only boy there, as some kind of lame punishment because I told something sexist (according to them) to the girls in the school. But all the girls there, including the instructor are all hardcore feminist and seems to hate boys for that reason! In the last class, being a beginner, I stepped feet of some of the girls by accident (they all wearing shoes). And one of the girls suggested that I should be doing the dance barefoot! They alll laughed and the instructor agreed to that so they made me take off my shoes and socks immediately! At the end of the class they even suggested that I must be barefoot in every class! I hated being in this situation, am I making this a big deal? And can you give me some ideas on how can I stood up against them?

[Destiel_24]

Feminists don’t hate boys, we hate patriarchy and that people keep saying such sexist things all the time and get mad if we point it out. Also boys can be feminists too.
But I don’t get the shoes part, if you were the only one stepping on their feet probably they told you that so you don’t hurt them until you practice more, I don’t see a relationship between that and feminism but if they are actually mean to you tell somebody

[maximusdecimus]

They certainly hate me. Shoes part is just an excuse to humiliate me. So I should accept that I'll be barefoot until they decide if I deserve to wear shoes before them?

[Destiel_24]

People don’t decide for you, maybe you could ask them nicely that if you are hurting them while dancing you do it more separately or all of you take your shoes off for a few rehearsals. Just try to understand each other and if it doesn’t work tell a teacher about it that you tried and they are mean I don't know it’s an idea

[maximusdecimus]

I don't think that I can tell anyone as both the dance teacher and the teacher brought me here already hate me. I'd find it really embarrassing to ask them that it'd just cause them to enjoy even more if they know how much I hate it. But I don't have any other choice right?

[Destiel_24]

There should be more teachers dude. Or the principal I don't know but if you are uncomfortable say it, apologize about your sexist behavior and tell them you are trying to be less sexist (because you are right?) but you are really uncomfortable there cuz they are not nice to you

[maximusdecimus]

The principal herself is the one who gave me this punishment and I am really sure that snitching them to other teachers would only make it worse for me.

[maximusdecimus]

So what else I can do? Other than telling anyone else?

[Destiel_24]

I don’t know anything about your situation, the people around you or even what you did exactly to get punished so I don’t really know what else it is instead of asking for help or trying to help yourself sorry

[maximusdecimus]

OK I understand but you can give me general suggestions as I've never been around feminists. Do you think if I do everything they say then in time they'd go easy on me? Or should I stand up strictly and do nothing they say?

[Destiel_24]

Well feminism it’s not a personality trait, like everyone is different the only thing they have in common is that they want equal rights but that doesn’t mean they are good people so I don’t know what you have to do. Maybe don’t just obey everything submissively

[maximusdecimus2]

They kicked me out of my account so I had to open a girl's account to be able to answer! OK don't obey everything submissively but like what. For example if they order me to remove my shoes and socks at the beginning of the next class should I obey or not?

[Destiel_24]

@maximusdecimus2 dude think for yourself, that’d help. I don't know ask why? Do things for a reason but don’t be aggressive I don't know

[amylynnn]

As you were the first one who is the sexist (according to your own story) I think this is a perfect punishment for you haha I want to congratulate your teacher and principal. I also loved how the girls took your shoes and socks right away and made you go barefoot in their presence hahaha go girls 😂 I think you have no choice but to do everything they they or it'd be worse and from what you described they already decided on your footwear for the next lessons too sexist boy.

[SamA_nold]

Well, if you were forced to join this dance group, then technically, you don't have to do anything they say. Keep your shoes on, and if they try to punish you, tell them you never wanted in the group in the first place.

The feminism aspect, man, that's a whole cup of Joe to dig through...

[maximusdecimus]

Wish it was this easy but we do have to do everything teachers say. And even if we don't I'm heavily outnumbered! There must be an another way to convince the teacher to help me or for me to stand up against other girls.

[maximusdecimus]

So should I still refuse to remove my shoes and try to keep them on even if they want me to?

[SamA_nold]

If you don't feel comfortable taking off your shoes, then they can't force you to do so.

[maximusdecimus]

But what if the teacher herself wants me to do it? Can I say no to a teacher?

[SamA_nold]

Yes, you can

[maximusdecimus]

But what if she threatens to fail me in the class if I don't obey her? Then I have to take it over and over again.

[SamA_nold]

Then go to the principal or whoever is in charge. Ask yourself this: if it makes you that uncomfortable, why are you trying so hard to find reasons to keep being uncomfortable?

[maximusdecimus]

Principal herself is the one who forces me to take this class as a punishment so I can't go to her or anyone else for this matter. Yes I'm really uncomfortable but maybe I should just get this over with and do whatever they say maybe it'd be less painful?

[maximusdecimus]

You there? Sorry for asking too much please tell me if you don't want to answer anymore but you're the only one that I could talk about this...

[SamA_nold]

It's your choice man