boyfriend told me to have sex with other because he will never have sex again with me?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and i are together for 2 years now.
I was the one who took his virginity and i am his first love.
He is my 10th sexual partner, i had 1 boyfriend before him who took my vrginity and left me right after it, then during the next 3 years i had sex with 8 guys, all ONS.
My boyfriend is far the best i ever had (sex, penis), the biggest, the thickest, perfect shaped, and he (my bf) is funny, loving and just perfect for me.

Now he heard that i had many ons in the past, a ex friend of me told him. Since then we didn't had sex.
He told me he dont want to have sex with a girl who has sex so casually.
He told me that if i am horny i should just go out and fuck someone else.
Aslongs as he dont hear about it and there is no oral sex from my side or kissing, he will let me have intercourse with others.

But i dont ever want to have sex with anyone else than him.
He thinks sex with me isn't really intimate cause i did it just for pleasure in the past.

What should i do?

[MrMysteryMan]

You better have a sit down with him about why you did your sexual adventures in the past. Like tell him the total history. You have to be up front and honest about why you were so casual before. Also, he should be able to understand that being a woman, usually, you don't have a lot of ONS unless you are hurt or something, also, women take a lot more precautions when it comes to casual sex, since pregnancy is on the table every time.

After you've explained the reasoning and where your head was at during this time period, tell him that you feel very differently toward him emotionally and sexually. Start stroking his ego again by telling him how you favour his body the most and how it has been the most incredible experience with him. Because, right now, he probably feels like he isn't enough for you or won't be able to satisfy you enough, even if you always cum or act like you do with him. He's probably doubting himself and how much you value him. You have to get him to understand that there is a reason you are staying with him and that he isn't another ONS. That you don't want anyone else and that he is number one for you in your heart.

All as I have to say is, I can see now why your EX girlfriend is an EX. She's a total bitch and I believe she told him this because she either is trying to sabotage your relationship, or, she has eyes for him herself. Be careful of this bitch. As well, you have to try and strengthen your relationship with him or bitches like this will always pop up to try and snag him.

[carlos06]

He's immature as fuck. He needs to start behaving like and adult otherwise just leave him, you did nothing wrong to be treated like that because of his insecurities

[Asker]

There is in fact nothing immature about not wanting sex with me, he is not obligated to have sex with me and so he can take any reason he wants for not having sex with me.

[carlos06]

Yes, he's being immature. OItf course he's not obliged to have sex with you, in fact it has nothing to do with wanting to have sex or not with you. Obviously he has the right to not want to have sex with someone. What is immature is judging someone as not caring about sex just because they had one night stands or believing that they don't care about you for it. Can he take any reason to want sex? Of course he can, but that doesn't mean that the motivation behind that decision aren't immature. But hey, it's just my advice. If you can and want to continue in a relationship with someone as immature and that shames you for having sex, more power to you.

[momomu]

You realize that he's slut shaming you and that you're putting up with it, whatever you've literally has NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM!!! If he wants to judge you because he's insecure about his lack of experience, that's on him. You need to leave him because that's super toxic, or least tell him that what he said really hurt your feelings.

[ivh94]

I agree with all of this except: don't leave him! He just needs to understand that the past is in the past.

[zentra]

Anyone can feel that u used him for sex as ur past records shows. U had sex with guys only for pleasure not with bfs, so he will feel the same.

[momomu]

You're 13, you need to fix that chauvinistic mindset before it gets you in trouble. Her PAST has nothing to do with him, because it was before she got in a relationship. She didn't cheat, she just lived here life as she wanted to. Guys who have a problem with this are obviously insecure in themselves.

[zentra]

If someone is thief for past 10 years and now thief says I'm saint, then thief doesn't become saint. Mainly my point is she is specially attracted towards guys that's why she did those things which causes his present boyfriend feels like he is also a guy to fulfill her sexual desire.

[zentra]

And u think about my mindset is wrong? U should clean ur mindset before it ruins someone life.

[zentra]

Specially= sexully*

[momomu]

Sleeping with people isn't a crime, therefore it's not a valid comparison to your analogy. If she's in a SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP, she's obviously been genuine and open about her feelings. And again, if he feels that way, that's his own insecurities getting to him. He's letting himself get insecure about his place in the relationship, but besides having a PAST that she can't control, she's done nothing to make him feel that way. So he needs to get over it.

[momomu]

How would it ruins someone's life? Because I'm not the type to hold someone's past relationships against them?

[zentra]

It's not crime but u can't achieve someone respect because of ur past which is mainly based on sexual desire 😂

[zentra]

And it was not relationship... She was talking about sexual need with 10 guys

[ivh94]

In ten years your view on this will probably be quite different 😂

[zentra]

He is not insecure, he was with her because he respected her now after knowing that she only need sex then he left her.. you cannot change someone's mind after knowing this type of sexual past

[momomu]

Yeah, if someone bases their respect off of your past sexual encounters instead of your intelligence and character, they're a closed minded pride. First of all, WHO SHE FUCKS BEFORE SHE'S IN A RELATIONSHIP IS NONE OF HIS BUSINESS!!! Why does it bother you so much? If it bothers the guy, it means he feels threatened, because he's INSECURE!!!

[zentra]

@ivh94 no I am not like anyone who can spread their legs for only sexual needs.

[zentra]

She can fuck as many she want... Why u r showing so much protective towards her? And he is not insecure, he left because he doesn't want to spend his life with a whore.

[momomu]

YOU'RE 13!!! All your doing is parroting shit that you probably heard your parents say. You have no concept of the depths of sexuality yet, therefore you barely have any ground to speak on this topic.

[momomu]

*you're

[zentra]

Do u have any problem with my age?

[zentra]

Oh.. After stealing something u become expert to talk about that thief?

[ivh94]

Sorry, but I won't take your answers seriously, zentra. The world is not that black and white. You'll find that out after you have been through puberty. There is a difference between having sex for fun/lust and having sex and being in a relationship with someone you love.

[momomu]

I literally just stated an entire paragraph about my problem with your age.

[zentra]

My age is 24 ... I did mistake while making my profile... Now u r happy with my reply😂

[momomu]

You're a naive little kid, you don't know anything about real relationships or sexuality because you haven't experienced it yet. You sound like a bitter divorcée but you're probably just repeating someone else's words. Your mindset is going to cause you a lot of heartache in the future, change it before it's too late.

[momomu]

I'm not buying that. I brought up that you were a kid a while ago, and you didn't say anything. You're 13

[zentra]

U should check her statement in which she elaborated dick size and compared with all.. Then she came to her problem. It clearly shows she is only attracted towards his dick and nothing else. And the guy need true love not any slut or whore that's why he left her.

[zentra]

I have a girlfriend, and my age is 24. If u want some proof... Send me ur Kik I'd😂

[momomu]

She brought it up to prove that she was satisfied with him, that she no longer needs anyone else. Plus the issue is of a sexual nature, so it makes sense to bring it up. You want to vilify her so badly, but in the end she probably just dodged a bullet.

[zentra]

Momomu mindset like u makes people life hell. Be faithful and specific when u r in a relationship. If u want to know about sex and other things u can contact me... I will share my experience to show u how ignorant u r

[zentra]

People satisfied in a relationship with love not with dick size 😂. Only slut compares dick sizes

[momomu]

First of all, your grammar is atrocious. Secondly, I don't need to take any Sex Ed classes from a backwards, close minded pride. Have fun living in the past.

[zentra]

4 dislike to ur reply 😂... Now don't be ignorant. U know u r wrong but to make ur point right u r making foolish comments 😂

[zentra]

Yup my first language is not English. But it is enough to dodge my question which tarnished ur ego😂

[momomu]

You never asked me a question, and all the dislikes are from chauvinistic guys.

[zentra]

If u think spreading ur legs is advanced and u r super knowledgeable. Then u r living in a well like a toad. Go and study work hard find job bring change in society that is called empowerment and advancement...

[zentra]

Yup. Because u chauvinistic girl.

[momomu]

LMAO do you even know what that word means? And I'm not saying that sleeping around makes her "advanced" , I'm saying she has the freedom to sleep with whoever she wants WHEN SHE'S NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP!!! Also, you can sleep around and be an educated professional, you don't have to pick either or.

[zentra]

U r an ignorant girl.. Why do u think I don't know the meaning... Should I write? Who Sleep for only sex not for love? Whore So u decide what should i call...

[zentra]

Whore sleeps anywhere they want... When they try to be in a relationship the guy will always feel maybe he is being used for sex... So it's not guys fault. I don't have any problems with sex, I only feel without love who go for sex is whore.

[momomu]

First of all, I'm a virgin, just because I'm supporting her doesn't mean I follow her lifestyle, it means that I don't have a problem with it. You're a sexist, misogynistic male who's threatened by a woman's sexuality. It's really pitiful. What country are you from by the way?

[zentra]

Did I say anything to u? R u a feminist? And will u do by knowing my country? Is my thought and my country thoughts r same?

[zentra]

U r triggered... Go and get some life.

[zentra]

U judged me as sexist, miscogynistic male... Should I call u a whore know? A bitch?

[momomu]

I don't go with any cause, I just believe what I believe. Your question makes no sense, and I was only curious.

[zentra]

Then why r u making personal comments on me? If u want normal talk then it's ok... Otherwise I can write much shame to u but I'm not like u

[momomu]

You'd just be furthering my point, I called you that because that's what you are, there's proof of your misogyny in your comments. You'd just be insulting me because you're feelings got hurt.

[zentra]

Ohh what u say is correct and I'm wrong... So if I say u r whore a bitch and I'm correct.. How did u feel?

[zentra]

I'm not insulting anyone here... I'm saying my point toward her and not saying any personal comments towards u... U only started those personal comments. If u want respect give respect.

[momomu]

I feel amused, also, you're the only person who can make you feel ashamed of yourself. If you've got a guilty conscience, it has nothing to do with me.

[momomu]

You were calling her a whore from the very beginning, and I don't want your respect.

[zentra]

U r amused because u r from that category. I don't feel any guilty here😂 When u loose logically people like u start personal comments.. at least I'm not like u.

[zentra]

U only told me why I'm supporting him? Now I'm asking u why u r supporting her? If I said her a whore she will reply me back, but why u r commenting on me?

[zentra]

I think u burst ur feminazi ego? U will get what u give.

[momomu]

I don't think you understand what a personal comment is, a personal comment would be if I called out your family or lifestyle. I only stated that the comments you were making are highly misogynistic and sexist, because you're shaming this woman for expressing her sexuality. And I'm amused because you think insulting me would actually bother me when it just further proves my point.

[zentra]

Ohhh now u make ur own definition about personal comment. U called me those thing u will get back😂

[zentra]

Ohh... U shamed that guy? What about that... then U r sexist too

[momomu]

I'm supporting her because I don't think she's done anything wrong, I feel people who hold past sexual encounters and relationships against their current partners are insecure and jealous. I support her because there's a tidal wave of people who want to shove their puritanical viewpoints down your throats.

[momomu]

I shamed that guy because he was literally being verbally abusive towards his girlfriend, which is something shameful and unjustifiable in this case.

[zentra]

I'm supporting him because those who spread their legs for only sex called whore and it goes to boys also. If same guy/girl want to be in a relationship then opposite sex will never trust. And she proved my point by comparing dick sizes instead of talking about love 😂

[zentra]

Ohh... I shamed her because she is a whore who spread her legs for sexual need and want same thing from this guy. Finally the guy was intelligent and left her. As she proved her love towards him by comparing dick size😂

[momomu]

She talked about both, you're literally slit shaming her right now by calling her a whore. You must live somewhere that's extremely sexually repressed because it's like you're living the 50s or something. Or are you religious?

[zentra]

And where did u find he is verbally abusing? Because he denied sex?

[zentra]

Whore definition will remain same after 1000's of years. And I'm defining her because I'm not getting a better word for her.. can u tell a word which defines her features. Whore fits her criteria. That word made for those people, u don't have to be feel offended.

[momomu]

The way you keep bringing up dick size is realllly saying something about you, sexual intimacy in a relationship is very important to some people in a relationship and there's nothing wrong with that. There's also nothing wrong with having sex for pleasure, as long as you're safe it literally isn't hurting anyone.

[momomu]

I'm done, have fun being a misogynistic.

[zentra]

I found only intimacy thing in her problem... Please show me the line where she wrote about love😂. She is nervous because she was not getting sex on time.

[zentra]

Oh again I tarnished ur silly ego😂.

[momomu]

Or I found a more interesting productive thing to do, people don't live on here ya know. Find someone else to argue with.

[zentra]

Then don't reply... U r countering my reply... Making dumb comments. I already told u get some life

[ivh94]

Sorry, but I won't take your answers seriously, zentra. The world is not that black and white. You'll find that out after you have been through puberty. There is a difference between having sex for fun/lust and having sex and being in a relationship with someone you love.

[zentra]

Girls like u only differentiate sex. I'm 24 now hope u will like my ans😂

[zentra]

U should check her statement in which she elaborated dick size and compared with all.. Then she came to her problem. It clearly shows she is only attracted towards his dick and nothing else. And the guy need true love not any slut or whore that's why he left her.

[DevikaButts95]

Pretty sure you're a guy, posing as a chick on anon.

[yowzers124]

It sounds like he just got his feelings hurt. He lost trust because of what he was told. How long has he denied you sex?

[Asker]

3 weeks now

[yowzers124]

Give it another 2 weeks. I know it'll be hard for you but if he's willing to go without because of something stupid and petty from your past you don't need to be with him

[CJPolson]

Talk to him, explain the situation. If that doesn't work, go a while without sex and see if he starts wanting it again.

[zombiebabe]

find someone else who's gonna accept you?

[helva]

I'm not sure he really is your boyfriend.

[MrMilti]

Seems like he got really hurt by what you did in the past. Perhaps you should have told him, I can imagine it wasn't so nice to hear from someone else.

I would suggest you stay abstinent to show him that this was your past and only want him from now on. He will get over this eventually.

[MasterAdvice]

Nobody really wants to hear about that kind of past. Maybe talk about it with him or just give it some time.

[IDKwhoim]

he's toxic tell him how u feel and if he is really ur boyfriend he should not judge u on ur past

[Andrew2128]

We'll go have sex with somebody else then send me your photo and I'll tell you if I want you or not it's just that simple

[ROCKS128]

Be gracious that he still is ur bf!

[Kuraj]

The only thing I don't understand is why is he still staying with you?
It sounds like irreconcilable difference to me and there is no point continuing that relationship.

[Anon-ymous1]

There's nothing you can do. We don't like the girl we're with to have a high number. Sorry. If it's really that important to him, and you can't change his mind about it, you two may not be compatible.

[OlderGuy965]

Say goodbye

[Kat_puppies]

leave him because if i was him i would leave you. He isn't wrong about you being a whore. he want something special in sex and because you used it for your pleasure its not speacal now he thinks your cum slut.

[bekkesmash]

This relationship won't last much longer.

[red_knight]

Explain to him lovingly, he just feels bad, nothing a little babying won't fix

[DaddyDeanMachine]

Your boyfriend is a child. He is doing you a favor. Go find some one who's head isn't in their own ass. At least not that far.

[Malik00]

Honestly Ignore all the impulsive comments people are spewing right now. It's clear you deeply care about this guy, you leave now and all you'll be doing is proving him right.
From his perspective right now all he thinks he is to you he is just another dick, that sooner or later you will just move on to someone else anyway.
If you wanna make it clear that you love him any only him, do something for him that you wouldn't do for anyone else. Paying for dates, Naked apron or let him walk you around like a dog around the park at night, I don't care. Just do something to show how much you want him, something that you wouldn't even consider doing for anyone else.

[Tyberius]

You are screwed. Men usually have issues with ladies that have had more partners than them. It's not something they usually get over.

[Dantheman101]

Get rid

[Asker]

No, never.

[Dantheman101]

Give him your anal virginity make him feel special

[Asker]

I already had anal with a ons

[Dantheman101]

He does not know that 😉👍

[Asker]

He probably knows it cause we had anal sex many times already, and when we had our first time anal sex i told him how to do it.

[reddysai2]

Get rid of him... Then why the fuck he said that he is loving u