boyfriend wants anal for his birthday?

[Anonymous]

How do I get ready I have 2 weeks I never had anything up their Any help

[s10sleeper]

Honestly, as your first tip, be sure that you want to do it, don't do it because you are afraid you will lose him if not, if you feel obligated to or because you will feel guilty. All 3 of those reasons are considered coercion. If you aren't wanting to do it, be honest about it. If you do want to do it, I honestly can't say how to get ready, other than be prepared for either enjoying it or it hurting. I've had girlfriends that were into it and others that haven't tried it or hated it. I tried it with a girlfriend once, but didn't enjoy it because I felt it was disgusting inserting it into the same place feces come out.

[MrOracle]

What's the best way to do anal sex for the first time? ↗

[eurochick]

I have been doing anal sex for 10 years. I suggest buying a set of 3 butt plugs and using them on your own to train your ass. Good lube matters too. I prefer astroglide. When the anal day arrives prepare by wearing a butt plug beforehand and only pull it out immediately before doing anal. If you do that it shouldn't hurt.

[Paris13]

Empty your Bowel Track before you Turn Your... Back.
I feels Weird Here, dear, But Fear. It will Be One Big Bang that he will Love you for and Be Blowing out your Own Candles for Years to Cum, hun. xx

[Paris13]

Happy Birthday to One heck of a Guy. xx

[melnc]

strange gift request for a birthday, I wouldn't recommend that.

[Sumdonkis]

Don't do it. You're not obligated. It's unnatural and unhealthy and he's not even your husband, you don't owe him a damn thing sexually. You do this and you break up, it's just another shameful thing you did for a dude you don't love any more. You do this and you stay together, now you have this act of willing debauchery between you. It will eat away at the relationship and it will cause you pain you haven't considered.

[Cammy137]

What absolute nonsense! First of all, what difference would them being married make? It doesn't mean they will actually be together forever, its just a piece of paper and a couple of rings. Also, are you saying that if he was her husband that she would owe him sexually? I smell religion!! Secondly, id love to see some studies supporting the notion that anal leads to break ups because I've certainly never heard of such a thing. All you are doing is saying that because you personally don't like the idea of something, that anyone who does do it is doomed... let me repeat: I smell religion.

[Anon-ymous1]

"Unnatural and unhealthy" whatever the hell you're talking about man, it doesn't make sense. Try again.

[Sumdonkis]

Just barebones science here.. Poop comes out the butt. Eew. The intestinal track, moves in an outwardly direction. One way. Anal Sex causes damage to that track and can even cause the muscles to stop working all together. Sooooo. I guess if allowing you lover to damage you. Trying to reverse your body's natural movements, and fucking poo are all natural uhm... "Choices" to you. Then I stand corrected and apologize. But wanna here some REAL TALK. Asking for sexual favors in cause of, trading it like a commodity, and especially in for used as control. Is a highly preprehensible act, not quite rape but certainly abuse. Least of all, a partner who throws Sex around so casually is a dick. So forgive me for being that one voice in the back saying, "Yeah, and just in case you didn't wanna! Don't."

[Sumdonkis]

I don't know this situation at all. But I know EVERYONE ELSE IS SOOOO FOR IT... without giving it a single think.

[Cammy137]

Right but she didn't she didn't want to it or that she was being forced to (through sexual favours). All she said was that she hadn't done it before and wants some advice.

[Anon-ymous1]

Again... no. You're ignorant, and seem to be proud of it. I would say "educate yourself," but you won't, probably. You probably also think you can contract HIV from someone who has it by sharing a toilet seat or kissing. Sad.

[Sumdonkis]

Because anal is cool, so it must be cool! Yeah right. There's religion for you. Faith in the Populace. Faith in the Status Quo. Keep your head between your knees and never ask, "why?" So, for you asker. If in that tiniest of margins, there's still a voice saying. "noo". Ask yourself, is this really okay with you? You know, maybe "why am I doing this for him?" .. "why does he want this?" Cause I've been there, and it's hella bad for like, a lot of systems. Chakras, and Alignment, Self Esteem and Personal Value. After you do it, you can see it in other people's eye. Very few people are actually happy with the decision. I am so not here to fight idea nazis. Cause its just an idea, man. Excuse me, Asker. Goodbye

[Cammy137]

You're not making an ideological claim though, brother. You're quite clearly stating what you believe to be facts. "Very few people are actually happy with the decision" isn't just an idea, its a claim. As is much of what you've said. Yet you have nothing at all to support these claims and your labelling of "idea nazis" shows that you're just not used to people challenging your point of view!

[Anon-ymous1]

LOL "idea Nazis?" The fucking hell is that? What are you talking about?

[Byakugan]

Just make sure he uses lube. Water based. Trust me on this, since its your first time.

[ChronicThinker]

Use lube and pray.

[Asker]

There's nothing to make it not hurt as much?

[ChronicThinker]

Not that I know of.

[Asker]

Ok thanks

[MlleCake]

I doesn't have to hurt. Stop if it hurts.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

If your boyfriend wants anal for his birthday put on a strap on & stick it up his asshole.

[Cammy137]

I think @Herelbe has provided you with all the information you need but if you have any other questions, feel free to message me.
For example, I saw that you asked about things to stop it hurting. There's no real reason that it should hurt provided you both take your time. You definitely dont want to dive straight into anal.

[jessicabc]

Buy a toy and use it

[ravedave]

Clean yourself thoroughly beforehand, generally it's the best AFTER you've used the bathroom, as that'll make sure you're clear.

Use lots of lube, and above all else, make sure to be patient. It's important he goes slow. It doesn't have to hurt if you're patient and take it slowly, getting you used to it.

It helps to work your way up too, like have him use a finger until you feel a little comfortable, then two, then SLOWLY slide it in, letting you get used to it. If he just jams it in and jack hammers away, it won't be pleasant, but if you're patient and make sure to go slow, it can be a really great experiment

[ravedave]

Girlfriend says: If he gets shit on his dick, that's the risk he takes. You shouldn't feel ashamed of that. But, since my boyfriend mentioned cleanliness, I will add this... Contrary to popular belief, meat doesn't cause constipation. Meat is actually completely liquefied in your small intestine. If you're really concerned about him possibly getting stuff on his dick, you can eat only meat for a few days to clear out your colon.

[PetiteMisSmooth546]

Give him

[outside_Toronto]

I'm sure you could pay lots of different guys to give him anal

[HereIbe]

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[HereIbe]

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[HereIbe]

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[Sambobelfast]

You will need lots of lub especially if he's big

[BryanTheLion]

And remind him you want to peg him for YOUR bday!

[Anonymous]

Anal sex is NOT healthy. It can cause health problems. But if your willing to risk hemorrhoids and other stuff for him, that's your choice.
I just don't get why do you even consider doing this as an option

[Anon-ymous1]

Where the hell does misinformation like yours come from? Wow.

[Opinion Owner]

@Anon-ymous1 Maybe from simple and obvious fact that anus is in no way adapted to put things in there

[Anon-ymous1]

Your mouth isn't made to have dick in it either, but I'm assuming you don't have any holdups about that. Same logic applies. So try different rationale-- you could just simply say "I don't like how it feels." There's no reason to spread misinformation about "health problems." There are no health problems over any other type of sex as long as it's done properly. Educate yourself.

[Opinion Owner]

@Anon-ymous1 Your mouth is perfectly adapted to put things in it. You eat food everyday. But you normally don't put things in your ass - you shit with it. I have nothing against someone doing things that I don't like, they can even harm themselves - as long as they both know the consequences. So if you wanna do that - fine, but don't just think that if they are doing that in porn then that is harmless

[Anon-ymous1]

It is harmless, if you're doing it right. Again, educate yourself.

[Opinion Owner]

@Anon-ymous1 Are you a proctologist? For some reason I trust more the doctors I asked. Risk in anal sex is like with cigarettes. There are people who smoke it all life and nothing happens. There are people who smoke it all life and get cancer when they are very old. And There are people who get that cancer after a year of smoking. Lube and doing it carefully does not eliminate the risk - it just lowers it. Just like the fact that you smoke one cigarette per week instead of per day doesn't mean you are out of risk of getting cancer

[Anon-ymous1]

While that logic is correct, you're still wrong by applying it to something that you won't have problems with if done right. Whereas with cigarettes, you WILL have health problems regardless-- you may just not get cancer specifically.