Bisexual Threesome? Boyfriend Said No?

I’m bisexual and my boyfriend knows this. Today I brought up having a threesome with my boyfriend. He treated me sleeping with a woman the same as a man? How is it the same? Also he does not want a threesome at all regardless if man or woman! Why?
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Is it a myth that men like threesomes then?
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  • What's hi moral stance? Did he used to be religious? Or is he becoming so? Threesomes can blur the line for cheating. Maybe he thinks he can't sleep with her without it being cheating, so you shouldn't either.

    How would you fell if he plowed/got plowed by another man?

    • He jokingly asked me how I would feel if he asked to sleep with another man

  • Men are more likely to agree to that offer than refuse it, but your boyfriend is not into it.

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  • Because it is the same. Of course. Either way you are sleeping with someone else. Not wanting to share the person you love is quite normal.

    • I thought the worry was the fact that you would end up leaving your partner and not the fact that you’re sharing your body with someone else

    • I don't see why it couldn't be both. The thought that my partner would leave me following a threesome never ever occured to me before. Do people worry about that? I just find my partnet to be Mine and I dislike sharing. There is also a feeling it would somehow cheapen what we have. Only feelings. Not logical. But feelings matter too I hear.

    • I meant when you leave your partner for the other woman you’ve slept with. He’s also doesn’t want me to sleep with another woman threesome or not.

  • Sounds like you need a more open boyfriend.

  • how is it not the same... its sexual activity with another person... if i was your guy i wouldn't mind you having sex with another but i do understand im not most men so your boyfriend has every right to object

    • He got really upset and defensive about it. I always thought men love threesomes. Go figure

    • maybe in porn they do but most men would see you wanting sexual activity with another person a threat to their relationship. the only advice i can give is to either try to understand his objections or leave him and find a guy who doesn't mind that sort of thing... i mean really when you got together it might have been fairer of you if you mentioned it sooner rather than later

    • @update a comoon fantasy does not make for a social norm... it could be said many women have rape fantasies but well... i hope you see my point

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  • Everyone is different. Some people don't care, others don't see a difference. He's clearly very dedicated to monogamy, gender doesn't play a role.

  • Could be protective or wholly monotonous.

  • He should have got with a woman who doesn't suffer from bisexuality.

  • As the others below said, this sounds more to do with keeping sex between the two of you exclusive. About men liking threesomes being a myth though, you can't really judge half the worlds population based on just a few people.

  • It must be a really difficult concept to digest that your monogamous boyfriend who loves you doesn’t want to see you sexual with other people.

    • You can still be monogamous but explore things in the bedroom

    • Do you understand what Monogamy means? Mono... meaning one.

    • It’s like being on a diet but having a cheat day.

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  • He wants to be exclusive. That is why bi people are not compatible with straight people for long term. The bi person won't be happy being exclusive.

  • I think he is pure monogamous, reality is most of men still are.
    Don't mind what people say in the deep of their hearts they are.
    But, it doesn't mind you have it difficult with other boy, just one who understand that it is normal to you.

  • I’m not interested in having a threesome but I think I would do it if my girlfriend really wanted it

  • not it's not a myth.. we like threesome 😋

    • You like it until the opportunity presents itself

    • I m totally in for it if the opportunity presents itself, I know myself

    • From what everyone else has been telling me, you’re in the minority of men who want it

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  • Maybe he is shy. Or he doesn't want you to feel another man or woman because he's afraid of you finding better than him and leave him

    • He’s very scared to lose me so that’s probably why

  • He is afraid of becoming the third wheel. I will be willing to try it with a friends with benefits, kindda of relationship but not an exclusive type of relationship. The probability of your partner finding whatever was missing in your relationship in the third person is very high.

  • some guys do like three somes and yes i can see why he think u be cheating cause in the end ur showing your body to someone else so i think from his veiw that you no longer be his anymore instead you be everyone's more or less

    • It’s meant to be with another female

    • same thing lots of girls have left there male partners for females partners it happens a lot he's scared that u leave him

  • Some guys don't like the idea. Plus you like both genders so you would be attracted to the third person where if you weren't bisexual a FFM threesome would be 100% for him.

  • obviously he's the type that wants you all to himself and not wanna share you with anyone

  • If he cares about you a lot he probably wants to be in a monogamous committed relationship instead of a more casual one. I think that is saying a lot for a guy. That could change over time as he feels more comfortable in your relationship.

  • Depending upon how secure he feels in your relationship. But I think he be trippin

  • Again, each person is different: I like threesomes/gangbangs (but I'm heteroflexible) ; on the contrary, almost 95% of the straight girls I ever met never wanted or liked the threesome idea... People must be very confident with themselves to want it (so probably I met only unsure girls in my entire life 😅😒)

    • Haha yeah I want to share that experience with my boyfriend but the doesn’t want it

    • His call... Maybe he already had a bad experience, or he's not confident with the idea (is he jealous? ♎ ♓?), anyway, did you propose him a threesome with 2 girls, or 2 guys?

    • He’s had them in the past! But won’t have it with me. No fair. I asked for FMF but he doesn’t want it. He basically doesn’t want a threesome period.

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