Disclaimer: I'm not bashing anyone that does it or loves it or anything like that. I'm just giving a few reasons why I'm not into it. Please don't have a heart attack. Thanks.
Oral. Fellatio. Brain. Top. Head. BJ. The blow job. There are many names for it. No matter what it's called, I'm not too fond of the idea of doing it. Yes, I said idea. As in, I've never done it before. And before the guys come in and want to crucify me, I'm NOT one of those girls that expects you to dine at Y with no intentions of using my brain afterwards. That's foul. There are three main reasons why I've stayed away from slobbing on the knob (seriously, how can people say that with a straight face? I laughed for a good 2 minutes here) thus far.
My Gag Reflex Sucks
I have a HORRIBLE gag reflex (it's a wonder how I've made it almost 2 years here huh. Get it? No? Ok). It's so bad that I'm damn near throwing up every time I brush my teeth. Do you really want to play Russian Roulette with puke and your junk? Pretty sure you'll lose to my gag reflex every time. For all my lengthy Lenny's out there. Sorry guys.
I Have A Small Mouth
Not abnormally small, but small enough that's it's difficult to get dental work done. My dentist always has to use stretchers, which absolutely kill my jaws. My mouth just won't open really wide. To give you an idea, here's a picture of a drink:
I open most drinks like these with my teeth because my hand is messed up from RA and it's easier. I can't buy drinks with lids this size unless I'm with someone, because I can't fit them in my mouth. So yes girthy Gary's, this means you.
I Overthink Everything
Precisely. I live inside of my head on a daily basis. If you combine that with what I listed above and add to it the fact that I'm not comfortable with the idea of it giving head to begin with, and you'll have a recipe for disaster. I know myself. I'd be worrying about not using teeth, trying to relax my throat that doesn't relax, my face hurting after 3.5 seconds etc, and trying to be sexy while doing all of that. Not gonna happen.
I know I'm going to get the "how will you know if you never try" comments. I'm not saying that I'll never try. I'm saying that even if I do, I know that I won't be a fan of it. Too many factors that lean towards the negative. So for now the only thing I'll be sucking off is a blow pop. 🍭🍭🍭
#CHARismaticOut ✌
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To each their own, bro.
So is it like a big no or just something you'd rather not do?
Something I'd rather not do.
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Gag Reflex - A good blowjob usually doesn't involve deepthroating - so if you don't gag from just the tip I don't get it. But even if you do, practice can reduce that.
Small Mouth - I dated a girl with a small mouth and it's just something you gotta work around, but not really a reason not to.
Overthinking - That's kinda your own roadworks to work on, but it isn't exactly an excuse.
So personally I don't get it. I think oral sex is pretty important, because it is the one key sexual act where it is solely about giving pleasure to your partner (from both sides). There is no shared pleasure, the only pleasure you get as the one giving oral sex is that you know you are pleasuring your partner. Neglecting that is pretty questionable in terms of choosing a dating partner. Not to mention that all three of your reasons aren't exactly viable ones to me - because all are possible to overcome, if you really wanted to.
None of these were excuses tho.
Yes, they are - since none of these are set in stone = you don't want to overcome them. That is the choice you made.
The title says why I'm not into, not why I won't do it. Back off.
I am fully aware. The point of me saying that they are possible to overcome was to tell you that the reason isn't that you are not into them. Else you would want to overcome. Instead you use them as an excuse of why YOU do not like to blow a guy. If you wanted to overcome them you wouldn't mind about these issues. Thus it is not those aspects that make you not being into blowjobs, but your very own mindset.
Yes it is.
tbh I don't really care for giving head either. getting is another story lol
Lol I haven't had it done
its great omg
Lol so I've heard.
Char you seem to be getting a lot of action on this myTake
Lol I expected it. So far nothing too bad tho! How have you been tho?
So busy I hadn't come by GAG in 2 weeks. Other then that great.
Glad to hear it!
Thanks
Lol @ girthy Gary
Look at that sexy Master badge! And yes, girthy Gary and lengthy Lenny. Which one are youuuu? 😂😂😂
No comment lol
Lmao I'm kidding.
I know ;)
True story. After a while my chick didn't want to give me a bj. I got frustrated and told her I'm going to find somebody who will. So we had this fight and she said she couldn't believe how anyone would leave somebody over that, and I told her I couldn't believe how somebody would let that be an issue. So long story short, we came to a middle ground, and that's when our open relationship started. It was over a bj ha ha
Lol niiice
OMG stop thinking ! !
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I CAN'T!!!
you're obviously with a wrong-un. . . . if you can't stop thinking - it just isn't gonna flow and be sexy. . . .
Heya!
I'm not into oral sex either :D And as such, I do not expect getting oral sex either.
We understand each other
My reason for that is because I find it unhygienic. I have a fine taste in my mouth, I won't even let dogs lick my lips.
Fair enough.
it really is hard having a small mouth. dentists keep telling you to open wider but you CAN'T
Omg yes!!! I hate it.
I don't really see the appeal either.
Yeah, same, also neck pain and sore trout. Personally I'm very prone to URI, my teeth are very sensitive and my gums get swollen often.
*throat
Yeah those could all prove to be problematic.
I've never been fan of fellatio, I love penetration.
Niiice
how about handjobs
Never really got the point of those.
smh, the point is to pleasure your lover... If you don't understand sex then don't have it.
@KFarhigh shut up
handjobs despite RA?
@jacquesvol lol smh
Love this. Not only are you brave for stating this, but you list some pretty good reasons for why oral can be uncomfortable. Small mouth check! It's just not everybody's cup of tea and it shouldn't have to be. For some people, it even feels degrading.
Thank you!
It differs from one person to another. I love giving oral sex to my wife, but she does not like receiving it.
I've never received. But it's not something I need.
You should some time! Some guys (like me) really enjoy giving.
Isn't that like crossing into no consent territory if you perform a sexual act on someone who doesn't like it
what dat mouf do doe?
Lmao, you first
apparently not much ;p loooveeee uuuu charrr bb <3
@teawrecks ouch
I'll show you mine if you show me yours ;-P
i lub you <3 <3
😂😂😂 are you a Larry or a Gary?
@teawrecks love youuu
You'll do it anyway :-P
Lol there are other holes bruh 😂
I always thought that the girls who don't give me oral don't care about my pleasure or me for that matter
Nah. That's not the case. For me anyways.
It's surprise me that it became normal these days
Why?
I just don't really get it
Allah Akbar!
hahahahahaha